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To All The Moms

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Happy Mother’s Day to all the Moms!  To all those women who are caretakers of others, whether they are your own children, your stepchildren or your fur babies or even if you are taking care of someone else.  Today we celebrate YOU!  Because being a Mom is a blessing!

I am blessed to be a Mom too and my children have been wonderful to me, especially today.  I am blessed to have my Mom here on Earth as well and it was great to see her virtually through the magic of technology even though we couldn’t visit in the same room.  The love that Mom radiates always envelopes me with a comforting hug.

Because the secret to being a good Mom is simple:  LOVE!  When we love ourselves and others, we are nurturing and love is the key to that precious feeling.  Unconditional love, without barriers, is the blessing beyond all other love.

So today, I feel tremendously grateful for the love I feel from my children, my Mom and from all the other women in my life who have reached out in kindness to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day.  We all unite in this moment together as women.

Take a few minutes to make your Mom feel special today.  Even if she is not here anymore, you can send up a prayer of appreciation for all she did for you.  She brought you into this world with a loving heart and did her best for you.

God Bless all the Moms today…Keep shining your heart lights!

Shine On!

xo

The Lord Is My Shepherd

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A little Sunday prayer to begin this lovely day!  Do you know this psalm?  It is one that my Mom taught us when we were little and we have taught our children to continue to tradition as it brings us all such peace and joy.

When I sit mindfully and present, sometimes I receive a song in my head or a prayer and this came to me this morning.  So in honor of my Mom’s bedtime ritual for us as children, I thought it was appropriate to post!

We still say this psalm with our Mom and it brings us all great peace.  May it bring you and yours peace today as well.

Shine On!

xo

 

Make A Joyful Noise

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I awoke this morning hearing Psalm 100 in my mind.  It is one that my Mom taught us as little children and one that we all still say together.  Being that it’s a Sunday, I thought it would be the perfect post!

Do you know this Psalm?  I find it gives much comfort when I say it.  Perhaps that’s because it reminds me of being a little girl.  At bedtime, my Mom would sit with my sister and me, helping us to memorize this Psalm and others that she thought were important for us to learn.

Do you have any favorite prayers or Psalms that you recite or remember from childhood?  Please share!

Shine your heartlights and make a joyful noise today!

Shine On!

xo

 

 

Ode To November

Ode to November

November first flew past me without a Rabbit Rabbit post, but here’s a quick reminder in case you’re new or couldn’t remember why I say Rabbit Rabbit.  Did you miss me?  Because I’ve missed all of you and I hope you are doing well!

November is a busy month as we begin planning for the holidays.  It’s also a melancholy month as we remember those who have passed.  November first is All Saint’s Day and coincidentally the birthdate of my late Father.  November fourth marks the passing of my beloved Uncle as well.

Onward sparks the holiday of Thanksgiving where gratitude for who we have in our lives, both past and present, and for all the blessings that have been bestowed on us are appreciated.  Family meals and traditions continue through the rest of the year with much anticipation.  Are you beginning to think about the holiday season which is coming upon us with rapid speed?

We have a limited time here on this planet and we really never know how long we have, so we need to make the most of today, this precious present moment, for that’s all we can truly count on.  Embrace those loving souls in your life for whom you are grateful.  Take time to quiet your mind and listen to the inner wisdom that you already have.  Reach out to help others and be kind.  Find the gratitude for all you have in your life because those little things sometimes mean more that you’ll ever know.

I’m reminded of a Bible quote my Mom says,

“This is the day the Lord has made.  Let us rejoice and be glad.” 

To me, it sounds like the perfect plan for a blessed Sunday so I thought I’d pass it along to you too.  May your day be filled with precious moments of love, kindness, health and goodness.

Shine On!

xo

Gone With The Wind

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One of my favorite all time movies is Gone With The Wind (aka GWTW).  I was raised on that movie, having read the book back when I was in middle school.  Luckily for me, it’s a TV staple that comes on every year and whenever I get the chance, I watch it, even if it’s only in bits and pieces.  Because it’s a long 4 hour movie so watching it in its entirety is a time commitment.

Recently GWTW had been released for a limited viewing on the big screen in honor of its 80th anniversary.  My cousin and I went to see it and it was lovely!  Seated in a quiet theater, we watched the movie in its entirety while snacking on popcorn.

What a difference watching it makes on the big screen as opposed to television.  While I held back from reciting every line by heart aloud (because after watching it so many times I can!), I just sat back and enjoyed it.

I never tire of watching this movie.  It’s been a staple in my life for years.  As my Mom is from the South, there are ties that remind me even though that wasn’t her era.  I love the complexity of the characters and their relationships and how they evolve.  Scarlett has been my favorite character my whole life.  Her resilience has given me strength.  Her relationship with Rhett, though complicated, touched my soul.  The humanness of her character, the wholeness in which she was not perfect, did regrettable things and yet did what needed to be done to help her family adds to my understanding of her.  While Melanie was a kinder, more loving soul, she touched me as well for she understood Scarlett with all of her foibles.  While I may lean more towards Scarlett, it is Melanie whom I strive to be in life.  Someone who understands the loving humanness of those around her and someone who keeps her rose-colored glasses on because she loves with her whole heart.

I could go on and on about GWTW and how my viewing has evolved from a young girl first watching it to a woman of a certain age with experiences and choices that now resonate certain parts of the characters with me that didn’t in years past.

Have you ever seen Gone With The Wind?  Are you a big fan as I am?  Have you ever seen it on the big screen?  It is even more magical on the big screen for sure!

Shine On!

xo

Rabbit Rabbit August First

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I can’t believe the date!  August 1st already?!  Time has flown by this summer.  I remember my Mom’s family always saying that time speeds up as we get older.  But here we are again dear friends!  The first of the month and you know what that means, don’t you?

Rabbit Rabbit, White Rabbit, White Rabbit!

So say it with me and enjoy all the blessings the month ahead brings to you and yours!

Shine On!

xo

Take A Lesson From Alzheimer’s And Dementia

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I’m a big proponent of passing along what I’ve learned through my various experiences.  Not to preach, but to connect with others who are enduring similar situations.  My blog is called The Presents of Presence which is all about being in the moment.  But as we all can attest, not every moment feels like a gift.  Sometimes we feel like we’ve been kicked instead.

With Alzheimer’s and Dementia, the lesson for me is clearly meant for my blog.  It’s in being in the present and finding the good in the now.  Finding the gift in connecting with others, no matter how brief it is, no matter how small it feels.

In my experience with my loved ones, I’ve learned that we can relax and just be and that this is, for the most part, how they now live their lives.  There’s almost like an amnesia from the dark past experiences that evaporates.  It is almost with childish simplicity that they live with the disease.  There’s not a lot of wondering what’s next or what happened before this very moment, except when sundowners hits.  It’s a focus on what’s right here that counts.  They live most fully in the now without reservation.

Think about that for a moment.  Can you wrap your mind around that?

What that means is no holding onto grudges, no revisiting conversations, no worrying about the future, no obsessing over the past, no self-criticism, no blaming someone else, I could go on and on.

It’s about, acceptance for the here and now in whatever form it takes.

I admire the people I know who have the disease for the courage to accept and be with the present at all times as I think that would be a hardship for many of us.  Yet, by their freedom, they are role models for us all.  Yes, I understand that they didn’t choose this disease.  Yes, I understand how heartbreaking it is when our loved ones have it.  But there’s a choice to mourn the loss by the disease or to find the positive in accepting what we deem unacceptable with the disease.

For me, I’ve got to find the positive and if that means, I have to change my way of thinking to expand it to gratitude for learning how to really find The Presents of Presence in every part of life’s journey and not just give it lip service, then so be it.

Shine On!

xo

 

Rest in Peace – Molly’s Movement

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My heartfelt sadness goes out to Joey Daley as his mom Molly passed away recently.  If you are a caregiver or have a loved one with Alzheimer’s or Dementia, please take a few moments to watch the video below and listen to Joey.  Molly had Lewy Body Dementia for ten years and through Joey’s chronicles, he has shown us Molly’s true courage and his as well.

There are so many inspiring people in our world.  Thank you Joey and Molly for being you!  A mother’s love and support never die and they stay with us forever.

Shine On!

xo

My Friend Lost Her Mom

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A friend of mine’s Mom recently passed away.  Today is the funeral.  It will be hard to say goodbye to a sweet, kind woman who lovingly raised her  family and whom I knew well.

When we lose a parent, no matter the relationship, it’s hard.  On many levels, it’s complicated and the tears that fall are mixed with so many emotions.  Even though we may know that the end is coming, it is still seemingly a shock to us when it happens and we’re left broken.  Even when one can say, She lived a good life and it was time for her to go home to God, it doesn’t change the fact that she has passed away and is no longer here on earth.  I don’t like to hear that saying.  I can’t help myself.  I know people mean well when they say it, but it still just feels wrong to me for some sensitive reason that I don’t think I can actually name.

I’ve lost a parent so I understand and now at this age, other friends have lost parents as well.  So we have formed a group of parentless adult children who are helping each other to endure the sadness.  We support each other.  We hug with the understanding of how it feels.  We help each other through the hard times.

Isn’t that what life is about?

Hug your loved ones today please…

Shine On!

xo