If you are someone who had a good relationship with your Mom, you may understand how I’m feeling today. My Mom passed away over a month ago and while in my heart I know she’s in Heaven, I miss her. There’s an emptiness in my life lately because she was such a huge part of my life.
She has visited me in various forms to let me know that she’s here with me in spirit. For those that understand what I’m saying, perhaps you’ve had similar experiences as well. I’d love to hear about them if you’re willing to share so please feel free to write in the comments or reach out via email if you’d prefer a more private conversation.
Grief is a funny thing isn’t it? It sneaks up on us from time to time in the most surprising ways. My Mom liked Talbots clothing so when I received a catalogue from there, I thought of what Mom might like and then it hit me. I don’t need to buy Mom anything because she’s not here on this earth anymore. Tears sprung to my eyes and for a moment the bereft feeling hit me hard. I wiped the tears away and then sent up a prayer to her.
Then the other day I had a question and knew my Mom would know the answer. Sadly, I realized I can’t ask her and that I probably would never know the answer to that particular question because she’s not here. Again, the tears fell.
I’ve learned that losing a loved one and the grieving process that follows in order to heal takes time. It’s not easy as you may know from experience. Unexpected memories pop up at times that can bring up a fresh round of tears, but in time with healing, we can fondly remember the good times and be grateful for our loved one’s presence in our lives.
For we carry their presence in our hearts as the legacy of who they were stays alive in the memories of those who are still here. Gone but not forgotten. Isn’t that the way we are remembered?