Hold loosely the presence of love today. Do not hold tightly to old traditions, but instead go with the flow of being present. Allow the day to flow freely, evolving divinely to incorporate all the blessings of this beautiful season of Christ’s birth.
Make your greatest gift your presence with your loved ones. Pay attention to the moment in the conversation. Hug with heartfelt joy for life is precious and nothing is ever guaranteed. Speak with kindness and love in your heart.
The above is what I began channeling before the Christmas Day festivities began and I never finished it unfortunately. But since today is the day after Christmas and the spirit is still in the air, let me tell you about my day.
It was filled with love and connections with my family. My greatest gift for which I’m ever grateful was the presence of my sons and the beautiful crystal angel present which they gave me for Christmas. Through the chaos of circumstances, one bell continued to ring true – we are a family, we are bonded through good times and bad and we support each other’s healing with respect, love and kindness. Our accepting open hearts and ability to share our feelings triumphs all worldly goods. Our presence together speaks volumes in a world which is littered with distractions. Unmasking the superficial, we are really ourselves – our gift to all. We shine our heartlights with loving presence. We hold dearly truth and open mindedness. We bond together with love in our hearts.
That Christmas presence pervaded the celebrations. When feeling weary from outside forces, we sought shelter together. We understood each other in profound ways. Kindness in act, word and deed and living at the higher vibrations was the melody on which we floated. We chose the gift of presence with each other and that’s the greatest present of all.
What comes to mind when you think inheritance? Is it inheriting money? Eye color? Personality traits? Grandma’s silver? Family treasures? Cancer genes? Mental illness? Or something else? Is what you feel you’ve inherited a treasure or a curse?
Do you ever think about what your family will feel they’ve inherited from you? I think it’s a valid question to think about as we live our lives. What will you be remembered for? Will it be treasured or cursed?
I know these are a lot of profound questions to ask yourself, but they are relevant, not only to The Daily Post, but to ourselves and to those around us. What will you leave behind? What do you want to leave behind?
For me, I want my children to remember me with joyful memories of a loving mom who taught them to love and to honor their family. I want them to inherit the understanding that comes with loving people for all the good and the quirks of each individual. I want them to inherit the mentality that the glass is half full and how each day holds miracles – that hardships are life lessons which make us stronger, help us to bond and to learn how to love even more deeply. I want them to inherit a good sense of wholeness in health, mind, body and spirit. I want them to inherit the knowing that comes with faith in themselves, in others, in God and with our Divine Universal code of love. I want them to inherit an earth filled with peace, abundance for all and kindness. I want them to inherit the blessings that have been bestowed on me, the amazing relationships that I’ve made and the soul family who are not necessarily biological. I want them to inherit whatever wealth I have left in order to help them to succeed. I want them to inherit a lifetime of knowing that they are loved from my whole heart.
I pray they will look back on my life, with all its peaks and valleys, knowing that I did the best I could to be the best person I could be. I want them to be proud of themselves and of me. I want them to remember The Presents of Presence.
I love the quote: Home is where the heart is because it’s simple and direct. Home is anywhere you find yourself comfortably surrounded by love. Be it a hovel, an old drafty farmhouse, a small nest or a McMansion. It’s home because your loved ones are with you.
It’s about being together and being able to be YOU with all of your goodness, your quirks and your insecurities, knowing you are loved for who you are. Home is the comfort in being accepted for yourself. Home is knowing you are safe in being vulnerable there. Home is knowing there are arms to hold you in a strong hug with support and kindness, gentle kisses and soothing words.
There’s no place like home dear friends. May you remember with gratitude the home and loved ones with whom you share your life. No matter where you travel, near or far, may you always have a home filled with love and kindness.
Have you ever heard of the sandwich generation? It’s when you are a parent who takes care of your own children and your own parents at the same time. Sandwiched in between the generations and responsible for them all at the same time. At least, that’s my attempt at its definition.
I should know…I’ve been doing it for awhile now.
I have friends who are beginning the journey of helping their elderly parents and it’s hard. Hard for the parents to let go and to allow their children to help them and hard for all to realize that life is imminently shorter than we plan for when we are young. The changes that occur as our parents get older are sometimes unimaginable and hard for them and for us to fathom and navigate. I mean, what parent ever wants to give up control to their children? We are the parents after all. (said in the parental authoritative voice!)
But it happens. If we’re lucky to still have our parents and our children be able to have a relationship (and if we still have a good relationship with our parents as well), please remember to feel blessed. Because sometimes as the years go on, family difficulties interfere and our relationships deteriorate.
But in a perfect world, we may be blessed to take care of our parents as they took care of us. This goes for anyone really in the older generations, the aunts and uncles, the older cousins, etc.
So can I give you a little advice especially now that Thanksgiving and the holiday season are arriving?
Do your best to include them. Make the effort to go get them to bring them to the family get togethers if they are close enough.
Make them feel important.
Watch to see how they are doing physically, mentally and emotionally.
You are now the caretaker so be aware of subtle changes and if you see some, gently approach the subject.
Get Mom’s favorite recipes now while she remembers them.
Take pictures! I can’t stress this enough! Get photos of the family together.
Video tape them telling stories or singing or whatever memory you want to keep. Someday you may wish you could hear their voices again or remember how they sang their favorite song or danced the watusi!
Be patient. Getting older is not for sissies and they are doing the best they can.
Role model kindness because your children they will remember how you treated your family.
Be affectionate with them if that’s your family style. There’s nothing better than taking that extra moment to hug a parent or family member. They will appreciate it as will you.
Tell them how much you care and love them. During Thanksgiving you can give thanks to them for all that they did for you.
Include them in favorite memories that showcase their love.
Be aware that as we get older, it gets harder to remember, to move and to hear other people.
Take the precious time to talk with them and to ask and to listen attentively to whatever they have to say.
Try not to put them in the corner and out of the way if they don’t want that because keeping them actively involved helps them immensely.
Be kinder as you won’t ever regret it later.
Take it all in stride and be patient with yourself as well.
Smile and know in your heart you are doing a great job.
Count your blessings that they are still here to spend time with you.
Enjoy each and every moment for life goes by in a flash!
I wish you all a wonderful holiday season! I am thankful for my Mom and for those in the older generations of our family. Having loved ones pass away in the last few years has been hard and I pray that you will keep in mind that every moment spent together is precious.
I’ve seen this Native American parable before, but I think it bears repeating, so here it goes:
A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.
One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.
The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”
The grandfather quietly replies, “The one you feed.”
We can use this parable in our daily life by which story we feed our souls, especially when life gets challenging and we feel like we are alone. We can become depressed and angry for the circumstances we find ourselves in or we can feed ourselves and the situation with love, kindness and forgiveness and move beyond the hurt.
Just like the parable suggests,
it’s all in the wolf that you choose to feed.
It is that simple dear friends. Come on, hold my hand. Let’s feed the good wolf together and make this world a better place for us all!
I buy certain flowers each season and for summer, it’s always impatiens. There’s something about them that brings me joy. Perhaps it’s because they are good reminders to me of how to grow in this life and how to recover when life hands me a drought of goodness.
Here’s a photo of my red impatiens the other day. Scorching heat and my not tending them as I should along with no rain for a few days made them look a bit dreary. Like humans, when we don’t meditate and nourish ourselves, we become a bit downtrodden and sad. However, if we realized that all we needed was caring and nourishment, we could come back from:
The non-green thumbed gardener that I am just watered my sweet impatiens and Voila! They bounced back beautifully within hours!
Wouldn’t it be nice if we humans could be healed and bounce back from depression, sadness and even stony unforgiveness by a little watering, some kindness and love?
We can, dear friends. It’s possible to be like the impatiens. We can nourish ourselves and others with love, forgiveness and understanding and perk up! Imagine if we, as a world, all watered eachother’s souls with nourishment instead of hatred and hurt?
We would have a lush, beautiful, spiritual world of love!
Easter is a natural time of rebirth. As Spring begins its season of growth, so do we! Gratitude for blessings and delighting in the wondrous emergence of flowers and trees budding in the Spring flows joy to our hearts! How lovely for the change of seasons!
May you enjoy a few moments of quiet today to fill your heart with love and gratitude. Pray, meditate and just enjoy this moment in time. Fill your day with love, reach out to family and friends in kindness and be gently reminded of the great gift that is today.