Tag Archive | self-love

We Are All the Same, Yet Different

WeareallthesameyetdifferentWe are all the same, yet different.

It amazes me how people can disconnect and forget that we are all humans.  It frightens me to listen to the news sometimes when I hear how some people treat others, wounding and killing without seeming to care.  We are all connected as energy, as souls, as humans.  Our planet is the only one we’ve got.  We all need oxygen to live and we all need food and water to survive.

We are in this together, here in the same boat, on the same planet, breathing the same air and drinking the same waters and yet there are those who forget.  Yes, we are different.  Each and every one of us is like the flower above ~ all flowers, but all seemingly different in how we look, think, act and perceive life.  Our experiences are different.  Our families, our work, our goals may be different.  Our strife may be different.  But the commonality of humankind is apparent.

So how do we make this planet better?  By seeing the world through loving eyes, ears, hearts and souls.  We are not just humans with souls, we are souls with bodies.  We are born with a life energy that has an expiration date which we do not know so we must live each and every day to its fullest.  When we shine our heartlights, we raise the energy and vibrations in this world.  We make the world a better place and in turn, we make it better for ourselves.

Perhaps, ‘love thy neighbor as thyself’ is hard when you don’t love yourself or harder still, when the neighbor is a pain in the neck.  I get it.  Dealing with others can be challenging at times.  But to forgive, to do our best and to observe with understanding makes the commandment easier.

So look around at the millions of flowers in our world.  Bless each one in the garden of life.  Know that each is doing its best to grow, to flourish, to blossom and to bring beauty to the world.  As each one begins its withering journey, find compassion in your heart to make the journey as beautiful as you can for everyone around you is doing their best.

Shine On!

xo

Hold Onto the Rainbow

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Being a caregiver for loved ones with Alzheimer’s and Dementia, it’s a daily struggle for them and for us as caregivers.  Some days are harder than others.  Some moments are stormy and then when the sun breaks through with a glorious rainbow, we are rewarded with a real time reality moment of lucidity with a loved one ~ whether it be a shared trip down memory lane or a moment of recognition, a shared laugh, even a hug with the knowledge that we both know who we are.  For me, it’s the rainbow throughout the storms that their minds are enduring.

I feel compassion as I take time to observe how they live in the world of their minds.  It’s frightening when your mind doesn’t work as it used to and it’s beleaguering the point when I say it over and over that I can’t imagine how hard it must be.  We go with the flow here.  Allowing whatever comes to her mind to flow and I try to ride the wave even when the tsunami hits us.  Dogged determination takes over common sense and many times it’s wasted breath to explain.  Changing the channel, getting up to do something else or pausing to change the focus does help sometimes, but at others, it changes nothing and she perseverates all the harder on the thought at hand.

What I live for are the stolen moments of rainbows through the storm:  the laughter which releases anxiety, the connection when I’ve surprised her with a visit from an old friend of hers, the banter which we share when we travel down memory lane.

The storms pass, but get longer as the days do.  Riding this roller coaster of brain firings and misfirings is hard for us both as we travel down the end of the journey.  She longs to crawl back into my womb at times and it saddens me.  She is not my child by birth, yet she’s now my child.  If I were able to carry her, protect her and keep her with me safe and secure, I would try, but it’s not an option.  To release her as she wishes at times would be beneficial I believe, even though it saddens me a great deal.

I long for the carefree days of youth and vitality which are no longer.  I long to be held and protected myself, but I only have my own arms to do that for me.  So I take moments of peace whenever I can, to hold and to hug myself so that I can continue to have strength to do it for her as well.

It’s hard to watch a loved one’s mind deteriorate while they sometimes understand what is happening to them.  All I can do is be there for her which I am doing, heart, mind, soul and physically, seeing to her needs and allowing my own a back seat while we carry onwards to a destination which makes no sense to either of us.

Thanks for reading my blog today.  I just needed to write, to mourn, to have a quiet moment to center myself again so that when she awakens, I can be fresh as a daisy, upbeat and filled with loving kindness and empathy in order to find the rainbows whenever I can through the storms.

Shine On!

xo

 

 

How to Avoid Criticism

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 There is only one way to avoid criticism:

do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.

–Aristotle

Life is full of twists and turns.  Don’t be a lump.  Do what you feel is right in your heart and allow the naysayers to chatter.  Hold your head up high.  Be kind.  Be loving.  Be you, loving beautiful you!

Shine On!

xo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We Are More Than Our Scars

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“I am more than my scars.”
― Andrew Davidson

Having traveled this breast cancer journey for 14 years, I have learned a lot about myself and others.  I love the quote above for in it I find fortitude even in my darkest hours.  My scars bear witness to the horrors I’ve endured.  My body, mind and soul, along with my heart, have been ravaged and yet I still am here, cancer free.  True, my physical appearance has changed.  Some may not find me attractive and that’s ok for me.  For I feel as if the light that has brought me through the toughest of times, still burns brightly inside my heart.  Though I have aged, my heart is filled with light, hope, positivity and love for which I am truly grateful.  My soul shines, my challenges have changed me, making me stronger, more self-assured and not so frightened anymore.

I allow others to be whom they choose without resentment nor anger.  It does not serve me.  I still speak my truth with kindness.  I am finding the me that was lost on this journey.  Growing confidence with every step of independence and connecting with others as we walk each other home towards our end.  Scars may damage us.  However, when you change the way you see them, you remember that they simply show how strong we are to have braved atrocities to our physical bodies.  Wear them proudly, a badge of honor that you have been able to dig deep inside to grow, to learn, to be tested and to surpass the expectations of ourselves and others.

It is not easy to become accepting of our scars, whether others can see them or not.  In such a physical world where first we are judged by our looks, it is often disappointing to not be seen for whom our souls are and be found worthy.  To be seen, but not heard is a challenge that we must overcome.  And it starts with you.

Compassion for ourselves is the first step.  To love ourselves, scars and all.  To treat ourselves with loving kindness and to embrace self-love so that others may see our loving selves.  To look at others with the same loving eyes is the next step.  To see the good in every single person.  To forgive ourselves and others for what has trespassed and to empathize with our good hearts and find the goodness in each soul with whom we come into contact.  To forgive what we deem unforgivable and to move onwards and upwards towards the light in life.

Some scars do not show on the physical body.  We hide them in our hearts, minds and souls.  Past hurts and regressions can tear at our core selves, shredding even the strongest souls, breaking hearts, belief systems and our self-esteem.  Rebuilding, baby step by baby step, requires the heart, mind and soul to open with trembling vulnerability to find a new normal.  We need to embrace the changes that scarred us and empty our beings of regret.  Stand in our power and release what no longer serves us.  To take the scars which broke us and heal ourselves and others.  To love even those who scarred us.  To observe their scars and see within their hearts that they are broken as well.  To embrace a compassionate life and shine our little heartlights filled with love.

So as you go about your day today, smile.  Be the loving energy that I know you are and embrace your loving heartlight so that you shine from within, thus brightening your world and connecting your light to others.  You never know how a simple smile, a kind word and a loving embrace can change you and others.

Embrace your scars, love yourself and let love be your guide as you go about your day.

Shine On!

xo

You Are Simply the Best!

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“The more you praise and celebrate your life,

the more there is in life to celebrate.”

– Oprah Winfrey

This is my birthday week celebration and I want to share it with you ~ let’s celebrate, for we have today ~ let’s embrace The Presents of Presence as we feel gratitude for this day, for this moment in time that we share together.  Come join me in celebrating our lives, our connections and our friendships!  Let’s be grateful that we can enjoy this moment together!

I am grateful for so much in my life, even the hardships that I have endured.  I am grateful for the happy and sad moments for they have taught me well.  I am grateful for the strength that I have found within and the supportive friends and family who have helped me through many trying times.  I am grateful to God for every breath that I continue to have and for the blessed life that I have lived thus far and I pray that I have many more years of life given to me.  I am grateful for the willingness of myself and others to reach out daily through blogging, texting, phone calls, cards and emails etc. in order to support, love and connect with each other in order to increase the love in this world through kindness.  I am grateful for every prayer.  I am grateful for the angels who surround me and for meeting human angels along my path of life.  I am grateful for my feline friends as well who give unconditional loving fur therapy when most needed (and even when not needed).  There’s something about being loved by an animal which is precious as well.  I am grateful for my mind, soul, heart and body which have endured breast cancer etc. and continue to thrive daily, even under unspeakable circumstances.  I am grateful to Mother Nature for daily delivering such a beautiful dawn which inspires me, even when I feel under the weather.  I am grateful as I count all of the blessings, big and small, in my life.

So today, please celebrate with me ~ celebrate your life, yourself and your connections with others both big and small.  Celebrate your life well-lived and your present moment.  Choose to feel the tranquility of gratitude, the quiet reminder that you are here~ perfect, whole and complete and you are appreciated for who you are.

For I am grateful to all of you!

Shine On!

xo

 

If

If

If…
by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings – nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run –
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man my son!

I hope you enjoyed a little inspiration today!

Shine On!

xo

What’s on the other side of every fear?

freedom1“Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom.”

~ Marilyn Ferguson

Sit with this for a moment.  Allow the quote to enter your mind, your heart and your spirit.  Do you hear it?  Do you feel that little ta-dum beat in your heart of hope springing forward?  Does your mind suddenly get excited to remove the fears from you in order to embrace FREEDOM?!  Does your breathing skip a breath for a moment in anticipation of what may come your way?  Does your spirit feel less burdened with the happy possibility that you just might heart, mind, soul, spirit and body decide to do away with fear?  Can you feel the energy blossoming within you?  Feel the buzzing of excitement?  Feel the idea of freedom begin to take root, driving the feeling of imprisoning fear from you just a little bit?

That’s how I felt when I sat quietly and thought about this quote.

I would love to hear what your reaction is to the quote above when you actually sit for a moment and contemplate it.  Does your body recoil back into fear of the unknown and uncertainty of how to deal with freedom?  Or does it get giddy in the anticipation that you might just take the first baby step towards freedom?

Please share below ~ I always enjoy hearing from you and how certain quotes affect us all!

Shine On!

xo

All About You!

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“You’re not the same person you were a year ago,
a month ago, or a week ago. You’re always growing.
Experiences don’t stop. That’s life.” – Unknown

A new normal which is always evolving ~ that’s what life is all about I think ~ change is inevitable and with change comes growth spiritually, mentally and emotionally.  It’s not always easy to accept change in our lives or to know that there simply are some parts of our daily lives that we have no control over.  Health issues, relationships, financial dips and simple day to day hardships can be overwhelming at times.  I understand.  But when you can look back as the observer in your own life and see how you’ve developed, it’s amazing to see where you’ve come from and how much you’ve progressed as a soul in a human body.

Looking back to your past, looking at your present and planning your future can be difficult.  We’ve not always made the choices we wished we had.  We can beat ourselves up over things that have occurred and how we reacted or we can be kind and forgiving to ourselves and others.  We can take the lessons learned albeit not easily and hold them dear to our hearts or we can punish ourselves and others for choices made.  It’s up to you.

Life throws curve balls sometimes.  That’s a fact.  But as Ram Dass reminded us, “we’re all just walking each other home.”  We can choose to take baby steps down our life path, we can move backwards or we can stop and spin until we’re dizzy and fall down.  But we still have to get up and begin moving on again, taking the lessons learned into our repertoire and incorporate them into our lives.  It’s your choice dear friends.

You are not the same person you were a year ago.  For some of us, that’s a good thing.  We’ve gotten stronger, more understanding and loving as time heals all wounds.  Look back with a gentle, loving hug, embrace your present situation as it is and hold lovingly your plans for the future.

And take my hand…I’m here.

We’re all just walking each other home.

Shine On!

xo

How Do You See A Rose?

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The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns;
the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious to the rose.
Kahlil Gibran

A grainy cell photo of a rose I once received, but still, a sweet rose which meant so much to me at the time.  I love roses.  I always have, ever since I was a little girl.  There’s something about fresh flowers which touches my heart every time.

I am an optimist and I see the beauty in a rose ~ I acknowledge the thorns, but they don’t take away the beauty and perfection of the rose herself.  I think people are like roses as well.  Some are thornier than others.  Some look perfect, yet have no fragrance.  Some are fragrant, but like the photo above, aren’t perfectly colored.  Me, I like the fragrant ones who aren’t perfectly colored ~ I guess I like a little imperfection in myself.  I think it adds a bit of charm and character.

Who wants to be one of the crowd instead of calmly loving our own uniqueness?

I think that’s the key to a peaceful life ~ accepting ourselves and others for our whole rose and not wishing that the other person were less thorny or more fragrant or more perfectly formed with uniform color.  To accept the rose for who she is and not to find her less attractive for her flaws.  Instead, to hold her gently in your heart with loving kindness, patience and understanding.

I want you to know that like the rose, I see your beauty, flaws and all.  I cherish your uniqueness.  I applaud your fragrance and your thorns.  I will hold your friendship in my heart and it will linger long after we have withered and I will wait for you to bloom again.

Shine On!

xo

Sometimes, we just don’t think. Kintsukuroi

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Sometimes, we just don’t think. Kintsukuroi.

This post from dear Wendy over at Ramblings and Musings also known as Wendy Shares A Thought touched my heart and I knew I had to reblog it for you as well.  Many of us have old wounds and scars, but to mend ourselves to be even more beautiful than we once were, to accept and dignify ‘the new normal’ is to kintsukuroi our lives!

Shine On dearest ones!

You are always beautiful to me!

xo