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Gone With The Wind

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One of my favorite all time movies is Gone With The Wind (aka GWTW).  I was raised on that movie, having read the book back when I was in middle school.  Luckily for me, it’s a TV staple that comes on every year and whenever I get the chance, I watch it, even if it’s only in bits and pieces.  Because it’s a long 4 hour movie so watching it in its entirety is a time commitment.

Recently GWTW had been released for a limited viewing on the big screen in honor of its 80th anniversary.  My cousin and I went to see it and it was lovely!  Seated in a quiet theater, we watched the movie in its entirety while snacking on popcorn.

What a difference watching it makes on the big screen as opposed to television.  While I held back from reciting every line by heart aloud (because after watching it so many times I can!), I just sat back and enjoyed it.

I never tire of watching this movie.  It’s been a staple in my life for years.  As my Mom is from the South, there are ties that remind me even though that wasn’t her era.  I love the complexity of the characters and their relationships and how they evolve.  Scarlett has been my favorite character my whole life.  Her resilience has given me strength.  Her relationship with Rhett, though complicated, touched my soul.  The humanness of her character, the wholeness in which she was not perfect, did regrettable things and yet did what needed to be done to help her family adds to my understanding of her.  While Melanie was a kinder, more loving soul, she touched me as well for she understood Scarlett with all of her foibles.  While I may lean more towards Scarlett, it is Melanie whom I strive to be in life.  Someone who understands the loving humanness of those around her and someone who keeps her rose-colored glasses on because she loves with her whole heart.

I could go on and on about GWTW and how my viewing has evolved from a young girl first watching it to a woman of a certain age with experiences and choices that now resonate certain parts of the characters with me that didn’t in years past.

Have you ever seen Gone With The Wind?  Are you a big fan as I am?  Have you ever seen it on the big screen?  It is even more magical on the big screen for sure!

Shine On!

xo

Never Borrow Sorrow From Tomorrow

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Deal only with the present,

Never step into tomorrow,

For God asks us just to trust Him

 And to never borrow sorrow-

For the future is not ours to know

 And it may never be,

So let us live and give our best

And give it lavishly-

 For to meet tomorrow’s troubles

 Before they are even ours

 Is to anticipate the Savior

 And to doubt His all-wise powers-

 So let us be content to solve

 Our problems one by one,

 Asking nothing of tomorrow

Except “Thy Will be done.”

  ~  Helen Steiner Rice

 A good reminder for a quiet Sunday afternoon.  May your week ahead be lovely!

Keep shining your heartlights!

Shine On!

xo

Light, Love and Faith

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“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.

Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

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“I have decided to stick with love.  Hate is too great a burden to bear.” 

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“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”
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Quotes above by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. in honor of the holiday today.
I think we could all use a bit of inspiration!
Shine On!
xo

The Tough Part of Being Present With Dementia

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I’ve told you before that I have had loved ones with Alzheimer’s and Dementia.  If you’re a caregiver or relative of a loved one with the disease, you probably understand more than most people.  Because it’s hard when they get confused.  It’s unsettling when they live in the past.  It’s sad when they don’t remember.  It’s a gift you give to yourself and to them when you just stay present in their world, however it is, in that moment.  But the part that hurts the most is when they admit that they know that they’re confused.

To me, that’s the toughest part.  To witness their fear, their grief, their feeling of being lost when they blip into the present with that knowing.  I’ve written about it before here.  As many times as we’ve had these moments of realization that they vocalize, it’s still just as heartbreaking to me as it was the first time we talked about the disease.

I can fool myself into thinking that they are just in their own world, safe and sound, knowing that they are loved.  For the most part, that’s how they live.  But for the blessed few times that they are able to articulate that for this moment in time, they know that they are confused, that the words that they want to say are fleeting through their minds at rapid speeds and don’t always make it to be spoken, well, it just haunts me.

I visit a memory care facility often and have become friendly with many of the sweet residents.  We interact during every one of my visits and I have come to enjoy their company as well.  Each with her own distinct personality.  Each with her own level of understanding.  Each and every one simply wanting to be noticed, to enjoy human interaction and to be shown love.

Some are like the forgotten souls who simply exist and are cared for by strangers who love them.  Some of them don’t get many visitors which makes me sad.  Some have daily visitations from family who they don’t always remember.  Some have bonded with the other ‘golden girls’ with whom they share meals and others are simply existing separately.

The levels of understanding and interaction are as varied as the people themselves and with memory care illnesses, they are changeable at a moment’s notice.  One must continue to flow with the present state of mind and ability in order to connect with them.  Being a caregiver requires incredible patience and caring.  It’s an exhausting job, but one that is so gratifying.

I’m sorry I’ve gone off topic again. The words simply flow out of me when I write about the disease.  For it’s not just my loved ones who have it, but an increasing number of people in my life now.  There’s a bond among those who have loved ones with the disease.  We understand what we’re enduring and we share the ups and downs of the journey as it unfolds.

Alzheimer’s and Dementia keeps us on our toes with its ever changing fluidity.  One piece that remains constant is The Presents of Presence and the peace that comes with our choice to embrace this precious moment in time, every time.

Shine On!

xo

You Never Know Who You’ll Touch Just By Being You

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Recently, the world lost a feisty Mom (Rest In Peace Deanna).  While Deanna and I never met, her daughter and I have been blogging friends for years.  So when Rhonda announced her Mom’s passing, I received the privilege and honor of learning that “your blog was appreciated by her more than you’ll ever know.”

I can’t even begin to tell you how full that sweet comment made my heart.  I am humbled.  I am honored.  I am grateful.  I am even surprised for sometimes I wonder if anyone is reading – and then I feel badly that I don’t write as much as I once did.

Our time here on Earth is limited dear friends.  Even if we don’t understand how, we are all connected.  Love knows no bounds and can travel at light speed to heal and to share in the happy and sad times.  Our only legacy is the love and connections that we make while here.  We are remembered through the shared experiences we have with everyone.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

~ Maya Angelou

It’s a new year with many resolutions on the horizon.  Might I suggest one to you that is free, but its reward is endless?

Please shine your heartlights!

Please connect positively when you can.

Be the person who lights up the room with kindness and love.

Have patience and compassion.

Kindness and caring are more valuable than gold.

Smile and make the extra efforts in all that you do today.

You never know who you’ll touch…by just being you!

Shine On!
xo

A New Year Rabbit Rabbit Welcome 2019

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Welcome 2019 and let’s start this fine new year with our Rabbit Rabbit!

I want to thank you all for your kindness in the past and I look forward to making memories with all of you in 2019!  May you embrace the year ahead and write your twelve new chapters any way you wish!

Keep shining your heartlights to light up our world with love!  I believe in you!  We are all connected!  I wish you a year filled with abundant blessings!

Shine On!

xo

Christmas Is About Presence, Not Presents

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As we get older, our Christmas list becomes less about store bought gifts and more about those priceless feelings of togetherness.  I’ve found it’s the simplicity of spending quality time with family and friends that means more to me than anything else.  As the title above reads, it’s about PRESENCE and not PRESENTS.

Being present during the holidays helps to encourage and grow feelings of joy, peace and good cheer.  It’s sharing time and connecting with people.  It’s the simple joys of goodwill that we foster when we get out of the commercialism of Christmas and into the basic feeling of love to all.

Enjoy the simplicity of Christmas presence this year.  Open your hearts with gratitude for this moment in time.  Be thankful for each and every blessing and share your heartlights with all whom you encounter.  Life is good, even when it’s difficult and a loving presence is all we truly have.

Much love and Christmas Blessings to All!

Shine On!

xo

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