Once I was told, “You can’t make someone love you,” and a surging feeling of sadness enveloped me at that very moment. I struggled to understand what she meant by the seemingly offhanded comment. If my heart is so full of love for someone, why couldn’t they love me? It seemed preposterous at the time for I truly believed that love could conquer all problems.
But in this case, I found her words to ring true.
My love could not conquer all problems. Without love on both sides and a willingness to listen, to speak honestly and to be vulnerable, there is no healing or reconciliation. Relationships can be messy as I’ve learned, although truthfully, I’ve known this for a long time. Haven’t you? There’s that old adage of “he said, she said,” which really means “he thinks, she thinks” and there’s little middle ground to forge a bridge between them when both sides don’t listen and share, give and take, and do so without keeping score.
It’s been a life long lesson for me that I am still learning, albeit slowly. Behind my rose-colored glasses there’s a girl who still believes in love and who still loves with her whole heart. Another friend once told me that my heart breaks open wider because I love with my whole heart and that most people do not open themselves up that wide and with so much vulnerability. I felt sad, but I can only be who I am. Innately, I love with my whole heart and truly, I have had that heart broken wide open, shattered beyond recognition.
But in slowly gathering up the pieces, one by one, holding each piece of my heart tenderly, I’ve put my heart back together. I’ve restored my soul and chosen to live my life again, with whole-warmheartedness, continuing to love with my whole heart and not just with the broken pieces that I took time to mold back together again.
There are those whom I’ve met, who have been wounded to the core of their beings and they vow that they will never love again that way. I understand the feeling of needing protection and of guarding our hearts. Feeling broken-hearted is utterly painful and as humans, we try to safeguard ourselves from pain in every moment. But there is something precious in loving with our whole hearts, that I can’t let go of, as I believe it is innate with me, a part of me that still believes in love.
I agree that we can’t make someone love us, but we can still love them. Obviously not in the stalker way, but with a small piece of peace in our hearts. Love their essence, love that part of them you once treasured, love the memories of your entwined journey that were beautiful. Let go of the past. Move forward into the light. You can survive a broken heart with grace and dignity. Allow your heartlight to shine radiantly as you move forward in peace. A loving heart like ours never dies. Our heartlights may dim for a bit, but love is a precious gift that we give to ourselves and we give to others. Let your heart be full of love.
Life flows when we give and when we accept the blessings given to us. Expressing gratitude is not difficult, but certainly is necessary. Being appreciative for the blessings bestowed on us, little or big, requires being in a place of gratitude. For when we ‘count our blessings’ we invite more blessings because we are showing appreciation.
Lately, I’ve been expressing my gratitude to God and to the Universe for the blessings which have been given to me. It seems that the more I thank God and the Universe for even the simplest of gifts, the more blessings flow to me. It’s that Law of Attraction mentality I think. Have you heard of Law of Attraction? I’ve written many posts on it before in my blog. Just search Law of Attraction and surely you’ll find more about it here.
I think in our busy lives we forget to be grateful for the simplest things which we take for granted. We become disconnected with the gifts we receive in our daily life. Just having shelter, food, health, love and income, bare minimums is a blessing that we forget to acknowledge for there are many who lack these minimums. Instead I think sometimes we are focused on what we don’t have or what we want, instead of what we currently have. It’s a different way of thinking for some, but it’s a choice in how you look at it.
Is that glass half full or half empty for you?
Or are you just grateful to have the glass that can be refilled?
That’s how life is – you choose how you look at things and you can choose again when you learn more about life. That’s the great part of life lessons! We learn and grow at different speeds, but as we connect, we learn more because we share our lessons with those who are interested in connecting.
I have learned so much from blogging friendships that we’ve made and from friends who have taken the time to share what they have learned from life lessons. My heartfelt thanks to all of you! I hope that in some way, I have helped you as well.
Just a little mid-week reminder for those who choose love!
The thought that imagination is the creativity of the soul came to me. When was the last time you used your imagination? As children we imagine all sorts of things when we freely play. I remember playing house, making mudpies and pretending I was a wife and mother. I remember imagining I was a princess. I remember imagining I was free to fly like a bird!
What do you remember about your childhood and using your imagination?
Better yet, when was the last time you used your imagination? As adults I believe we put away our imaginations in order to be ‘grown up’ and deal with ‘reality’ because that’s what we are told that grown ups do. However, imagination is a wonderful tool to improve our grown up lives as well and it’s one I think we don’t use enough.
Imagination allows the soul to flourish, to blossom and to achieve what our limited minds cannot. Goals and dreams can become reality when we use our imaginations, but often, we find imagination a childish whim and discard the powerful tool we have been given.
Dr. Wayne Dyer wrote a book called, You’ll See it When You Believe It: The Way to Your Personal Transformation. In this book, he shows how to improve one’s quality of life by tapping into the power within in order to direct the course of one’s destiny. In other words, using your mind/imagination to make things happen!
Give yourself permission to use your imagination in your everyday life. Imagine the plethora of possibilities with positivity! Imagine what your life would feel like to be happy, healthy, and limitless! Just do this a little everyday and let us know how life changes for you! I imagine life will improve for you!
May God give you…
For every storm, a rainbow,
For every tear, a smile,
For every care, a promise,
And a blessing in each trial.
For every problem life sends,
A faithful friend to share,
For every sigh, a sweet song,
And an answer for each prayer.
I loved this Irish blessing and prayer and I share it with you today. Be present in whatever is happening in your life and never lose faith in all that you can do with the help of friends, family and God.
When you don’t have a ‘valentine’ to love on Valentine’s Day it can feel awkward, especially if in years past, you did have someone whom you loved, but for whatever reason, you are not together anymore. Separations can be due to a variety of reasons which makes it hard when it seems like the whole world is celebrating a day of love with their sweetie.
But, I like to think of Valentine’s Day as a holiday for cherishing the relationships we have with others! It doesn’t need to be only romantic love that we celebrate that day! Not at all! For me, since my circumstances have changed, I celebrate Valentine’s Day with gratitude for my children, my family, my soul family and my friends who have filled my life with love. In fact, let’s celebrate Valentine’s Day together as you’re a part of my blogging family filled with love! Thanks for being here with me. I celebrate our connections today too!
So tomorrow, when the heart rises to meet the day, smile! Greet the hearts and flowers day with gratitude for all of the love you have shared on your life’s journey! Give thanks for the past loves, the present loves and look forward to the future loves! But above all, enjoy the present love which envelopes your heart and soul today! Enjoy the little kindnesses that are shown to you and smile to pass along those kindnesses as well. We could have a lovefest here on Planet Earth if everyone, for just one day, loved all humankind. Wouldn’t that be the very best Valentine’s Day ever?
So how about you? How are you celebrating Valentine’s Day?
Two years ago, my Aunt AAngel passed away. She was very special to us and was a part of our family’s life for more than 60 years. AAngel wasn’t a biological aunt, but instead, a part of our family by love. I am not sure if anyone remembers that she passed away two years ago, but her loved ones who have memory issues, were talking about her suddenly and I found it interesting.
I have a theory that our loved ones who have passed, visit us. Has this ever happened to you? With memory issues, my aunt who was most impacted by her passing, forgets that AAngel has passed away and believes instead, she is visiting her own family. But the other night, suddenly my aunt wanted to talk on the phone with me to tell me how she had been talking with AAngel. What I found as a precious coincidence is that the very same day marked the two year anniversary of her passing.
When a loved one passes, I think they often check in on those of us who are here on Earth, still in human form. They hover around, comforting us when we are grieving if we would only open our hearts and minds to see the signs. We’ve all heard of feathers, pennies from Heaven, songs being played on the radio, etc. as signs that our angels are nearby. Has this ever happened to you? I know I’ve been visited in dreams by loved ones who have passed away and I always take it as a confirmation that they are sending a little bit of love and connecting with me. I don’t think love ever really dies, it simply changes form. It may get harder to see those whom we loved who have passed, but their loving essence only fades in human form. The loving bond we share, remains eternal.
For what’s the legacy we leave behind after we’ve passed except for the remembrance in the hearts of those still here on Earth? Sure, we can leave material goods and be remembered, but to be remembered in the hearts and minds of those who truly loved us, is a precious legacy.
So today, let’s take a moment to remember those precious souls who have passed and left a precious legacy in our hearts. Feel the gratitude in knowing them. Then, as we go about our day, let’s keep that reminder and do for others so that one day, we may be remembered in a special way.
Have you ever been visited by a loved one who has passed away? What signs have you received? Please share!
is the most powerful,
and most underrated agent
of human change.
~ Bob Kerrey
I recently had an old friend reach out to me. She texted me, “I will take care of you,” in response to a concern of mine that we had been talking about that day. In true text form, she added the emojis of pink double hearts and added, “love you.”
I don’t know why it hit me so hard that she replied out of the blue in that way, but it did. To the core of my heartlight, her response, zinged me with a confetti of warmth, understanding, love and an overwhelming gratitude to her for her unexpected kindness.
Do you know what I mean? Have you ever felt this way as well?
Sometimes, it’s the simplest offer of friendship and connection that helps us along the bumpy paths of life. Knowing her, she simply reached out in kindness for that’s the type of person she is and she probably didn’t think twice about what she wrote to me as she is a kind-hearted loving human being and we have been friends for years, even though we don’t see each other too often.
I found the above image on Canva and just knew I had to share it today with you. For you see, one small kindness delivered with a loving heart, can connect and raise up another’s heartlight. My heart, even one day later, feels as if it is bursting with sunshine, hope, happiness, love and gratitude.
So today dear friends, I’m sharing her message with you, with the same loving heartlight…
I will take care of you…
P.S. Today’s post is dedicated to E.S. ♥ Love you too!
In honor of the canonization of Mother Teresa today, please watch the video below, in her own words, speaking of love.
“Where does this love begin? In our own family, in our own home. How does it begin? By praying together. Family that prays together, stays together and if you stay together, you will love one another as God loves each one of you
Today in the world there is so much suffering. Because of that one of prayer of unity in the family so today when we are together, let us make one strong resolution that we will bring prayer into our family, that we will teach our children to pray and pray with them and you will see the joy and the love and the peace that will come into your hearts. Because the fruit of prayer is the deepening of faith and the fruit of faith is love and the fruit of love is service and the fruit of service is peace. Works of love are works of peace that is why let us bring the tender love of God in our families.”
~Mother Teresa, speech on Love
Love one another.