It is a quiet morning here. The Christmas tree is brightly lit with white twinkly lights. The cats are nestled around it and the children are still in bed. Sipping my coffee, in the early morning stillness, my mind is melancholy. The week between Christmas and New Years has become a relaxing one for me. One when I feel tremendously present, blessed and grateful for all of those whom have touched my life.
This year, my Mom isn’t here and the tears began falling. Silent reminders of a life well-lived and with gratitude for being her daughter. I miss my Mom for many reasons, but most of all for her unconditional love and kindness. While none of us are perfect, her love and her heartlight were always shining. She is my role model when it comes to loving people for who they are with unconditional love and understanding.
I found the poem below and it brought me much peace so I thought I’d share it with you. Hold your loved ones close and find the goodness always.
She Is Gone
You can shed tears that she is gone or you can smile because she has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back or you can open your eyes and see all she’s left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her or you can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember her and only that she’s gone or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back or you can do what she’d want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
If you are someone who had a good relationship with your Mom, you may understand how I’m feeling today. My Mom passed away over a month ago and while in my heart I know she’s in Heaven, I miss her. There’s an emptiness in my life lately because she was such a huge part of my life.
She has visited me in various forms to let me know that she’s here with me in spirit. For those that understand what I’m saying, perhaps you’ve had similar experiences as well. I’d love to hear about them if you’re willing to share so please feel free to write in the comments or reach out via email if you’d prefer a more private conversation.
Grief is a funny thing isn’t it? It sneaks up on us from time to time in the most surprising ways. My Mom liked Talbots clothing so when I received a catalogue from there, I thought of what Mom might like and then it hit me. I don’t need to buy Mom anything because she’s not here on this earth anymore. Tears sprung to my eyes and for a moment the bereft feeling hit me hard. I wiped the tears away and then sent up a prayer to her.
Then the other day I had a question and knew my Mom would know the answer. Sadly, I realized I can’t ask her and that I probably would never know the answer to that particular question because she’s not here. Again, the tears fell.
I’ve learned that losing a loved one and the grieving process that follows in order to heal takes time. It’s not easy as you may know from experience. Unexpected memories pop up at times that can bring up a fresh round of tears, but in time with healing, we can fondly remember the good times and be grateful for our loved one’s presence in our lives.
For we carry their presence in our hearts as the legacy of who they were stays alive in the memories of those who are still here. Gone but not forgotten. Isn’t that the way we are remembered?
I want to thank you for all of your love and kindness in response to my Mom’s passing. We are still transitioning into the reality that our Mom is no longer here on Earth. However, I do know in my heart that her presence will stay with me as we were so connected and that is a bond of unconditional love that continues. I am truly grateful for all of the blessings that have been bestowed on me by her love and the love that she had for everyone.
As the new month of August unfolds, I ask that you hold your loved ones close. Speak with kindness and give from your generous hearts. Receive the kindnesses that come to you with gratitude. Pass along your smiles to all. Spread love, patience and generosity of spirit. Our world needs healing and healing begins with us.
I am sorry I have not been writing often, nor reading your posts. Please know I have missed you all and hold you dearly in my heart. God Bless.
My Mom passed away last week. We were blessed to have been able to be with her during the last few days of her life and even as she took her final breath, my sister and I were there with her. While it is heart-wrenching to watch a loved one pass away before your eyes, we felt honored that she allowed us to accompany her as she transitioned from the earthly plane to Heaven. Even as I write this to you, tears are pouring down my face because I believe that we all understand the universal grief of losing a loved one.
I have written before about my Dad’s passing years ago and occasionally about my Mom over the years. While losing my Dad was very hard, losing my Mom has been even devastating. Perhaps it is that a Mother’s love for her daughter is unconditional or on a deeper level, I feel bereft by losing my Mother-ship, physically from this earthly plane. My Mom’s love knew no bounds. She never tired of telling me how much she loved me. I never questioned her love for me which was a huge blessing for which I am grateful. She even signed every letter with “I love you, Always and Forever (A & F)” lest I forget. I never forgot.
Even in the end, her heartlight was shining and it is that beacon of light that inspires me daily. Her innate unconditional love for her family, friends and loved ones never dimmed. Her genuine smile and authentic love and caring for everyone touched many hearts during her lifetime.
Mom role-modeled the importance of kindness and connecting with others. She loved to have fun, to laugh and to be silly. Her infinite patience made her a beloved elementary teacher. Her faith in God and the comfort she felt by reading the Bible sustained her. She passed onto us all of those traits and more.
What a legacy of love to leave here on this Earth! The outpouring of kindness, the sharing of beautiful memories from others and the compliments about my Mom have sustained me this past week for hers was a life well-loved. I can only pray that when it is my time that my children will have a similar experience. I shall continue to work diligently to keep Mom’s heartlight legacy shining with love for all.
Thank you for reading today. I extend my loving embrace to all of you who know this grief personally, of losing a beloved person in your life, especially a Mom who only gave unconditional love to all and accepted everyone for who they are.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the Moms! To all those women who are caretakers of others, whether they are your own children, your stepchildren or your fur babies or even if you are taking care of someone else. Today we celebrate YOU! Because being a Mom is a blessing!
I am blessed to be a Mom too and my children have been wonderful to me, especially today. I am blessed to have my Mom here on Earth as well and it was great to see her virtually through the magic of technology even though we couldn’t visit in the same room. The love that Mom radiates always envelopes me with a comforting hug.
Because the secret to being a good Mom is simple: LOVE! When we love ourselves and others, we are nurturing and love is the key to that precious feeling. Unconditional love, without barriers, is the blessing beyond all other love.
So today, I feel tremendously grateful for the love I feel from my children, my Mom and from all the other women in my life who have reached out in kindness to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day. We all unite in this moment together as women.
Take a few minutes to make your Mom feel special today. Even if she is not here anymore, you can send up a prayer of appreciation for all she did for you. She brought you into this world with a loving heart and did her best for you.
God Bless all the Moms today…Keep shining your heart lights!
A little Sunday prayer to begin this lovely day! Do you know this psalm? It is one that my Mom taught us when we were little and we have taught our children to continue to tradition as it brings us all such peace and joy.
When I sit mindfully and present, sometimes I receive a song in my head or a prayer and this came to me this morning. So in honor of my Mom’s bedtime ritual for us as children, I thought it was appropriate to post!
We still say this psalm with our Mom and it brings us all great peace. May it bring you and yours peace today as well.
I awoke this morning hearing Psalm 100 in my mind. It is one that my Mom taught us as little children and one that we all still say together. Being that it’s a Sunday, I thought it would be the perfect post!
Do you know this Psalm? I find it gives much comfort when I say it. Perhaps that’s because it reminds me of being a little girl. At bedtime, my Mom would sit with my sister and me, helping us to memorize this Psalm and others that she thought were important for us to learn.
Do you have any favorite prayers or Psalms that you recite or remember from childhood? Please share!
Shine your heartlights and make a joyful noise today!
November first flew past me without a Rabbit Rabbit post, but here’s a quick reminder in case you’re new or couldn’t remember why I say Rabbit Rabbit. Did you miss me? Because I’ve missed all of you and I hope you are doing well!
November is a busy month as we begin planning for the holidays. It’s also a melancholy month as we remember those who have passed. November first is All Saint’s Day and coincidentally the birthdate of my late Father. November fourth marks the passing of my beloved Uncle as well.
Onward sparks the holiday of Thanksgiving where gratitude for who we have in our lives, both past and present, and for all the blessings that have been bestowed on us are appreciated. Family meals and traditions continue through the rest of the year with much anticipation. Are you beginning to think about the holiday season which is coming upon us with rapid speed?
We have a limited time here on this planet and we really never know how long we have, so we need to make the most of today, this precious present moment, for that’s all we can truly count on. Embrace those loving souls in your life for whom you are grateful. Take time to quiet your mind and listen to the inner wisdom that you already have. Reach out to help others and be kind. Find the gratitude for all you have in your life because those little things sometimes mean more that you’ll ever know.
I’m reminded of a Bible quote my Mom says,
“This is the day the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad.”
To me, it sounds like the perfect plan for a blessed Sunday so I thought I’d pass it along to you too. May your day be filled with precious moments of love, kindness, health and goodness.
One of my favorite all time movies is Gone With The Wind (aka GWTW). I was raised on that movie, having read the book back when I was in middle school. Luckily for me, it’s a TV staple that comes on every year and whenever I get the chance, I watch it, even if it’s only in bits and pieces. Because it’s a long 4 hour movie so watching it in its entirety is a time commitment.
Recently GWTW had been released for a limited viewing on the big screen in honor of its 80th anniversary. My cousin and I went to see it and it was lovely! Seated in a quiet theater, we watched the movie in its entirety while snacking on popcorn.
What a difference watching it makes on the big screen as opposed to television. While I held back from reciting every line by heart aloud (because after watching it so many times I can!), I just sat back and enjoyed it.
I never tire of watching this movie. It’s been a staple in my life for years. As my Mom is from the South, there are ties that remind me even though that wasn’t her era. I love the complexity of the characters and their relationships and how they evolve. Scarlett has been my favorite character my whole life. Her resilience has given me strength. Her relationship with Rhett, though complicated, touched my soul. The humanness of her character, the wholeness in which she was not perfect, did regrettable things and yet did what needed to be done to help her family adds to my understanding of her. While Melanie was a kinder, more loving soul, she touched me as well for she understood Scarlett with all of her foibles. While I may lean more towards Scarlett, it is Melanie whom I strive to be in life. Someone who understands the loving humanness of those around her and someone who keeps her rose-colored glasses on because she loves with her whole heart.
I could go on and on about GWTW and how my viewing has evolved from a young girl first watching it to a woman of a certain age with experiences and choices that now resonate certain parts of the characters with me that didn’t in years past.
Have you ever seen Gone With The Wind? Are you a big fan as I am? Have you ever seen it on the big screen? It is even more magical on the big screen for sure!