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Rebuild Your Life

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How to Begin:
Rebuilding Life from Within
Love yourself, unconditionally.
Release your bottled up emotions.
Make time for long walks, alone.
Avoid living beyond your means.
Nurture your inner strength.
Stop apologizing for being you.
Surround yourself with positive people
Embrace your situation, whatever it may be.

~ Dr. David Jockers on FB

Someone ‘liked’ this, so it came in my FB newsfeed yesterday.  Perhaps this will help someone today.

I thought it was timely for myself as well.

Shine On!

xo

 

DP ~ Transforming My Life

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You have Breast Cancer

On New Year’s Eve 2001, at 1:15pm, the above words were barely out of the mouth of the breast surgeon who had taken 17 biopsies of my lump when my life was forever changed in an instant.  A single piece of paper confirmed the pathology of the lump and my life was immediately mapped out by science and not by me.  All of the plans I had laid with such good intentions went down the drain in that single moment.  My life, my body, my relationships, my future were suddenly not as I’d expected them to be and surprisingly, I was not that surprised.

For you see, I found the lump in November, but between doctor appointments, mammograms and life, the biopsy was not done until the day after Christmas that year.  The day after I hosted Christmas dinner with my husband and our families.  My last non-cancerous Christmas.  And the night before the news was given to me that I had Breast Cancer, I had dreamed that I had it and so when she told me the next day, I wasn’t really surprised.  In fact, I was so calm that she told me I was in shock and that I needed to come back the day after New Years so that she could deliver the future plans of how the doctors would proceed in treating me.  But I was calm, I knew. I heard everything she said and what hit me most was that I was not going to be able to return to teaching.  That’s what stuck in my head.  Not the lumpectomy and subsequent double mastectomy, not the ACT type of chemotherapy which makes all of your hair fall out, not the 6 weeks of radiation to follow.  Nope, it was that I wouldn’t be finishing out the year in my school.  Strange isn’t it what we think when confronted by this type of news?

My life took on a surreal aura after that ~ one that included many tears, much anxiety and a deeper understanding of myself.  I had never been the strong type or so I thought, but when confronted with the possibility of not being around for my boys ages 1 and 3, like an angry Mama Tiger I launched into fighting for my life.  Most of my family didn’t believe I could endure the journey of what I was about to embark on as I have always been a bit weak with pain.  But somehow, knowing that my husband believed I could do it and knowing that he would stand by my side and endure it with me, I was able to conjure up the inner strength needed to live and to supersede all expectations.

It is that priceless gift that my hubby gave me that changed us in an instant as well for this cancer journey hasn’t been easy for either one of us.  The patient has a tough time enduring the treatments, but it’s the spouse/significant other/caretaker who is the silent unsung hero.  It’s my hubby who knows what goes on after all of the family goes home.  It’s HE who holds me when I cry and I’ve just had enough.  He’s the one who understands and it’s to him that I look to for strength when mine is depleted.  It’s HIS face that I search for when I wake up after every surgery (and I’ve endured 15 so far with more to go).

Life goes on for everyone else after time which is good because who wants to be constantly reminded that you’ve endured Breast Cancer?  It’s bad enough to be reminded every morning when I shower and dress or when I have to be tested every 6 months or when I have health complications from it.  Breast Cancer affects life daily after diagnosis ~ it’s in every part of my life ~ even though I try very hard to ignore it.

I refuse to say that it was the best thing that ever happened to me ~ there’s been a bit of a scuttlebutt in the breast cancer world recently with that line.  However, I will say that it enriched my life.  It made me dig deeper into my soul.  I can never go back to the girl that I was on 12/30/01, but I don’t think that I’d want to now.  This girl of 8/6/2013 is a better person ~ psychologically, emotionally, spiritually ~ a better parent, a more loving partner and a most grateful human being.  I am still in the process of accepting the new me ~ it’s a challenge some days, but it’s one that I will continue to work my little Tiger Mama ass off in order to triumph!

You have to find the good in every situation.

Who knew ~ sometimes change is necessary!

Shine On!

xo

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Daily Prompt: Everything Changes

Walking down the street, you encounter a folded piece of paper on the sidewalk. You pick it up and read it and immediately, your life has changed. Describe this experience.

Photographers, artists, poets: show us TRANSFORMATION.

http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2013/08/06/daily-prompt-transformation/

Make Someone Happy!

Everywhere you go you always seem to spread sunshine.

Ok, think fast…to whom does this card belong?  Whose name popped into your head first when you read this quote and saw this card?  That’s who needs to hear from you today.  Did you think of someone?  Know their address?  Someone deserves to hear how you feel about them!  Sending positivity, increases sunshine and breeds positivity which makes more sunshine which makes the world a happier place.

Life is about connections ~ we pass along many amazing awards so easily to each other in order to show how we appreciate our connections, our relationships and our positivity.  We are there for each other, we read each other’s posts, we get to know other bloggers as time goes on.  I’ve already made some amazing connections here in cyberspace for which I’m grateful.  But what if when you opened your mailbox, amidst the junk mail and bills was an envelope with your name on it?  Imagine the excitement you would feel ~ similar to getting a comment on a beloved post, don’t you think?

There are people in your life to whom you’re connected and know their physical address ~ I would love to help you give them that priceless feeling of happiness! Making someone else’s day shine with your thoughtfulness gives them the feeling of being appreciated and gives you the feeling of gratitude.  By far, a win-win situation for sure!

See the video below ~ in a little over one month we have sent over 1MM cards of gratitude worldwide!  Imagine the ripple effect if everyone who blogged sent a card every day for 30 days?  I’ve done our gratitude challenge and I’ve seen other bloggers participate their own way in a gratitude challenge!  I love when we all connect!

Interested in learning about how you can participate in the Gratitude Challenge?

Click here!  www.socgratitude.com/126830

Happy Thursday to YOU!

xo

Happiness…

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You live longer once you realize that any time spent being unhappy is wasted. Ruth E. Renkl
I had an epiphany recently which I thought I would share as it goes along so beautifully with this card, summer and life!  This year I declared was MY YEAR, but it hasn’t worked out the way I planned it to at all.  But then, sometimes the Best Miracles arrive without fanfare, without warning and certainly not within our control.
I am a worrier at times and I know the saying, “worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair ~ it gets you nowhere even though you keep rocking” or something like that… I can’t ever seem to get the exact quote, but please tell me that you get what I’m trying to say?  Anyway, as a family, we often take our boat out to an island which is about an hour away.  It is an ever popular spot amongst boaters as it marries the bay and the ocean via an island which allows you to anchor nearby and enjoy the day.
My thoughts and life have been changing this year and the proof was in the day yesterday that I’ve come a long way, Baby!  For the first time in years, I sat on our boat and enjoyed the day without driving my husband crazy by worrying about the other boaters who are not always careful when they are ‘parking’ and anchoring their boats.  Because it is such a popular spot, many people try to squeeze in-between boats in order to have the closest spot to the island.  We get there early so that we get a prime spot before the droves arrive and it’s that worry that someone will anchor too close that used to have me worrying the entire time we were there.  I would enjoy the day, but I couldn’t keep the worry out of my head nor out of my mouth.  I would motor on as such in a diatribe of worry that it drove my family crazy as well.
Yesterday was the first trip of the season (better late than never) and as the other boats neared, I smiled instead of scowling and simply enjoyed my day.  When the first boat came too close, my first reaction was to worry immediately if they were going to hit us, run over our anchor etc, and the peaceful thought of “Everything is fine,” allowed me to relax and stop the incessant worry which had plagued me for too many past summers.  And…it was WONDERFUL!  I let go!
I am finding that my life is changing for the better when I allow it which is more and more often.  My first thought it to imagine the worst, but it’s simply a bad habit which I’ve grown accustomed to over the years and I now know, has not served me well.  Like many habits, it’s breakable which is great news and it’s simply consistency in my thought process to change it.  Notice I am not being negative about breaking this undesirable habit of mine, I am being positive ~ positive that with time, effort and confidence I can have it licked soon!
Happy Sunday to You!
Enjoy the Miracle of Today!
xo