Friends, you’ve read my A grade classroom rule from when I was a teacher. You’ve read my Parenting post which may or may not have made you angry or defensive. My intention is to include you in the hug I want to give all the parents/students/teachers at the start of the new year.
Dear Teenager,
Well, you’re next in line for my posts and I’m going to be honest, like I was in earlier posts because this is all about you in the end. This is your life and you will either listen or turn away. I won’t try to control you, but what I will try is to steer you towards victory because that is where you belong.
Your journey begins on the first day of school. But you and I both know that it began when school ended last year. Because what you did over the summer (or didn’t do) makes a difference. Did you read the assigned book(s)? Did you finish the summer math packet you are supposed to turn in at the beginning of the year? Please tell me you did. And if you didn’t, then please get it done! Those assignments are most likely going to be graded and if we’re going to keep your A, they need to be completed. No excuses!
I hope you like your teachers this year. But if you don’t, please don’t allow your feelings to bring your grade down.
Example: My son didn’t like one of his teachers at all a few years ago. He just didn’t like the class – didn’t like the subject, didn’t like the way she taught it, didn’t like the content and didn’t like anything about it! But he needed the class and had to pass it. Because he was angry, he didn’t want to work for her and didn’t complete his assignments. In his head, he was annoying her by not working. But when I explained that he’s giving her the easy way out by simply throwing a zero in the grade book for no assignment done, he was making her life easier. Instead, I suggested that he do the homework, turn it in and make her work to grade it! Ok, I know you are probably shaking your head saying, And he fell for that? But he did fall for it. He understood that he was bothering her by doing the work and it ended up giving him a great grade when the year was over because in his mind he was consistently annoying her since he found her to be so annoying! And yes, he knew all along what I was doing, but he also found a way to change his thinking and not hurt his grade! Funny thing is, he ended up liking the class in the end because he gave it a chance to be liked!
It’s all about your perception. Did you know that? What you perceive when it comes to school is a choice that you make every day. You choose to do the work or not. You choose to study or not. You choose to act rambunctiously or not. You’ve got the power to make your life better or worse. Choose wisely! You don’t have to continue down a path you don’t like anymore. Change direction! Start to do your work and annoy your teachers! You never know what may happen that’s good! At least you’ll have good grades! And if you’re bored at home, you’ll now have something to do.
This is your life and you’ve got to live it, but don’t throw away opportunities to make your life better. Getting good grades and learning everyday are win-wins for all! Learning something new everyday grows your brain. Getting good grades opens doors to all sorts of opportunities. Making connections with your teachers and getting involved in clubs and/or sports, helps to broaden your life interests and expands your connections and friend group.
But what if you’re shy? Or feel you are not liked? Or you’re a loner? What if they bully you? You feel out of place? You have a hard home life? Nobody understands you.
Come here dear one – let me hug you. Let me walk beside you on this path. You are not alone even though you feel that way now. Many of us have felt that way too, but we are still here. We are here to help you go through those life lessons too.
Reach out to trusted friends or faculty members. Go see the nurse or the school counselor. They are trained to help you through these hard times. I know it’s hard to ask for help, but it’s your life and you deserve all the help you can get. Talk with your parents if you can. Speak from your heart. Be honest. Tell them what’s going on.
I want you to know that I feel for you. I have children of my own and they tell me what you have to deal with on a daily basis. That’s why I want to hug you for all you have going on daily, in addition to school. Life has become more complicated than we realize as teachers and parents and adults. But that’s no excuse for you to not do your best or choose to be the best you can be!
If you’re having a tough time with your parents, let me explain a bit. It’s not necessarily you, but sometimes it’s your parent who is projecting their stuff because your parent is frustrated with the current circumstances. You need to elevate your game and work harder. This is your life so you owe it to yourself to do your best. I want to remind you that nobody’s perfect and that your parents are trying to do their best under the circumstances, but that you need to do your part as well. I want to remind you that your parents’ frustration with you is real and you need to be mindful of it. Your job as a student is to work to your potential and be the best you can be. But that the criticism you are hearing in your parent’s voice is more out of frustration and not knowing how to help you. They do love you a lot! They are trying to understand what’s going on, but it’s hard for them. Share with them what’s going on! Tell them if you can’t see the board or if you have trouble remembering facts. Tell them if you’re the last one picked for a team for gym and how it makes you feel (I was that girl myself. I know how it feels.) Perhaps they will understand too.
You are dealt the cards of life. Each of us has our own set to play and nobody’s life is perfect. No matter what you think, let me repeat, nobody’s life is perfect. The best lesson in life is to know what your cards are and how to play them for the best life. I don’t mean cheating with your cards either or taking the easy way out and turning to drugs because you can’t deal with your situation. Nope. There are other choices that are healthier and better for you. I know it feels hard at times. But remember,
You matter. You count. You are worthy of your special place here in this world. Believe me. The universe and God don’t make mistakes.
I’m sure some may have extenuating circumstances not discussed in this note. But the same advice applies to you – reach out! Ask for help! There are many people that are in place to help you on this journey of life! Look around! We’re all here ready to lend a helping hand, to give advice, to share a hug, to applaud good effort and most importantly, to help you up if you fall down.
So why do you feel like you’re doing all the work here? Because it’s your life! It’s YOUR life and together we are going to make it the BEST it can be! But we all need your involvement in order to make it work! Teachers, parents, adults, friends, and faculty are all here to support you in your life But you have to let us in to help you along the way.
Choose wisely dear teenagers. Make us work to give you the best life possible! You deserve it! Have the BEST YEAR YET! Big hugs and lots of love from me to you! ♥
Shine On!
xo
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