Tag Archive | listen

Make Time For People

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Sometimes we need to drop everything and pay attention to the people around us.  Cleaning can be done at any time, but people, when in need, need us now, not when it’s more convenient.  Have you ever had a friend just call to chat because they needed a kind listener, but you’ve got plans to fix up your home, clean out your closets or such and you’re torn between getting done what’s on your list or connecting with them?

You know what the heartfelt decision is, right?

People first.

Did I even need to tell you that?  Or did you already innately know the answer? 

I think we get so caught up in our lives that we don’t make time for those who may need us, but don’t want to bother anyone with their feelings of sadness.  That tentative, I’m just calling to say hi, can sometimes be a disguise to a more needy version of help me, I’m falling apart.  It is with discretion that we need to answer those types of calls because we never know what someone else is going through in their lives.

Sadness can be masked in so many different ways.  Superwomen/Supermen that we are, we don’t share when times get tough for fear of gossip or being seen as weak or worrying what someone will think when sharing our deepest secrets.  But there comes a time when we need to share with a trusted friend.

There was a saying going around on Facebook recently.  Due to a recent suicide in our community, it went like this:

My door is always open. My house is safe. Coffee can be on in minutes, and the kitchen table is a place of peace and non-judgment. Anyone who needs to chat is welcome anytime. It’s no good suffering in silence. I have food in the fridge, coffee and tea in the cabinet, and something stronger if you need it. Listening ears, and shoulders to cry on. I will always be available…you are always welcome!! This is an old value that has been lost to technology…a text, facetime, or emoji is not the equivalent! (but can still help/is better than not reaching out at all),  You are never really alone and suicide is never the answer.
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#SuicideAwareness #MentalHealthAwareness
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There’s something touching with this post that I read countless times.  I just hope for heaven’s sake that people just aren’t copying/pasting and not meaning what they say.  For there are times in all of our lives when we just need a friend to lean on.

We recently had a young person pass away by suicide which rocked the community.  Love and support filled post after post which made my heart sad because I wished he had been able to get help from someone.  I know that sometimes there is not enough help for certain situations, but being me, I always hope for healing, for peace and for love.  And I know you do too.

So the next time you get an inconvenient offer for coffee or a drink or a walk, please say yes.  There are many hours in the day to get your list checked off, but you may be the much needed missing piece for healing in someone else’s day.

Shine On!

xo

 

 

 

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Keys to Harmony

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I am learning the keys to harmony.  Perhaps in the back of my mind, I have known the tune all along, but had resorted to humming, instead of learning the lyrics.  I think that may be what many of us do in life.  We either stay silent or we hit a wrong note in an attempt to be heard.  Or we hum the melody without using our words.

And sometimes this serves us.

And sometimes, it does not.

The keys are to know the difference.

Often attempts at harmony are not met with enthusiasm for various reasons.  We sing in different keys and therefore to be in harmony with others, we need to compromise and find the middle ground in order to communicate easily.  One wrong note and the harmony ceases.  It’s often difficult for each person to be themselves, to sing their own part and somehow find harmony with those around them.  It takes practice, patience, understanding and listening from a place of love in order to harmonize with others.  We cannot come to the piano bench expecting to play life’s keys perfectly without listening for those around us as they play their tune as well.

Listening to others’ tunes, hearing how they hit the notes, noticing which ones they miss and how they feel about harmony takes practice.  Being in an observer mode, hearing our own notes and seeing the whole orchestral piece of music helps the players get along and helps the musical piece rise to new heights.

To be in tune with ourselves is a gift, like The Presents of Presence.  To appreciate the music in others is a precious gift as well.  It takes courage to play our own tune.  It takes love to harmonize with others.  But when it all comes together, love shines through the blended piece!

Today, listen to your song.  Take a moment to listen to Nature.  As you pass through the lives of others today, whether it is a brief encounter or a lifelong relationship, hum your song and listen as others tune in with harmony!

Shine On!

xo

 

How to Speak

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Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you.

Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.

I love to feel like I can make a difference in someone else’s day and I love when my day is changed for the better by someone else, don’t you?  I think the central piece that we forget sometimes is that we are all connected and in reconnecting with others through our conversations, it elevates our vibrations and makes for a significant change for the better.  Does this make sense to you?

Hold close in your heart those with whom you speak who lift you up.

I was blessed to spend some quality time with my sister AAngel on Sunday morning.  We shared some coffee time before our households emerged from their sleepy cocoons.  It’s rare that we have any time to ourselves to just connect again and I always know when we’ve disconnected as seemingly casual remarks sting when they’re not meant to be anything like they’ve been interpreted at all.  So it was a wonderful gift that we were given when we were able to just sit and talk about life, how we feel and reconnect soul to soul.  Sometimes, we are not so close and I miss that special, loving connection that we share. What a blessing to have had a chance to see each other and share the morning’s peacefulness!

In the hustle and bustle of our lives, that static noise of go go go sometimes drowns out what’s most important ~ love and understanding ~ connecting with others ~ listening, really listening soul to soul to another person in a loving way.  Not trying to fix anything, but just being there to hold a hand and a heart and to give of yourself.  And that’s exactly what we were able to do Sunday morning…we were able to just be with eachother, to hold our hands and hearts for a little while, to heal our heavy hearts and to feel the connection of sisterhood and of knowing that we understand the other person.

Today I wish you that peace in your conversations ~ I wish you healing, love and connections.  I’m here to listen ~ and to speak when needed.  Come sit by me and let’s chat! 

Happy Monday!

Shine On!

xo

I recently found the above quote and unfortunately I can’t find to whom I should attribute it ~ do you happen to know?  But I decided to write the quote and make a card of it with my SendOutCards.  Do you have a quote you like?  Want to try to make a card for free with your favorite quote?  Just click here  to try to do it yourself.  It is simple to do, just click and drag!  There are lots of elements, templates etc to choose from!

You have the Power!

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word,

a listening ear, an honest compliment,

or the smallest act of caring,

all of which have the potential to turn a life around. Leo Buscaglia

I picked this card because of it’s simplicity…and most of all, because of what it says…yet again, another reminder that we are all connected my friends.  As yesterday’s post was about sharing, I want to continue in that vein because we all have the POWER to TURN A LIFE AROUND ~ EVEN OUR OWN!

I’ve experienced this kindness multiple times in my life ~ those soul stretching pockets of time that stand still in our memories ~ because they change something within us.

Nazrin was a nurse at Memorial Sloan Kettering who changed my life in an instant.   When given the news that I was to have a mastectomy, I was brought into the room to meet one of the nurses who would be helping me along the way.  I was not expecting this news so I was shocked to say the least and having to make a lot of life changing decisions without having time to process the information of the upcoming surgery.

I felt alone, in despair and confused…weak and saddened and so unsure of everything.   My husband and I were simply shocked.

I was sitting down and Nazrin came in ~ surveyed the situation and immediately smiled.   After introducing herself to my husband and to me, she did the most remarkable thing ~ so simple, yet so powerful…

She took my chin in her hand and made me look at her.  Staring straight into my scared eyes, she gently said to me,

“You can do this ~ I know you can.  I will do this with you.”

Yet another person in my life, a stranger at the time, told me that they believed in me…and that they would do this with me.

I can’t even begin to tell you how much it meant to me.  In fact, I don’t think there are enough words to properly explain that feeling.

“I will do this with you.”

Yes, I have Faith and yes, I have a loving husband who has supported me without fail…but a stranger?

I can confirm that true to her word, Nazrin was always there for me during my journey and I am forever grateful.

~ Always Remember ~

You have the Power…

xo