Tag Archive | health

Need Help When You’re Grieving?

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I’m sharing snippets from here  in hopes that what I have learned from Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, MD, will help you along the way.  Please note that her intention was to apply her 5 stages of grief to the survivors of a loved one’s death or to people who are facing their own impending death.

For me, I think the stages can be applied to any sense of loss be it financial, health, relationship, etc.  Please note that italicized words are directly from her website listed above.

A little background:

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, M.D. ~ A pioneer in Near-death studies and the author of the groundbreaking book On Death and Dying(1969), where she first discussed what is now known as the Kübler-Ross model. In this work she proposed the now famous Five Stages of Grief as a pattern of adjustment. These five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. In general, individuals experience most of these stages, though in no defined sequence, after being faced with the reality of their impending death. The five stages have since been adopted by many as applying to the survivors of a loved one’s death, as well.

Here, I found a simple way to look at…

The Five Stages of Grief

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance

Have you ever heard of them?  When you think about your life right now, do any of these feel familiar?  At times, I think we can stagnate in the stages of grief, burying ourselves in them like an old comfy blanket.  It’s not even that we flow through the stages in a predictable way.  Sometimes, we dance through them like an untrained cha-cha, forward and backwards with no sense of timing.  It helps when a friend can reach out to share the journey with you and recognize if you cannot, the stages you’ve endured and where you are right now.

Many times in my life, I have flowed through the stages, in varying degrees for various experiences which I’ve endured.  The bottom line is that through grief, we are searching for a new normal because the ‘normal’ that we knew, no longer applies to the present reality in our lives.  It’s in this way that the stages are good for us all.

It’s not an easy path to a ‘new normal’ when we must accept change.  But it is something we are all capable of learning, growing and flowing through with help.  I encourage you to reach out, to read and to ask for help.  We are here, those of us who have endured all different aspects of life’s journey.  You are not alone.

Shine On!

xo

P.S.  Have you ever heard of the 5 stages of grief before?  Have you any experience with them?  Please share below! xo

If there are no ups and downs in your life…

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If there are no ups and downs in your life

It means you are dead.

Life is short.  We need to live while we are here ~ make the most of every day, reach out to everyone with kindness, do your best, be happy, make others happy by being your loving self!  Come on ~ you can do it!  It’s Monday, start the week off right!

As you go through the day, remember the above phrase for it puts everything in perspective, doesn’t it?

Happy Monday!

Shine On!

xo

Rule Your Mind

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“Rule your mind or it will rule you.” – Horace

Need I say more?  Giggle Giggle!  You know what I mean don’t you?  Stop worrying!  Stop fretting!  Stop allowing chaos to capture your mind!  You are the ruler of your mind.  When chaos enters, show it the door out!  Worrying about situations that we cannot or even those that we can control does nothing to help you, only to harm you for as you worry, your body reacts.  Your body gets agitated, cells become nervous as well, giving off negativity and allowing dis-ease to integrate itself into your healthy cells, thus making your healthy body sick.  The degree of sickness often correlates with the amount of stress/worry/upset your mind has been carrying.

I realize that there are situations that are worrisome.  I have endured plenty, as have we all.  But if you can take a few moments here and there during the day to simply allow peace to enter your brain, relax your body, hand over the worries to the Divine, to God or to your Higher Power, then you allow the cells in your body to calm themselves as well, in order to find a tidbit of peace in which to heal and to hold that place of health.

Worrying does not change the situation at all.  There is no amount of worry that will change any type of situation you are enduring.  Worry simply put, works against your health and your wellness of body, mind and spirit.  This is something that you can control dear friends.  You can show anxiety the door and shut it tightly.  Do not open the door when worry knocks.  Ignore it.  Stay on your path of health.  Keep your mind at peace.  Continue to see the good in your situation (and it may take work), but you can do it.  It’s possible to change the way you look at your situation simply by feeding it gratitude for the gifts you already have.

Problems with health, wealth and relationships can change when you change the way you are looking at them and reacting with those situations.  The changes happen in your mind and soul and then goodness can spill out into your body, your vibrational energy and your whole life.  What you give out, comes back to you.  The caveat is that if you are focused intently on the worry, the anxiety or the sadness, you are blinded to recognizing the opportunities for light, love and happiness.  In short, you may miss out on the health, wealth and connections you have in your life.

We are not all islands.  We are connected as energy to everyone and everything in our lives.  As I’ve been quoted before, “use your power for good,” and the rest will follow suit.  Be bright, be your innate good self and allow your essence of happy to perfume the air around you.  Raise your vibrations, release the anxiety and worry.  Embrace the peace which comes from within when your mind is tranquil.

There’s no magic pill, my friends.  There are only gentle reminders of inspiration, positivity and loving light that heal you inside.  Release, rest and regenerate for we only have this moment.  We are only given this present of now for sure.  It’s what you do with that present that counts.  Do not waste your gift on idle worry.  Rule your mind with kindness and loving affection.  You are all in my prayers.  As always, I embrace your loving essence and I give you mine.

Allow the precious gift of calm to envelope your mind, heart, body and soul today and everyday.

Shine On!

xo

 

 

Attention on the Now

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“Focus your attention on the Now and tell

me what problem you have at this moment.”

~ Eckhart Tolle

There are times when we feel overwhelmed by all that is going on within us and around us.  Relationships, finances, health issues and our own minds can clog with problems and we feel like we have problems with everything.  Maybe we do, but in this very moment, the quote above from Tolle reminds us to breathe and to concentrate on ‘what problem you have at this moment.’  In this very instant, be grateful for all that we have.

So let’s be grateful for what we share.  Be grateful for the world such as it is ~ the beauty of Mother Nature, the sweet melody of the animals, the fact that in this very moment, we are here to enjoy our lives.  Be present.  Be open.  Be grateful for all the little, sometimes subtle blessings in your life.

Perhaps your relationships are stormy, be present, carve out a moment for yourself to enjoy the peace within you.  Perhaps your health is an issue, be grateful for your breath, focus on breathing, feel your body and cells ignite with positivity.  Your body is a well-organized machine that your mind runs.  Clear your mind, think good thoughts and your body responds.  Perhaps your finances are giving you trouble.  Then bless your bills, be grateful for shelter, and the comforts of home that you have now in this moment.  You have infinite power to change.

Now, in this moment, you are here, you are blessed.  You are perfect, whole and complete.  In this very instance you have all you need in order to succeed.  You have yourself.  You can overcome any obstacles in your path.  You have no problems that you cannot surmount.  Once you make up your mind that you have no problems in this very moment, it becomes clear that we can eliminate the sadness, the hurt, the anger and the problems and move on to peace.

Use this moment to find the peace within you.  Surround yourself with a loving embrace.

Smile.  All is well, moment to moment.

Shine On!

xo

What’s on the other side of every fear?

freedom1“Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom.”

~ Marilyn Ferguson

Sit with this for a moment.  Allow the quote to enter your mind, your heart and your spirit.  Do you hear it?  Do you feel that little ta-dum beat in your heart of hope springing forward?  Does your mind suddenly get excited to remove the fears from you in order to embrace FREEDOM?!  Does your breathing skip a breath for a moment in anticipation of what may come your way?  Does your spirit feel less burdened with the happy possibility that you just might heart, mind, soul, spirit and body decide to do away with fear?  Can you feel the energy blossoming within you?  Feel the buzzing of excitement?  Feel the idea of freedom begin to take root, driving the feeling of imprisoning fear from you just a little bit?

That’s how I felt when I sat quietly and thought about this quote.

I would love to hear what your reaction is to the quote above when you actually sit for a moment and contemplate it.  Does your body recoil back into fear of the unknown and uncertainty of how to deal with freedom?  Or does it get giddy in the anticipation that you might just take the first baby step towards freedom?

Please share below ~ I always enjoy hearing from you and how certain quotes affect us all!

Shine On!

xo

Hope in the New Year

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The sun rose on a new year, and my heart was filled with such hope.

Welcome 2015!  I lay to rest 2014 with a heavy heart.  I awaken with enthusiasm for the beauty, hope and love that a new year and a new chapter bring to my heart.

I do not believe in resolutions for they are too restrictive to me.  Instead, last year I chose a power word which coincidentally was LOVE ~ and I learned much about LOVE last year.  I have thought much about what my theme would be this year, trying out all new words in order to choose what I feel is right for my new life.

TAPESTRY:  To weave through my radiant days with loving joy the following attributes

Love

Empowerment

Health

Wealth

Happiness

Service

Hope

Kindness

Compassion

Gratitude

Faith

*Not necessarily in this order…

May 2015 be your year of wishes fulfilled with plenty of love, laughter, gratitude, health, wealth, hope and happiness.

Shine On!

xo

 

Meaning of Today 12/13/14

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Today’s date is 12/13/14!  Did you notice the sequential numbers of today’s date?  Are you like me who finds it interesting enough to go to Google and see if it means anything?

Well, here’s what I found here:

“12-13-14 is also unique because it is made of four sequential digits 1, 2, 3 and 4…

Among the first 11 such sequential dates that already occurred in this century,

only 01-02-03 possesses the same property…

Although 12-13-14 will be the last sequential MM-DD-YY date for 89 years,

we won’t have to wait until 2103 for similarly interesting dates to pop up…

Jan. 2, 2034 gives you something similar [1-2-34],

while Jan. 23, 2045 lets you use all double-digit listing [1-23-45].

Feb. 2, 2022 is going to be the next one to get headlines, though [2-22-22].

 I would argue that April 3, 2021 — 4-3-21 — might be worthy of note as well…

For most of us, such sequential calendar dates won’t occur again in our lifetime…

After December 13, 2014, the next one is 01-02-03, to occur on January 2, 2103.

 If you follow the European DD-MM-YY convention,

however, you’ll have to wait a little longer — until Feb. 1, 2103.”

So there you have it, your lesson for the day!  It’s always great to learn something new everyday to make our lives richer and more interesting!  I hope you find today 12/13/14 to be a day in which you enjoy peace, love, happiness and health!

Shine On!

xo