Why Do We Blog?

There’s no agony like bearing an untold story inside you.

~ Zora Neale Hurston

I think we blog because we all have a story inside of us.  Some of us have quite a few stories within us ~ inspirational moments that turned failure into triumph, sad stories that show our resilience and tidbits of how we’ve had to change to accommodate a new normal in our lives.  By sharing, we can connect with others so that they can see that they are not alone in their strife.  Bonding together we can hold hands and move forward towards the light.

But to keep our stories hidden is an option that some of us choose.  We do this for many reasons.  We hide our strife, our shame, our sadness and put on brave faces to the masses.  We don’t choose to open up and be seen as vulnerable for fear of repercussions.  It’s hard to hold it all within ourselves but over time, the pain becomes familiar like putting on a pair of jeans that may not be flattering, but they are comfy because we have worn them so many times.

Making the choice to open up and to tell our stories can be agonizing.  Crossing that bridge of fear causes many to never open up and thus find a way to heal the stories in our heads.  It takes bravery to be vulnerable for there is strength in speaking your truth without shame.  To share is to run a risk that many don’t choose to take and I understand that feeling.

One must be choosy when we bare our stories for there are those who do not care to understand.  I get it.  But here, I want you to know that I welcome your stories.  I welcome your sharing and I will hold your hand and heart gently as you write.  You are safe and protected here.  Tell your story.  Gently take off the bandage and let’s clean the wound so that you can finally heal.  Open your heartlight and be free!  There is love her for you.

Shine On!

xo

 

Does Time Heal?

 

“It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.”
― Rose Kennedy

How’s this for a quote?  I liked it at first I must admit.  But then, as I allowed the words to sink in and thought of my own wounds from living more than 40 years, enduring breast cancer and losing loved ones, I felt like it was a bit controversial too.  Perhaps I am being over-sensitive today.

What do you think?

Does it depend on the wounds ~ the type, the severity, the age?  Or is it an all-encompassing a wound, is a wound, is a wound?  Or does it depend upon the person who is wounded?

I have wounds, scars which train track across my body.  Scars from breast cancer surgeries, from pregnancy, from life.  The physical ones that you can see if I were to show you.  I have pains from those scars and surgeries that never quite go away.  A dull throb that even though I am aware of every minute of everyday, I have gotten used to ~ the pains have lessened but have never gone away.

I have mental and emotional scars as well.  I think we all do.  I’ve found that in forgiving, I am given peace in my life, in my spirit, in myself.  That was a gift to me.

It’s kind of like the sadness which can permeate life.  I’m sad for all that I have lost, but again, the pain has lessened, but it has never gone away.  I do my best to keep it in check and I believe I overcome it most days.  Gratitude for the blessings in life helps immensely.  Accepting and transitioning to the new normal after a tragedy helps this process as well.

But it’s never fully gone.  It can be a gentle reminder or it can be a gaping hole in your life.  You choose how you deal with your own wounds.  It’s one of the perks of being you.  You can allow the wound to fester, to infect and to override any happiness in your life.  Or you can allow it to settle into your being, a gentle or not so gentle reminder of what you’ve endured, the power that you have within you, that inner strength that has led you to continue on living this life.

We all have challenges.  We all carry wounds.  We can allow those wounds to barricade ourselves into a caged life of loneliness, fear and sadness or we can reach out beyond our wounds to connect with others, to understand that simple connection of life and to grow with it, to turn the wound into a positive, into a way of digging deeper in to our soul’s purpose and to align ourselves with love.

It’s up to you.

You are not your wounds.  YOU are deeper than the wounds you’ve suffered. 

YOU are LOVE.

Shine On!

xo