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Gone With The Wind

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One of my favorite all time movies is Gone With The Wind (aka GWTW).  I was raised on that movie, having read the book back when I was in middle school.  Luckily for me, it’s a TV staple that comes on every year and whenever I get the chance, I watch it, even if it’s only in bits and pieces.  Because it’s a long 4 hour movie so watching it in its entirety is a time commitment.

Recently GWTW had been released for a limited viewing on the big screen in honor of its 80th anniversary.  My cousin and I went to see it and it was lovely!  Seated in a quiet theater, we watched the movie in its entirety while snacking on popcorn.

What a difference watching it makes on the big screen as opposed to television.  While I held back from reciting every line by heart aloud (because after watching it so many times I can!), I just sat back and enjoyed it.

I never tire of watching this movie.  It’s been a staple in my life for years.  As my Mom is from the South, there are ties that remind me even though that wasn’t her era.  I love the complexity of the characters and their relationships and how they evolve.  Scarlett has been my favorite character my whole life.  Her resilience has given me strength.  Her relationship with Rhett, though complicated, touched my soul.  The humanness of her character, the wholeness in which she was not perfect, did regrettable things and yet did what needed to be done to help her family adds to my understanding of her.  While Melanie was a kinder, more loving soul, she touched me as well for she understood Scarlett with all of her foibles.  While I may lean more towards Scarlett, it is Melanie whom I strive to be in life.  Someone who understands the loving humanness of those around her and someone who keeps her rose-colored glasses on because she loves with her whole heart.

I could go on and on about GWTW and how my viewing has evolved from a young girl first watching it to a woman of a certain age with experiences and choices that now resonate certain parts of the characters with me that didn’t in years past.

Have you ever seen Gone With The Wind?  Are you a big fan as I am?  Have you ever seen it on the big screen?  It is even more magical on the big screen for sure!

Shine On!

xo

Rabbit Rabbit August First

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I can’t believe the date!  August 1st already?!  Time has flown by this summer.  I remember my Mom’s family always saying that time speeds up as we get older.  But here we are again dear friends!  The first of the month and you know what that means, don’t you?

Rabbit Rabbit, White Rabbit, White Rabbit!

So say it with me and enjoy all the blessings the month ahead brings to you and yours!

Shine On!

xo

Take A Lesson From Alzheimer’s And Dementia

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I’m a big proponent of passing along what I’ve learned through my various experiences.  Not to preach, but to connect with others who are enduring similar situations.  My blog is called The Presents of Presence which is all about being in the moment.  But as we all can attest, not every moment feels like a gift.  Sometimes we feel like we’ve been kicked instead.

With Alzheimer’s and Dementia, the lesson for me is clearly meant for my blog.  It’s in being in the present and finding the good in the now.  Finding the gift in connecting with others, no matter how brief it is, no matter how small it feels.

In my experience with my loved ones, I’ve learned that we can relax and just be and that this is, for the most part, how they now live their lives.  There’s almost like an amnesia from the dark past experiences that evaporates.  It is almost with childish simplicity that they live with the disease.  There’s not a lot of wondering what’s next or what happened before this very moment, except when sundowners hits.  It’s a focus on what’s right here that counts.  They live most fully in the now without reservation.

Think about that for a moment.  Can you wrap your mind around that?

What that means is no holding onto grudges, no revisiting conversations, no worrying about the future, no obsessing over the past, no self-criticism, no blaming someone else, I could go on and on.

It’s about, acceptance for the here and now in whatever form it takes.

I admire the people I know who have the disease for the courage to accept and be with the present at all times as I think that would be a hardship for many of us.  Yet, by their freedom, they are role models for us all.  Yes, I understand that they didn’t choose this disease.  Yes, I understand how heartbreaking it is when our loved ones have it.  But there’s a choice to mourn the loss by the disease or to find the positive in accepting what we deem unacceptable with the disease.

For me, I’ve got to find the positive and if that means, I have to change my way of thinking to expand it to gratitude for learning how to really find The Presents of Presence in every part of life’s journey and not just give it lip service, then so be it.

Shine On!

xo

 

Rest in Peace – Molly’s Movement

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My heartfelt sadness goes out to Joey Daley as his mom Molly passed away recently.  If you are a caregiver or have a loved one with Alzheimer’s or Dementia, please take a few moments to watch the video below and listen to Joey.  Molly had Lewy Body Dementia for ten years and through Joey’s chronicles, he has shown us Molly’s true courage and his as well.

There are so many inspiring people in our world.  Thank you Joey and Molly for being you!  A mother’s love and support never die and they stay with us forever.

Shine On!

xo

My Friend Lost Her Mom

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A friend of mine’s Mom recently passed away.  Today is the funeral.  It will be hard to say goodbye to a sweet, kind woman who lovingly raised her  family and whom I knew well.

When we lose a parent, no matter the relationship, it’s hard.  On many levels, it’s complicated and the tears that fall are mixed with so many emotions.  Even though we may know that the end is coming, it is still seemingly a shock to us when it happens and we’re left broken.  Even when one can say, She lived a good life and it was time for her to go home to God, it doesn’t change the fact that she has passed away and is no longer here on earth.  I don’t like to hear that saying.  I can’t help myself.  I know people mean well when they say it, but it still just feels wrong to me for some sensitive reason that I don’t think I can actually name.

I’ve lost a parent so I understand and now at this age, other friends have lost parents as well.  So we have formed a group of parentless adult children who are helping each other to endure the sadness.  We support each other.  We hug with the understanding of how it feels.  We help each other through the hard times.

Isn’t that what life is about?

Hug your loved ones today please…

Shine On!

xo