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See With Your Heartlight

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It is only with the heart that one can see rightly;

what is essential is invisible to the eye.

~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery, The Little Prince

This quote found me this morning and I knew I had to share it with you.  Have you ever read The Little Prince?  What do you remember about it?  Please share below!

Shine On!

xo

Cancer Connections

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You gain strength, courage, and confidence

by every experience in which you really stop

to look fear in the face.

You are able to say to yourself,

“I lived through this horror.

I can take the next thing that comes along.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

Sitting in the oncologist office waiting room, I had some time to look around at all the other people there waiting patiently for their names to be called.  I’ve done this before and I seem to do it every time I’m there.  I smile at the others in the room, because I figure if you are here, then we’ve got a connection.  Because let’s face it, there are plenty of other places to sit in this big ole world and I bet you wouldn’t choose the oncology waiting room to hang out in if you didn’t need to be there.  Or if your loved one didn’t need to be there.

Cancer evens us out.  Strange to say, right?  But I find that those of us who have endured cancer find it easier to simply connect with someone else who has been in the same boat.  It’s that common ground that we search for when we connect with someone else.  By simply being in the same doctor’s office, we can pretty much bet we’ve got or had the Big C and we’re hoping to get better and stay healthy.

Cancer isn’t choosy.  It doesn’t discriminate between races or genders.  Old or young, it matters not.  It comes in changing the lives of its patients and those who surround them.  Cancer bonds people.  Cancer breaks people down.  Cancer divides. Cancer unifies.  Cancer conquers some people and yet, there are others who conquer cancer.  It’s an equal-opportunity disease for which there’s no cure, yet.

Cancer connects people in ways that they might not necessarily connect.  The fear of death and the horror of cancer treatments, etc.  give you a bird’s eye view of what you are truly made of and there’s no place for sissy’s with cancer.  No matter with whom you talk, we’ve all had sleepless nights filled with worry and repeatedly question at every tumor marker test, if cancer has returned.  Many of us have endured surgeries, chemotherapy, radiation, blood tests, needles, being poked and prodded by countless professionals and staff.  We’ve lost our hair, body parts and our dignity.  But I’ve learned that we don’t lose our loving hearts, nor our need for comfort or our precious souls to cancer.   It’s given me a new outlook on life.  Sure cancer has weakened parts of my life, but it also strengthened me.  It’s given me lessons on human nature that I would have never understood had I not endured the cancer.  It’s made me appreciate the little things and be unafraid of dying.  It’s changed my life in good and bad ways, but I try to concentrate on the good in my life at every turn.

What has cancer done in your life?

Shine On!

xo

The Shift

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Please click here  to watch The Shift for free.  It’s an amazing opportunity that I received in my email last night.  I have watched this myself and it was life-changing.  I hope you enjoy the gift from his family.

Shine On!

xo

Rest in Peace, Dr. Wayne Dyer

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“We are not our bodies, our possessions

or our careers.

Who we are is Divine Love

and that is Infinite.”

~Dr. Wayne Dyer

One of my favorite authors whose words have inspired me time and again passed away.  Today’s post is dedicated to Dr. Wayne Dyer who is the author of many books, cd’s and movies which I have enjoyed over the years.  This is the quote and photo which his family put on his FB page today.

Rest in Peace Wayne on your Continuation Day.

Shine On!

xo

Never Give Up!

Remember when you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer,never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn. ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe

Shine On!

xo

I Hope You Dance

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I Hope You Dance

I’m including the video and lyrics to the song above which came out in 2000.  Back then, it was special to me because I thought it was what I wanted my children to learn about life.  Now it is a gentle reminder for myself as well. ♥

May you be reminded and inspired today and everyday ~ Keep your heartlight shining!

Shine On!

xo

I Hope You Dance ~ Lee Ann Womack

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder,
You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger,
May you never take one single breath for granted,
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed,
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean,
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,
Promise me that you’ll give faith a fighting chance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

I hope you dance….I hope you dance.

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance,
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Livin’ might mean takin’ chances but they’re worth takin’,
Lovin’ might be a mistake but it’s worth makin’,
Don’t let some hell bent heart leave you bitter,
When you come close to sellin’ out reconsider,
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

I hope you dance….I hope you dance.
I hope you dance….I hope you dance.
(Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along,
Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder where those years have gone.)

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean,
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,
Promise me that you’ll give faith a fighting chance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

Dance….I hope you dance.
I hope you dance….I hope you dance.
I hope you dance….I hope you dance..
(Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along
Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder where those years have gone)

When You’re Down and Troubled…

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When you’re down and troubled…

reach out, for you’ve got a friend.

I’ve not been posting recently, but I’m back and trying to catch up with my blog reading that I’ve missed.  As I was wandering through your posts dear friends, I noticed that some of you are having major troubles of your own.  In your posts, I read/hear/understand that illness/stress/dementia etc. have got you down.  I’ve been there.  To a few of you, I suggested baby steps, positivity and gratitude for what we do have right at this moment for those are what have helped me through my journey.  But what if you are spinning and simply don’t know how to deal with the mess you’re in?  It’s easy to read suggestions, but harder to accomplish them when you are not able to muster the energy to begin.  Sometimes you need a friend to walk with you, to hold your hand, to praise the baby steps as you begin again.

I understand.

But, you also need to inspire yourself in little ways that work for you.  Nobody wants to be around someone who is complaining, crying all the time and not trying to help themselves.  Throw the pity party when you need to, but realize that if you continue to want to party that way, there will be fewer in attendance.  Also realize that everyone has their own messes that they are working on, so it’s not necessarily that they don’t want to help you, but that they simply can’t at this time.  I think we get caught up in the web of nobody cares, when the truth is that they do care and they are also doing the best they can under their circumstances.

It’s hard, I know.  It takes patience, kindness (to ourselves and others) to heal.  It takes effort on our own parts to change our lives and it’s not an overnight fix.  It’s taking baby steps towards the goal.

For those of you on a rocky road right now, let’s work together.  Reach out and we can support eachother’s efforts right here.  Anyone want to share this period of time in their journey?  If you are interested, I can make up a simple course for us to do together.  Let me know!

You’ve got a friend.

Shine On!

xo

Dealing With Alzheimer’s and Dementia

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Our minds work in mysterious ways.  What triggers some utterances from the mouths of someone with Alzheimer’s disease and dementia can be mind-blowing to the listener as I’ve learned first hand.  The associations that they make and willfully say aloud can be very hurtful and they are not aware of the power of their words nor the sadness that it evokes to the recipient.  I try to figure out what makes their minds tick the way they do and I try desperately to unscramble the mixed messages, but to no avail.  It is heart-wrenching to witness and even harder to comfort myself and them.

I feel utterly alone.  The worst part is that they don’t remember what they say to me.  I can’t explain to them why it hurts.  I can only change the subject and move on, even when my heart is heavy with sadness, hurt and pain.  They forget what has been said when I change the subject, but I continue to remember and try to put on a happy face.  But the pain digs deep into my soul.

It is hard to manage and be a caregiver to someone whose mind is not working properly and I have two of them at present.  I’m learning the hard way to go with the flow, to deflect conversations and to change subjects quickly in order to protect myself.  I bite my tongue…a lot!  It isn’t easy.  It’s like I’m on edge during every conversation as I do not know what will come into their minds and out of their mouths.  It changes moment to moment, sometimes circling back to reality, but many times, there are misunderstandings as their brains fire and connect or disconnect at a moment’s notice.  I think it would be easier if they weren’t family members for then I wouldn’t feel the pain of the stings or hold onto their thoughts.  I would just let it be.  I would be able to rearrange the conversation later in my head and remind myself that it’s not about me, that it’s simply the disease talking.  I wouldn’t take to heart so deeply what is being said.  I wouldn’t get caught up in their confusion.  I would simply be able to redirect without trying to explain myself or reiterate for the thousandth time what the truth is or reiterate the lies that a loved one is resting instead of allowing their pain to hit them again and again.

It’s exhausting.

For them, for me, for our family, for the healthcare workers.

So today, please send out a prayer of support and healing to all who care.

Shine On!

xo

Roses For You!

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“Don’t strew me with roses after I’m dead. 

When Death claims the light of my brow

no flowers of life will cheer me;

instead you may give me my roses now!”

~ Thomas F. Healey

I’ve always said that I’d prefer my flowers now and not on my casket.  So let me take this moment to tell you all in writing how I feel.  Not that I’m going anywhere soon (as far as I know), but when I found this rose photo and then the quote above, well, I just thought it was time to talk about it.

How do you feel about flowers?  Would you prefer to have some fresh flowers around the house now ~ cut flowers in a pretty vase or in your garden to enjoy while you’re alive ~ or flowers strewn across your casket after you are gone?  I am not trying to take away from anyone else’s traditions, this is just my own point of view here.

I want to enjoy the fragrance of sweet roses, lilacs, gardenias and honeysuckle now while I’m alive and able to smell their heavenly fragrance instead of having them go to waste when I’m dead.  I want to delight in the springtime daffodils, tulips and crocus as they brave the beginnings of the Springtime thaw from Winter.  I delight in the beauty and aroma of all flowers (with the exception of lilies whose smell makes me feel a bit sick).

How do you feel about flowers after you are gone?  Would you prefer to enjoy them while you are alive?  And/or do you imagine a casket festooned with flowers to go onto the next chapter of your journey?

What’s your favorite flower?

Just wondering…

Shine On!

xo

P.S.  Just an FYI, a small bouquet of fragrant pink roses for me will be fine after I’m gone.

P. P. S.  I’m not planning on leaving anytime soon though! ♥