Tag Archive | letting go

The Present Moment

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With the uncertainty of life, we let go when we have exhausted all means of control.  Sometimes it takes us longer to finally come to the conclusion that there are simply parts of life that we must allow for we cannot stop them.  For a planner like me, it’s always felt unacceptable.  Searching my brain, I would try to come up with endless ways to make whatever situation better for me, my family, my friends ~ relentlessly trying to improve a situation that I found unacceptable because it was causing someone else or me pain.

But there are times now, after sleepless nights of fret, worry and planning, that I am learning, albeit slowly, to let go and to allow God and the Universe to proceed.  What I’ve learned in the wee hours of the morning is to go with the flow, release, let the river take its course and have faith that as long as I can put my head on the pillow in peace, knowing I have done all with a loving heart, there is nothing more I can do.

However, it’s hard ~ this letting go.  So I am learning to let go and let God ~ and let Him in.

I think it’s human nature to believe we’ve got this, we can figure it out and make it work.  But we forget that there is God, the Universe and the Laws of Attraction who also carry us when we allow them to work their ‘magic’ as well.

Being in the present moment is a life lesson worth learning for me.  I am watching my Mom struggle with Alzheimer’s and being in the present moment with her.  Sometimes her present moment isn’t ‘reality’ but wherever her brain is at the time.  So to honor her, we gather in her present moment and support her, enjoying whatever gifts we can.

It’s a shift of thinking that has taken me a long time to accept and to process in my own brain.  However, love is accepting and above all, I love my Mom.  So I accept where she is at any given moment.  I’ve come a long way baby, but I still have much to learn.

Isn’t that the way life school is anyway?  Learn, practice and love?

Shine On!

xo

Letting Go of Expectations

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Do you make New Year’s Resolutions?  Truthfully, it’s been a long time since I’ve tried to do it myself.  But I’d love to know if you do make resolutions and if you stick with them?  And if you are successful, would you let us all in on your secret?  Pretty please?

Because this year, I’m not making any resolutions in the traditional sense.  Instead, I plan to build on lessons I’ve learned and to expand them.  Does that sound confusing?  Well, let me try to explain.

For example, I have a hard time with expectations.  Perhaps it is unrealistic, but somehow I expect people to be kind and to communicate because that’s what I try to do.  However, my unmet expectations gave me so much unrest in 2016, that I am finally letting them go.  Just because communication is important to me, I realize that it may not be so important to others.  So I’m releasing that give and take expectation and just accepting the reality of the current situation.  I think it’s healthier for me and in 2017, that’s my goal!

Do you have certain expectations which fall short in your life?  How do you handle them?  If you have any advice, I’m open to reading any suggestions you may want to share.

May 2017 bring you peace, joy, health, wealth and love!

Shine On!

xo

Celebrating Our Next Chapter

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I was lost in the abyss this morning, firmly settled in a quagmire of sadness, hurt and resentment.  Beliefs that I had held so firmly in my mind and heart had unraveled to a point of no return and although I mentally understood, I wasn’t able to make peace with them in my heart.

Until now…

Here’s what helped me ~ advice from a dear friend…maybe it will help you!

A shift is a baby step, it needn’t be a giant step, it only needs to be an awareness of choice that we take.  No matter your hardship – be it financial, relationships or health, you always have a choice.  Sometimes a shift is merely the reminder that we have the ability to choose once we let go and remember we can choose.

Because remember…

We always have the free will of choice.  Celebrate with me today as we embrace the dawn of a new day.  We celebrate our gift of choice and we become the President of our own journey.  Embrace your throne, and your position at the helm of your own perfect lifeboat.  You are the captain, the pilot and the first mate of your own journey.  Rejoice in the knowing of your soul that you are exactly in the right place in your journey on this planet.  Find gratitude in the gift of a new day and a new chapter on which you write as you are the author of your life.

So today…

I declare a celebration for us all.  Souls rejoice in the kind, loving choices we make for ourselves.  Smile and shine your heartlights dear friends.  Be free, let go and stand proudly in the wheelhouse for this is your life to enjoy!

Shine On!

xo

Saying Goodbye To A House

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Saying goodbye has always been hard for me.  It’s always been that way my whole life.  To let go is a right of passage and even though I’m letting go of a home which was never mine, it’s just making me sad.  I guess it’s the final part of an era in my Aunts’ lives and it’s breaking my heart.

I can’t figure out why I am so sad for honestly I am so very happy that the closing is scheduled and we have successfully gotten it into selling condition after all that we had to do.  But there’s a small part of me which can’t stop crying for the bereft feeling inside that I can’t label.

I wrote this a few weeks ago and simply couldn’t post it.  I was intensely sad to let go of an era ~ not so much for me, but for my family.  But now it’s a few weeks later and I’ve got some clarity.  Isn’t that always the way ~ get into the observer mode in your life, let a little time pass and voila, you understand all the tears, you can deal with the grief in a better way and you can let go of whatever it was you were holding onto back then.

Time heals by lessening hurts.  Although I don’t think some hurts ever truly heal or for that matter, some emptinesses never can be fully filled.  But we can move on, we can take baby steps towards healing and we can fill the emptiness with healing love.

Shockingly, I think it helps when people have Alzheimer’s Disease and Dementia in some cases like this one.  They simply don’t remember the life they had a few months ago.  There doesn’t seem to be any hurt or sadness in the present moment, there is only presence, love and happiness.  Sure we’ve had times whereby my family members get confused with the past and present, but a gentle change in direction of conversations or a redirect in a kind way, helps immensely.

Shine On!

xo

Sometimes, we just don’t think. Kintsukuroi

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Sometimes, we just don’t think. Kintsukuroi.

This post from dear Wendy over at Ramblings and Musings also known as Wendy Shares A Thought touched my heart and I knew I had to reblog it for you as well.  Many of us have old wounds and scars, but to mend ourselves to be even more beautiful than we once were, to accept and dignify ‘the new normal’ is to kintsukuroi our lives!

Shine On dearest ones!

You are always beautiful to me!

xo

Let Go of 2013

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One of the happiest moments ever is when you feel the courage to let go of what you can’t change.

As 2013 winds down, it’s time for clearing, time for looking back upon the past year and settling it in the present.  It’s time to plan for the future in the present tense and to allow the beauty of the present moment to shine its shining star upon our lives.  It’s a time to reevaluate priorities, to engage in the lesson planning for the coming year and to develop a theme for what we are setting out to accomplish.

I’m not one for New Year’s Resolutions as it gives me too much agita when they go awry.  Instead, I am working on a theme for 2014.  No best laid plans, but instead a red carpet runner which includes what I am setting out to accomplish ~ one baby step at a time.  To me, it’s better to divide and conquer in small steps than it is to establish grandiose plans which in an instant can be wiped out tsunami-style in the blink of a disappointed eye.

Letting go is my theme for the next few days, purging what doesn’t suit and what doesn’t feel right anymore.  It takes courage to do this you know.  To allow the judgments to have their own and to be at peace within in order to go on.  Peace has settled within me lately and I’m finding the joy in simply being present and allowing that presence to shine.

May your essence shine as well today and always.

Shine On!

xo

My heartfelt thanks to my fellow blogger who inspires me with Chalkboard Quotes.  Click LetGo to see the original post which inspired mine.