Four things you can’t recover:
The STONE after the throw.
The WORD after it’s said.
The OCCASION after it’s missed.
The TIME after it’s gone.
Sometimes I need a good dose of reality. I don’t mean to sound preachy, but this sign caught my eye today on Pinterest ~ by the way, click here to buy it! and I felt like it was a good reminder for me and to share here.
I”m not much of a stone thrower, I’m rather weak ~ but I have been known to throw a few ~ most notably the snowball which was ice encrusted (and I honestly didn’t know) that I threw at my Sissy as a kid. Shocking to both of us since my aim is really off, I hit her square in the eye and gave her a black eye when we were little! Boy did I get in trouble on that one! We were just playing snowball fight and I guess I packed a wallop of a snowball! I would love to tell you that I learned my lesson and I don’t throw them anymore, but that’s untrue. Now I just aim for your feet so that I hit you in the torso ~ and I make sure that it’s not a hard ice-ball snowball!
Words ~ ay yay yay! This one’s a toughie because I wish I could eat a few of the words that have escaped my lips over the years. Unfortunately, I have saddened myself and others and this is one that I monitor now that I’ve learned. On the flip side, there are phrases which replay over and over in my head rent free that I wish I’d never heard. Since I can only control myself, I am working on my words and trying to evict those harsh words running rampant in my brain and heart.
Occasions ~ this one makes me sad as there are a few moments in my memory that I wish I’d gone out of my comfort zone to do something, to say something, to do more than to recognize the occasion as ‘one I could say/do such and such’ and instead, I allowed the moment to pass. Regretfully, I admit there are times that I should have taken the opportunity/occasion to say yes to opportunity instead of staying safe, playing it cool and regretfully even turning away.
Time ~ When one loses a loved one, time is what we crave, regrets are what we wallow in and we hold tight to the time we spent with them. But instead of lamenting after the passing of our loved ones, here’s the once in a lifetime chance to use our time now wisely! We have all the time in the world ~ why not use it while we are here on Earth and while we are among the living!
Bottom line ~ live in the now ~ enjoy the Presents of Presence ~ put down stones (and icy snowballs), watch our words, never allow the occasion to pass us by and wring all of the love and presence out of every single blessed moment of our time here!! Perhaps keeping this little saying in the back of your mind will help you to enjoy the holidays more and to make more memories to cherish!
In the words of Eckhart Tolle, “The only thing you ever have is now.”
Do you have stones, words, occasions and time that you wish you could change?
Please don’t tell me I’m the only one after I’ve laid my heart out for you!