“What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to something that already is?” ~ Eckhart Tolle
The above came in my email this morning and I felt that it needed to be shared. Too many times, we resist change whether it be something small like dinner plans or something big like illness, bankruptcy, death or the end of a relationship. We turn our heads without facing the truth of the matter. We turn away from what’s right in front of us, pleading that it goes away and leaves us alone. We beg for things to stay the same or to change the way we wish, but not necessarily where it’s headed. Some may try to make deals with God or others in order to not have to change. They fight it, refusing to see, burying heads in the proverbial sand and not accepting what is.
I dislike the quote, “it is what it is” for it leaves me feeling bitter. I don’t know, why but it does. It’s like there’s nothing left. There’s a lack. There are no choices, it just is and that’s what gets me every time. Because I see that there are choices ~ choices in how we view and deal with changes and events that we didn’t choose.
Lately I’ve been through some tough changes. At first I thought I’d try to fight the changes with the bravery of a hellcat. Then I released the resistance to the changes. It doesn’t serve me to be angry, resentful nor unforgiving. However, it serves me to treat others with kindness, love and patience. I know not where this change will lead me, but I am choosing how I deal with it in my life.
We all have choices.
Our life is our responsibility.
We can choose how we change.
I’m not saying that I haven’t been angry for the changes that have been thrust into my life. I am not a Pollyanna either. But after great pondering and soul searching, I choose different words to see how the changes will affect me. I consistently rebuff the words lack and losing and choose opening up and freedom. I have gone deep within my mind, soul and heart to change how I am dealing with this change and I hope that I can be a role model in how I’m dealing with all that’s occurring.
For we need to find peace, happiness and love in our hearts in order to stay healthy. Forgive but perhaps not forget as we move along this path of life. The quote, “change is inevitable” is another one which I dislike, only because I feel that heaviness inside when someone uses that phrase. Instead, I feel that change is the opportunity to grow, to think outside the plans we had for our lives and to move forward in a way that was unseen before now. It is a freedom of sorts I think. It takes away limits that we had previously held onto and allows choices that we had forgotten about to emerge.
It’s not easy sailing into unknown waters in life. Of that, I’m certain. There are storms and upheavals but there is also smooth sailing on clear days. Sometimes the wind takes us to places that we never knew existed and if we hadn’t endured the painful changes, we might never be where we end up. So my advice to you is to ‘go with the flow’ and allow the Universe to guide your loving, forgiving heart. Allow others to be themselves and accept changes so that you can change too.
Be kind to yourselves every day.