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Alzheimer’s Disease and Telling a Loved One About a Death

alzheimersflowerMy Mom recently lost her sister with whom she lived in a memory care facility.  It broke my heart to deliver the news to her, so I remained mum for a while and didn’t tell her.  She believed our Aunt was still alive in the hospital for longer than she was, as we contemplated how to tell her the sad news.

But God and the Universe had different plans.  For you see, her resident friends who knew Aunt Mable were also concerned about Aunt Mable and wondered when she would return home.  Mom was told that she was still in the hospital getting treatment, but in truth, she had passed away.  Little could any of us know that one little lady, who is wheelchair bound, blind and has hallucinations along with memory issues would be able to succeed in calling the hospital in hopes that Mom could talk with Aunt Mable and get more information.  A miracle unto itself that she accomplished this with her cell phone.  Sadly, she got the news that Mable had passed away and in a loving manner told Mom.  I know she thought she was helping, but her announcement wasn’t what we had planned.  We were trying to get to Mom to tell her ourselves in person.

Looking through the eyes of an observer, this little lady’s heart was in the right place.  She saw our Mom upset and wanted to help and when I see the situation with a loving heart, I am grateful.  But in that moment when Mom reached out to me, sobbing that she had heard that her sister had passed away and was frantic, I felt powerless.  I had wanted so much to shield Mom from the pain and be there when she found out in order to help her through her grief.  In the end though, life unfolded as it was meant to be.

It is hard for anyone with memory issues to remember, let alone to keep the information that a loved one has passed away, for their ability to remember fades and rallies, moment to moment.  The acceptance of what feels unacceptable (a death of a sister) is too much for the mind to handle and it fades, only to return after a bit and the grief begins again.  It’s a roller coaster for all involved as we try so desperately to soothe a broken heart as the knowledge comes and goes, along with the grief.

There’s no easy way and from my experiences, the only rule is to keep a loving heart, flow with the moment’s understanding and continue to offer love and support to Mom.  That’s all we can do in every situation quite honestly.  Be open, be kind and love.

May you find your Sunday to be filled with peace and love, this is my wish always.

Shine On!

xo

 

 

 

Be Beautiful Inside…

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Be beautiful inside,

in your heart,

with the lasting charm

of a gentle and quiet spirit,

which is so precious to God.

1 Peter 3-4

I saw this quote printed recently and I adored it!  So of course, I had to share it with you.  This is how I try to live my life…I hope you find it inspirational as well.

Sweet dreams.  I miss you all and I hope I can find time to blog more in the future.

Happy Sunday!

Shine On!

xo

 

Sunday Rose

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That which God said to the rose,

and caused it to laugh

in full-blown beauty,

He said to my heart,

and made it a

hundred times more beautiful.

~ Rumi

Just a little inspiration on a Sunday evening.  Blessings to all of you!

I see your heartlight from here!
Shine On!
xo

What’s In a Name?

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Hello…my name is MUD!

When I was in grammar school I knew a boy named John who wanted to be called Mud…so we all called him Mud!  I don’t recall the reason why he wanted that nickname, but he did.  It wasn’t a bully nickname, it was one he’d picked for himself.  So when I saw this card in my SendOutCards catalog, I giggled and immediately thought of John.  Funny how something so simple can immediately bring you back to childhood in an instant!

But the real reason for my post today isn’t about mud…it’s about names!

So I ask you, what’s in a name?  When you are introduced to someone and you tell them your name, how do you feel about it?  Because I want to know if you like your name ~ the one your parents gave to you ~ the one that’s on your original birth certificate.   Not the one that perhaps you go by (like Mud) but the legal one.  It’s interesting to me how something so special, so intimate to our whole lives is picked by someone else and we have nothing to do about it.

My Mom tells the story that she and my Dad were walking through a cemetery in Canada and happened upon a gravestone which had the name Yvonne on it.  Since my family has some French ancestry, they decided to name me Yvonne.  It’s a name which I like and I dislike at the same time, but one that I’ve had now for so many years, that I can’t imagine any other name.  For awhile, and actually during one job in my 20’s,  I went by the name Tommie which I thought to be different and cute (and because shockingly there was another Yvonne in the office!)  In fact, I still have my business cards which read Tommie and all of my clients knew me only as Tommie as did the office staff.  The only people who knew my real name was Yvonne was the payroll department and my boss who had asked if I could use a middle name instead.  For me, it was fun to have a different name for awhile and akin to playing dress up as a young girl!  It was fun, exciting and I could change my outer image a bit to match what I thought my inner Tommie was!

I like my name because it’s different but I don’t like it because it’s different and if that doesn’t make any sense to you, don’t worry because it makes no sense to me.  It’s simply how I feel and sometimes feelings don’t need to make sense!  I have thought of changing my name like my good friend Amy who when we were 18, had her legal name changed to Lindsay because she wanted to change it.  In fact, her parents paid for the change and began calling her Lindsay!  More than 20 years later, I call her Lindsay, but sometimes the name Amy slips out simply because most of my childhood memories are with her being named Amy.

So what’s in a name?  Do you like your name? 

Have you changed your name?  Do you have a nickname like Mud? 🙂 

I find it so fascinating so I’d love it if you would please share!

Shine On ~ whatever your name may be!

xo

A little Romeo and Juliet for you ~ Enjoy a bit of the 1936 balcony scene!

Sunday’s Inspirational Gal

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This morning, I happened upon the story of an inspiring 16 year old Irish gal who in September of 2012, was awarded the People of the Year Award in Dublin, Ireland.  Her story can be found on her website which I included below ~ as well as many pictures from her FB page which you can find at http://www.nolimbsnolimits.net/ which is her official website!  Joanne was born with a rare physical disability called Total Amelia which means she was born without all four limbs even though there is no medical explanation for this occurrence.  Neither Joanne nor her family have ever allowed this to hold her back.  In fact, she is quite inspiring and I highly recommend that you click on her website above!

Words fail me in telling you her story, so I’ll let Joanne do it on her website.  Please, take a moment today to fill up your spiritual cup with a dose of love, extraordinary human spirit and endless possibility!  The word is not impossible, it’s…

I’m Possible!

Shine On!

xo

Below are pictures of Joanne with her family and her dog Sally from her FB page and her video!

Bonsai Inspiration

We are, all of us, works in progress…

I wanted something gentle, relaxing and inspirational,

just an easy way to enjoy the last vestiges of the weekend.

Happy Sunday to YOU!

xo

Happiness…

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You live longer once you realize that any time spent being unhappy is wasted. Ruth E. Renkl
I had an epiphany recently which I thought I would share as it goes along so beautifully with this card, summer and life!  This year I declared was MY YEAR, but it hasn’t worked out the way I planned it to at all.  But then, sometimes the Best Miracles arrive without fanfare, without warning and certainly not within our control.
I am a worrier at times and I know the saying, “worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair ~ it gets you nowhere even though you keep rocking” or something like that… I can’t ever seem to get the exact quote, but please tell me that you get what I’m trying to say?  Anyway, as a family, we often take our boat out to an island which is about an hour away.  It is an ever popular spot amongst boaters as it marries the bay and the ocean via an island which allows you to anchor nearby and enjoy the day.
My thoughts and life have been changing this year and the proof was in the day yesterday that I’ve come a long way, Baby!  For the first time in years, I sat on our boat and enjoyed the day without driving my husband crazy by worrying about the other boaters who are not always careful when they are ‘parking’ and anchoring their boats.  Because it is such a popular spot, many people try to squeeze in-between boats in order to have the closest spot to the island.  We get there early so that we get a prime spot before the droves arrive and it’s that worry that someone will anchor too close that used to have me worrying the entire time we were there.  I would enjoy the day, but I couldn’t keep the worry out of my head nor out of my mouth.  I would motor on as such in a diatribe of worry that it drove my family crazy as well.
Yesterday was the first trip of the season (better late than never) and as the other boats neared, I smiled instead of scowling and simply enjoyed my day.  When the first boat came too close, my first reaction was to worry immediately if they were going to hit us, run over our anchor etc, and the peaceful thought of “Everything is fine,” allowed me to relax and stop the incessant worry which had plagued me for too many past summers.  And…it was WONDERFUL!  I let go!
I am finding that my life is changing for the better when I allow it which is more and more often.  My first thought it to imagine the worst, but it’s simply a bad habit which I’ve grown accustomed to over the years and I now know, has not served me well.  Like many habits, it’s breakable which is great news and it’s simply consistency in my thought process to change it.  Notice I am not being negative about breaking this undesirable habit of mine, I am being positive ~ positive that with time, effort and confidence I can have it licked soon!
Happy Sunday to You!
Enjoy the Miracle of Today!
xo