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Keys to Harmony

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I am learning the keys to harmony.  Perhaps in the back of my mind, I have known the tune all along, but had resorted to humming, instead of learning the lyrics.  I think that may be what many of us do in life.  We either stay silent or we hit a wrong note in an attempt to be heard.  Or we hum the melody without using our words.

And sometimes this serves us.

And sometimes, it does not.

The keys are to know the difference.

Often attempts at harmony are not met with enthusiasm for various reasons.  We sing in different keys and therefore to be in harmony with others, we need to compromise and find the middle ground in order to communicate easily.  One wrong note and the harmony ceases.  It’s often difficult for each person to be themselves, to sing their own part and somehow find harmony with those around them.  It takes practice, patience, understanding and listening from a place of love in order to harmonize with others.  We cannot come to the piano bench expecting to play life’s keys perfectly without listening for those around us as they play their tune as well.

Listening to others’ tunes, hearing how they hit the notes, noticing which ones they miss and how they feel about harmony takes practice.  Being in an observer mode, hearing our own notes and seeing the whole orchestral piece of music helps the players get along and helps the musical piece rise to new heights.

To be in tune with ourselves is a gift, like The Presents of Presence.  To appreciate the music in others is a precious gift as well.  It takes courage to play our own tune.  It takes love to harmonize with others.  But when it all comes together, love shines through the blended piece!

Today, listen to your song.  Take a moment to listen to Nature.  As you pass through the lives of others today, whether it is a brief encounter or a lifelong relationship, hum your song and listen as others tune in with harmony!

Shine On!

xo

 

See the Light In Others

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See the light in others

and treat them as if that is all you see.

~ Dr. Wayne Dyer

I love this quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer and it goes with the theme of my past few posts.  When we see with our heartlights, our hearts are filled with warmth, love and peace.

May you see everyone’s heartlight shining today and everyday!

Shine On!

xo

Tidbit from Marilyn

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I believe that everything happens for a reason.

People change so that you can learn to let go,

things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right,

you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself,

and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

~ Marilyn Monroe

Happy Friday!  May your coming weekend be filled with love, laughter, health, wealth and joy!

Shine On!

xo

Enjoying Your Company ~ Caregivers Unite

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Enjoying Your Company

Taking care of loved ones with Alzheimer’s Disease and Dementia isn’t easy.  I am not a full-time caregiver now, but instead I am the carer of my 2 loved ones.  We chat on the phone daily from their home where they have full-time caregivers on staff.  But I know the tremendous worry that many caregivers feel when being faced with 24/7 caring for those whose cognitive function isn’t where it used to be.

It is hard to let go of the loved one’s cognitive abilities.  Sometimes we are given the gift of full on focus for which I am ever grateful.  Sometimes the lucidity floats in and out and sometimes it’s just not really there.  It’s a hard road to travel for the patient with the disease.  I know that once the turning point comes, it’s easier for all involved.  Once the patient has crossed over to not realizing how much memory they have lost, it is a blessing as they find a sense of peace.  It’s a good thing even though it is harder for the family.  Not to say that either of my loved ones have fully gone from their minds.  They have not.  They are still here, hanging in there, daily.  But the letting go of, ‘I think I’m losing my mind’ has finally happened and we are able to go on without their worry that they are losing their minds.  It’s been a blessing really because the strife is diminished and that is good for them.  For me, not so much, but then it’s not about me.  It’s about the peace within them as I imagine how frustrating and hard it is to realize that you are losing your memory.

I’ve learned to simply enjoy their company.  Yes, it is that simple.  Take out the worry, the regret, the sadness of “I wish things were different” and just enjoy who they are, for who they are right in this present moment.  For the next moment may be different and we can never tell the future.

But I have to be fair here.  It is hard for carers and caregivers alike to converse, to interact and to find peace in this new reality.  I read others’ blogs who have loved ones with memory issues and I understand.  I want to hug them as much as I long to be hugged.  Generally it’s hard when our loved ones aren’t the same as we knew them.  Learning to shift our thinking is hard and many of us mourn the ones we knew before the memory loss.  It’s a banner moment when we see glimpses of our loved one before the memory issues began.

Because for me, I mourn the loss of family.  I call daily to speak with them and pray that they are doing well that day.  I watch what I say and I listen for the subtle and sometimes not so subtle signs as to gauge how well they are doing cognitively in that moment.  I err on the side of less reality is better, meaning I keep news that isn’t happy to myself.  I don’t share it because in their world, any upset doesn’t serve them nor me.  Occasionally I will venture to say something about another family member’s health which isn’t great at this point, but I always make sure that I do it in the mornings so that they are clearly thinking because many times, as the afternoon sun begins its descent, cognitive abilities do the same.  Not always, but it happens.

I think it’s important to stay connected and the more giggles, jokes and memories that we can share, perhaps the longer they will know me, will stay connected with me and keep the disease descent further from our present moment.  I know it’s a gamble because the disease will eventually run its course, plateau for a bit and then descend further, taking them further from me.  But in the meantime, my will to keep them here, knowing me and each other is foremost in my heart and mind.  It won’t be without a huge fight from me that Alzheimer’s and Dementia will take away my loved ones.

Because, as you know, I’m a lover and a fighter and I will fight for my loved ones because I love them with my whole heart.  I know that those of you who have experienced these diseases with loved ones or even with yourself (I read your blogs), my heart envelopes you as well.  It’s not a fair disease, but then there’s none that I can name that are fair to any of us.  I know there’s no cure, but at least we can try to keep it at bay with a few of the medicines offered today.

And I can lay my head upon my pillow every night after my prayers and know that at least, today, they knew who I was, we laughed together, blew kisses into the phone to each other and we have my next visit to look forward to soon.  At the end of the day, it was a very good day.  We’ve got to be grateful for each and every little present moment that we have in this big ole world for we can’t control tomorrow and after all, as Scarlett said, “Tomorrow is another day.”

Shine On!

xo

Smiles Are Contagious

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Recently I had an experience with a friend which put a huge smile on my face.  It was her enthusiasm for her circumstances that allowed me to raise my own happiness quotient to match hers, which in turn, raised my own vibrational thinking and I am ever grateful for her sharing her story with me.  Perhaps this sounds corny to you, but haven’t you ever noticed that when someone smiles at you, you smile back?  It’s like when a person yawns next to you, sometimes even if you aren’t fatigued, you catch the yawn yourself.  Surely there’s a biological cause to this which I can’t tell you in medical terms, but hopefully you get the gist of what I’m writing.

To hear, feel and know the happiness of another person is to be with them in that moment of joy, even if your situation is not as positive.  Joy raises our vibrations when we allow it and it allows us to stand on the peak of life instead of being stuck in the valley.  As we all have experienced, life is full of peaks and valleys, darkness and light and all that in-between grey areas where most of our processing takes place.  Without the darkness, we can’t see the stars, so for me, I’d prefer to experience the darkness so that I can see the light.  Does that make sense?  Do you feel the same way?

There is always a bit of joy to be found in life as are the stars in the darkness of night.  Sometimes you have to get out of the clouds in your mind, heart, body and soul before you can actually experience the starlight, but it is always there even when you can’t seem to see it.

So today, I hope you find the smile photo like a yawn ~ catch the joy please!  From my starlit joy to yours!

Shine On!

xo

P.S.  The photo above isn’t of me.  It’s actually a card from here!

Cancer Connections

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You gain strength, courage, and confidence

by every experience in which you really stop

to look fear in the face.

You are able to say to yourself,

“I lived through this horror.

I can take the next thing that comes along.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

Sitting in the oncologist office waiting room, I had some time to look around at all the other people there waiting patiently for their names to be called.  I’ve done this before and I seem to do it every time I’m there.  I smile at the others in the room, because I figure if you are here, then we’ve got a connection.  Because let’s face it, there are plenty of other places to sit in this big ole world and I bet you wouldn’t choose the oncology waiting room to hang out in if you didn’t need to be there.  Or if your loved one didn’t need to be there.

Cancer evens us out.  Strange to say, right?  But I find that those of us who have endured cancer find it easier to simply connect with someone else who has been in the same boat.  It’s that common ground that we search for when we connect with someone else.  By simply being in the same doctor’s office, we can pretty much bet we’ve got or had the Big C and we’re hoping to get better and stay healthy.

Cancer isn’t choosy.  It doesn’t discriminate between races or genders.  Old or young, it matters not.  It comes in changing the lives of its patients and those who surround them.  Cancer bonds people.  Cancer breaks people down.  Cancer divides. Cancer unifies.  Cancer conquers some people and yet, there are others who conquer cancer.  It’s an equal-opportunity disease for which there’s no cure, yet.

Cancer connects people in ways that they might not necessarily connect.  The fear of death and the horror of cancer treatments, etc.  give you a bird’s eye view of what you are truly made of and there’s no place for sissy’s with cancer.  No matter with whom you talk, we’ve all had sleepless nights filled with worry and repeatedly question at every tumor marker test, if cancer has returned.  Many of us have endured surgeries, chemotherapy, radiation, blood tests, needles, being poked and prodded by countless professionals and staff.  We’ve lost our hair, body parts and our dignity.  But I’ve learned that we don’t lose our loving hearts, nor our need for comfort or our precious souls to cancer.   It’s given me a new outlook on life.  Sure cancer has weakened parts of my life, but it also strengthened me.  It’s given me lessons on human nature that I would have never understood had I not endured the cancer.  It’s made me appreciate the little things and be unafraid of dying.  It’s changed my life in good and bad ways, but I try to concentrate on the good in my life at every turn.

What has cancer done in your life?

Shine On!

xo

There’s No Present Like The Time

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“There’s no present like the time.”

~ Babul from The Second Exotic Marigold Hotel

It seems that we all have an expiration date which most of us do not know.  So to live without remembering that knowledge is to hide our heads in the sand like ostriches.  I’m not saying that we should live in fear of death, but to remember that this present moment is indeed a present. A gift that we should not waste.

Life moves quickly these days.  Many people live longer lives, but take less time for themselves.  Rushing to every event, whatever it may be, keeping busy on the computer, the smart phones etc., takes time away from being present in the present moment.  I understand we all have responsibilities, but we must carve out a few moments to simply be in the stillness of the present moment.  To reconnect with ourselves, our families, nature and all the gifts that are ours when we stop the rush in the insanity of life.  To actually take a moment to breathe, to listen to our hearts and minds, to hold hands, to reconnect with loved ones, to simply love that we are here, right here and now, wherever we may be, in whatever capacity life holds for us.

Time is a gift.  Use it wisely.  Don’t squander it on meaningless pursuits.  You can make a difference in your life and in the lives of others. You have the power within you.  Be grateful for the present and use your power for good, for you are loved.

Enjoy The Presents of Presence

Shine On!

xo

 

I Hope You Dance

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I Hope You Dance

I’m including the video and lyrics to the song above which came out in 2000.  Back then, it was special to me because I thought it was what I wanted my children to learn about life.  Now it is a gentle reminder for myself as well. ♥

May you be reminded and inspired today and everyday ~ Keep your heartlight shining!

Shine On!

xo

I Hope You Dance ~ Lee Ann Womack

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder,
You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger,
May you never take one single breath for granted,
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed,
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean,
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,
Promise me that you’ll give faith a fighting chance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

I hope you dance….I hope you dance.

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance,
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Livin’ might mean takin’ chances but they’re worth takin’,
Lovin’ might be a mistake but it’s worth makin’,
Don’t let some hell bent heart leave you bitter,
When you come close to sellin’ out reconsider,
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

I hope you dance….I hope you dance.
I hope you dance….I hope you dance.
(Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along,
Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder where those years have gone.)

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean,
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,
Promise me that you’ll give faith a fighting chance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

Dance….I hope you dance.
I hope you dance….I hope you dance.
I hope you dance….I hope you dance..
(Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along
Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder where those years have gone)

How Much Love Do You Put Into What You Do?

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“I am not sure exactly what heaven will be like,

but I know that when we die and it comes time for God to judge us,

He will not ask,

‘How many good things have you done in your life?’

rather He will ask,

‘How much love did you put into what you did?”

~ Mother Teresa

I found this quote this morning and thought it was a good reminder for none of us know our exact ‘expiration date’ on this planet unless one chooses to expire early which I hope you will not. ♥

I’ve always thought of kindness and good deeds to be highly regarded, but as I’ve grown older, I find that putting love into everything we do is just as, or perhaps even more important.  It was refreshing to find Mother Teresa’s quote today to confirm that someone else thinks the same as I do.  Isn’t that always the way?  We find comfort in connecting with others?

It’s the simple things my friends.  Love, kindness, gratitude, forgiveness, peace.  Being the best we can be in all aspects of our lives.  Living spherically, listening to others with an open heart to all they say and omit.  Compassionately communicating to help, not harm.  Stepping back when it does not serve you or others to jump into the fray in whatever form.  Stepping up with courageous kindness when it does serve you and others.  Not being afraid to speak the truth in a kind way.  To listen, to be heard, to connect.  To add love in all you do.  To be a role model and shine your heartlight.  To enjoy The Presents of Presence.

Today, try to infuse love into whatever you are doing.  Slow down and be present, be the present of love.  Share a smile, a hug and a “I love you” with someone you cherish.  Really feel the loving connection and be grateful.  Use your beaming heartlight for good.

Shine On!

xo

 

Appreciation

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“Appreciation can make a day — even change a life.  Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.”

~ Margaret Cousins

It’s important to be kind and to be polite.  It fosters good will and sends out powerful loving vibes to the world when you take a moment to show, to speak and to acknowledge your gratitude.  Such simplicity is often forgotten, crumpled and left by the wayside in life.

So today as you go about your routine, take a moment to smile, to be polite, to hold a door, to reach out with a kind word.  It makes a difference.  It allows your heartlight to shine even brighter and lift the world in harmony.

Shine On!

xo