“It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.”
― Rose Kennedy
How’s this for a quote? I liked it at first I must admit. But then, as I allowed the words to sink in and thought of my own wounds from living more than 40 years, enduring breast cancer and losing loved ones, I felt like it was a bit controversial too. Perhaps I am being over-sensitive today.
What do you think?
Does it depend on the wounds ~ the type, the severity, the age? Or is it an all-encompassing a wound, is a wound, is a wound? Or does it depend upon the person who is wounded?
I have wounds, scars which train track across my body. Scars from breast cancer surgeries, from pregnancy, from life. The physical ones that you can see if I were to show you. I have pains from those scars and surgeries that never quite go away. A dull throb that even though I am aware of every minute of everyday, I have gotten used to ~ the pains have lessened but have never gone away.
I have mental and emotional scars as well. I think we all do. I’ve found that in forgiving, I am given peace in my life, in my spirit, in myself. That was a gift to me.
It’s kind of like the sadness which can permeate life. I’m sad for all that I have lost, but again, the pain has lessened, but it has never gone away. I do my best to keep it in check and I believe I overcome it most days. Gratitude for the blessings in life helps immensely. Accepting and transitioning to the new normal after a tragedy helps this process as well.
But it’s never fully gone. It can be a gentle reminder or it can be a gaping hole in your life. You choose how you deal with your own wounds. It’s one of the perks of being you. You can allow the wound to fester, to infect and to override any happiness in your life. Or you can allow it to settle into your being, a gentle or not so gentle reminder of what you’ve endured, the power that you have within you, that inner strength that has led you to continue on living this life.
We all have challenges. We all carry wounds. We can allow those wounds to barricade ourselves into a caged life of loneliness, fear and sadness or we can reach out beyond our wounds to connect with others, to understand that simple connection of life and to grow with it, to turn the wound into a positive, into a way of digging deeper in to our soul’s purpose and to align ourselves with love.
It’s up to you.
You are not your wounds. YOU are deeper than the wounds you’ve suffered.
YOU are LOVE.