I’m sharing snippets from here in hopes that what I have learned from Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, MD, will help you along the way. Please note that her intention was to apply her 5 stages of grief to the survivors of a loved one’s death or to people who are facing their own impending death.
For me, I think the stages can be applied to any sense of loss be it financial, health, relationship, etc. Please note that italicized words are directly from her website listed above.
A little background:
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, M.D. ~ A pioneer in Near-death studies and the author of the groundbreaking book On Death and Dying(1969), where she first discussed what is now known as the Kübler-Ross model. In this work she proposed the now famous Five Stages of Grief as a pattern of adjustment. These five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. In general, individuals experience most of these stages, though in no defined sequence, after being faced with the reality of their impending death. The five stages have since been adopted by many as applying to the survivors of a loved one’s death, as well.
Here, I found a simple way to look at…
The Five Stages of Grief
Have you ever heard of them? When you think about your life right now, do any of these feel familiar? At times, I think we can stagnate in the stages of grief, burying ourselves in them like an old comfy blanket. It’s not even that we flow through the stages in a predictable way. Sometimes, we dance through them like an untrained cha-cha, forward and backwards with no sense of timing. It helps when a friend can reach out to share the journey with you and recognize if you cannot, the stages you’ve endured and where you are right now.
Many times in my life, I have flowed through the stages, in varying degrees for various experiences which I’ve endured. The bottom line is that through grief, we are searching for a new normal because the ‘normal’ that we knew, no longer applies to the present reality in our lives. It’s in this way that the stages are good for us all.
It’s not an easy path to a ‘new normal’ when we must accept change. But it is something we are all capable of learning, growing and flowing through with help. I encourage you to reach out, to read and to ask for help. We are here, those of us who have endured all different aspects of life’s journey. You are not alone.
P.S. Have you ever heard of the 5 stages of grief before? Have you any experience with them? Please share below! xo