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Help for Middle-Schoolers

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I’ve mentioned many times over the last few days that there is help at school for parents and for students.  A friend of mine wrote a book that I want to share since I unexpectedly began a series on the beginning of school for teachers, parents and students.

Because I always want to help, here’s my tip for you!  This book is a keeper and I’m not just saying that!  If you have Middle-schoolers, this is a great book for you!

From tears and fears to cheers—the adult guide for middle-schoolers… Twenty of the most common issues that drive emotional middle-school students to the school counselor’s door are told in story form based on real-life confidential meetings, phone calls, and interventions. Stories include practical life lessons and inspiring solutions for such problems as anger management, eating disorders, peer pressure, bullying, divorcing parents, failure spirals, broken friendships, gossip, sexual harassment, and test and performance anxiety. The stories also provide insight for challenges with parents, teachers, or siblings, and they help students deal with being new at school, death and major change in the family, and friends who are desperate or hurting themselves. Each of the chapters details the process of taking these educationally disruptive issues from emergence to resolution in a format perfect for use by school counselors, teachers, and parents. Additionally, each chapter offers discussion and reflection questions at the end to help promote insight through discussions with individuals, groups, or in classrooms. This full range of school counselor programs, professional resources, and responsibilities is the perfect read for the school counselor wanting new tools and strategies, or for the graduate student wanting an understanding and guide for the career they have chosen. And for the parent or teacher, this book will help them support the social and emotional growth of their middle-school children with an understanding of their emotional needs.

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Shine On!

xo

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Sharing Experiences

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Blogging is sharing experiences via writing as you well know if you’re a blogger.  We read blogs to share our experiences and to connect along the way.  Sometimes there’s a tidbit in someone’s blog which ignites a part of us in a good way.  I’ve learned so much from reading your blogs – new vocabulary, new books, and assimilated new ideas into my life.  I’ve connected through shared similar life experiences and found friendships, whether brief or long-term.  I’ve enjoyed expanding my thinking, my music repertoire and my enjoyment of reading with you as well.  I’ve felt when you’ve had challenges and grief in your lives and I have felt your support and caring when the same has happened in mine.

Writing with openness requires great vulnerability.  I don’t believe that when we open up to the world we are being weak.  I think it takes great strength to show ourselves in emotional truth for we never know how it will be perceived.  I feel grateful that I’ve found truth in the Universal code of kindness that if you don’t have something nice to say, you keep it to yourself because if it’s not helpful, then it’s hurtful and the majority doesn’t intend to hurt anyone else.

There may always be those who misunderstand me for which I’m sad, but I’ve accepted them.   Their fear-based beliefs keep them from opening up and experiencing life in different ways.  Fear can do strange things to people’s minds and being fear-based brings much anxiety to the most stable of individuals.  It is only when we release fear that we can embrace the plethora of goodness in life.  Sure, there are times when we are hurt, when misunderstandings occur and when people just don’t act with kindness.  That happens everywhere.  We must accept that we are all on our own journeys and that they intersect at different times.  We may walk on the path of life with someone for awhile and then part ways.  Or we may stay, sharing the path on and off for a lifetime.  What I know for sure is that each time our paths cross, whether it’s in a good situation or a teaching moment, we come away with a richer life experience for having crossed paths.

And isn’t that what life school is all about?  Learning, growing and experiencing all different types of situations and people?  Taking what comes to us a calm way and finding the good in the encounter – even when at the time it seems not so good?  When we are healed or when we can view it as an observer, we realize that the encounter has helped us to learn more about ourselves, to understand people in general and to enjoy the tapestry of experiences that is this life.  We are grateful for the peace and the  learning opportunity that we may have missed we if hadn’t crossed paths in this lifetime.

So I thank you for reading my blog and for opening up and letting us be with you through your blogs.  It is my honor to connect with you always.

Thanks for being you!

Shine On!

xo

Always Stay Humble and Kind

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Happy Monday to you!  Let’s begin the week with a soothing song!  Whenever I hear this song, I feel such comfort so I’m sharing it with you.  Have you heard it?  I love the lyrics and Tim’s voice.  Please enjoy!  I hope you have a lovely week ahead of you – enjoy today – and always stay humble and kind!

“Humble And Kind”
(written by Lori McKenna)

You know there’s a light that glows by the front door
Don’t forget the key’s under the mat
When childhood stars shine,
Always stay humble and kind

Go to church ’cause your mamma says to
Visit grandpa every chance that you can
It won’t be wasted time
Always stay humble and kind

Hold the door, say “please,” say “thank you”
Don’t steal, don’t cheat, and don’t lie
I know you got mountains to climb
But always stay humble and kind
When the dreams you’re dreamin’ come to you
When the work you put in is realized
Let yourself feel the pride
But always stay humble and kind

Don’t expect a free ride from no one
Don’t hold a grudge or a chip and here’s why:
Bitterness keeps you from flyin’
Always stay humble and kind

Know the difference between sleeping with someone
And sleeping with someone you love
“I love you” ain’t no pick-up line
So always stay humble and kind

Hold the door, say “please,” say “thank you”
Don’t steal, don’t cheat, and don’t lie
I know you got mountains to climb
But always stay humble and kind
When those dreams you’re dreamin’ come to you
When the work you put in is realized
Let yourself feel the pride
But always stay humble and kind

When it’s hot, eat a root beer popsicle
Shut off the AC and roll the windows down
Let that summer sun shine
Always stay humble and kind

Don’t take for granted the love this life gives you
When you get where you’re going don’t forget turn back around
And help the next one in line
Always stay humble and kind

Shine On!
xo

 

Music! Music! Music!

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Daily Prompt ~ What role does music play in your life?

I’ve always loved music ~ ever since I was little ~ in fact, the first popular song I learned was American Pie by Don McLean and it was the first record that my parents bought for me.  I played it over and over and still, many years later, I can still sing the lyrics!  I still adore singing although my voice isn’t talented enough for more than a church choir!  Well there was that 6th grade duet with my best friend ~ we sang “I can’t smile without you” in front of the parents and entire school at a Spring Concert.  But that doesn’t stop me from singing in the car, in the shower or anywhere else!  I’ve always been a fan of music as I think it serves so many purposes.  In fact, when I searched for the word music in my blog, a bunch of posts popped up and I realized that I do speak of music often.  I guess in the blog-o-sphere we write about what we like!

Music is a soothing balm to my soul, it’s a revved up optimistic powerhouse that jolts me forward when I need a little push in order to scale mountains of challenges.  It’s the soft, tenderness of being loved by another and of loving another soul with your whole heart.  Music soothes my soul like a huge angelic hug when I need it.  It is the merriment which puts a spring in my step when the doldrums arrive.  It is the rainbow of colors which allows me to enjoy all different types of music according to my mood.  Check out my ipod and you’ll find all sorts of music ~ country, classical, rock and roll, classic rock, ballads, latin, musicals, pop, blues, children’s, piano accompaniment, 1900’s to the 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, 80’s, 90’s and up to today’s music ~ I could go on and on!  The one type which I’m not fond of is Opera…but if it’s what you have playing and I’m with you, then I can listen to it and enjoy it…but it’s not my first pick!

I took guitar lessons as a kid (classical) but it didn’t last…then I took piano lessons and that did!  I could play and get lost in singing to the music so easily…it was just practicing which I didn’t enjoy!  But then, you have to practice in order to play ~ silly me!

Music to me is like breathing…it’s a part of my everyday and something that I enjoy!

So now let me ask you ~ what role does music play in your life?

Shine On and Sing Along!

xo

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Speech of Angels…

Music is well said to be the speech of Angels

Simply put, I love music…and when I put on the radio in the car while driving, many times I’ll find that I’m guided by my angels and their seemingly coincidental songs that play on the station that I’m listening to ~ does that happen to you?  Do you know what I mean?

For example, yesterday, I had to return to my surgeon to have some stitches removed.  It was the first time I was driving since my surgery exactly one week ago.  Because I couldn’t find anyone to accompany me to NYC, I made the 2 + hour trip alone which was a bit monumental for me since I hadn’t slept the night before, but I had faith that it would all work out.

So, I got the kids off to school, got ready and hopped into the car for the 50 minute drive to the ferry.  I turned on the radio and that’s when I knew I had some angelic company with me.  I wasn’t alone  and they were showing me via the songs that played ~ because they played  a plethora of my favorites in a row, one after another so that I wouldn’t mistake their speech to me.  Like Horton in Dr. Seuss ~ I heard the angels in who-ville!

So my drive to the ferry was enhanced by their selections and as I allowed the music to wash over me, I sang loud and clear and off-key to my hearts content as I drove.  Lost and abandoned in the feel good of my favorite songs, I felt strength envelope me and I allowed it to fill the car with its energy.  In fact, I believe I was vibrating at such a high level that I manifested the 3rd parking spot in a huge lot which generally is completely full and I end up parking my car 3 blocks away, but not yesterday!  I was in the groove and I had a prime spot!  I was so happy!

Once safely on the ferry, I continued reading my Christmas book which I’ve so enjoyed.  I figured I needed to just relax into the downtime/alone-time and not fill it with work.  So with happy guilt-free pleasure, I read my book and sipped my coffee.

On my way home however, it was a different story ~ things had changed a bit because I lost my angelic vibes along the way.  My appointment was more complicated than I anticipated so I missed the boat I had wanted to take by 3 minutes.  I began to feel sad, but then I decided to go to a nearby cafe and enjoy some dessert.  As luck would have it, I found Lucky’s (open 24/7), was escorted to a small corner booth and heard one of my favorite Christmas carols on the radio.  Ahh…my angels had returned!

On the ferry ride home, we had some trouble with the engines…in fact we were delayed as we slowed down, sputtered a bit and actually stopped mid-trip.  I began planning how I would hold my purse if we had to abandon ship when the song Breathe came on ~ I hadn’t even noticed that the radio had been playing, but all of a sudden, I was aware of it, distinctly heard it…and it calmed me.  Synchronicity?  Angelic speech?  Coincidence?

Has this ever happened to you?

What would your angelic songs be?

I hope you hear angelic music today!

Sing On and God Bless!

xo

Spirits and Music

My friend JAngel and I went through chemotherapy together.  We just happened to be on the same schedule and so we spent hours together, cuddled amidst blankets in lazy boy chairs, alternatively sleeping and chatting easily while the red poison of ACT (our special brand of chemotherapy)  dripped into our veins for hours, killing all of the breast cancer cells which had invaded our healthy bodies.  Because we also had daily shots in our bellies, many times we met as we ran into the oncology office to get our daily shots, only to wave and say see you tomorrow.

I was 34 years old…JAngel was 25 and we were the youngest there so we bonded.  That was 10 years ago…and JAngel lost her battle in November ~ almost 2 years ago.  She was spunky, fun and a glass 1/2 full type of gal.  She didn’t let her breast cancer diagnosis (which was her second ~ having survived Hodgkin’s Lymphoma as a child) get her down.

We went to a support group together, met other women and tried to bring levity to our situations.  We laughed, we cried and we helped each other.  JAngel’s BC metastasized to her brain and it got harder for her to come to our group.  But when she came, she brightened our room.  We lost 2 of our friends and it got even harder for me to go to our group…and when JAngel passed, I stopped going altogether.

At the last minute a year ago, I went to see a medium and JAngel came through.  I knew it was her when the medium told me that she was a real Jersey girl…she said she wouldn’t back down and that specifically she was to tell me that I walked for 2 now.  She told me more so much that I just knew it was JAngel even though she wasn’t the reason I had gone to see the medium.

Sunday night while driving in the car,  JAngel’s song came on…and the beauty of her spirit filled the car as I heard her song…funny how certain songs can bring loved ones spirits right to your heart.  So I sang along with Tom Petty in her honor…

I thought you might like to belt one out for Jenn as well…so here goes…

This one’s for my Jersey Girl up in Heaven…xo

Well I know what’s right, I got just one life
in a world that keeps on pushin’ me around
but I’ll stand my ground
…and I won’t back down.

xo

Do you Believe in Magic?

 

Below is a link to one of my favorite songs…and although I’ve not seen Tangled by Disney, this song sets my feet a’tapping and I get a goofy smile on my face every time I hear the beginning chords.  Take a moment and listen…are you smiling yet?

Do You Believe in Magic?

Do you have a song like that?  One that simply makes you smile in that child-like, carefree way and sets your feet and whole body rhythmically tapping to the beat?  It’s like magic when I get that feeling and I want it to continue every time it happens.

And then I started thinking…Brace yourself…I’m thinking…

What if we could keep that childhood magic alive everyday?

What MAGIC could we accomplish if we knew we could be MAGICAL?

Repeat the song…and listen to the lyrics…(see below)…

Do you believe in magic in a young girl’s heart
How the music can free her, whenever it starts
And it’s magic, if the music is groovy
It makes you feel happy like an old-time movie
I’ll tell you about the magic, and it’ll free your soul
But it’s like trying to tell a stranger ’bout rock and roll

If you believe in magic don’t bother to choose
If it’s jug band music or rhythm and blues
Just go and listen it’ll start with a smile
It won’t wipe off your face no matter how hard you try
Your feet start tapping and you can’t seem to find
How you got there, so just blow your mind

If you believe in magic, come along with me
And we’ll dance until morning till there’s just you and me
And maybe, if the music is right
I’ll meet you tomorrow, sort of late at night
And we’ll go dancing, baby, then you’ll see
How the magic’s in the music and the music’s in me

Yeah, do you believe in magic, yeah
Believe in the magic of a young girl’s soul
Believe in the magic of a rock and roll
Believe in the magic that can set you free
Aaahhh, I’m talking ’bout the magic

Do you believe in magic, yeah
Do you believe like I believe
Now do you believe like I believe in magic
Do you believe like I believe
Do you believe like I believe

So the challenge for the week is to see if you can find your THEME song ~ the one that makes you feel MAGICAL!  You can even share mine because it’s so awesome!  See if you can find your song and then play it once a day…take a few minutes to just BE HAPPY and ENJOY a few ME minutes to Revive you, Ignite you and Inspire you to take better care of you!

Let me know how it goes for you…what’s your theme song?  How do you feel MAGICAL?  I’d love to add to my happy song list so please comment!

HAPPY MONDAY TO YOU!

Do you believe like I believe?

Believe in Magic!

xo