Tag Archive | grief after losing a loved one

Make A Joyful Noise

I awoke this morning before six am hearing:

Make a joyful noise unto the Lord, all ye lands. Serve the Lord with gladness: Come before His presence with singing. Know ye that the Lord He is God: It is He who hath made us, and not we ourselves; We are His people, and the sheep of His pasture. Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, And into His courts with praise: Be thankful unto Him, and bless His name. For the Lord is good; His mercy is everlasting; And His truth endureth to all generations.

Psalm 100:1-5 King James Version

I spoke along with my mind, knowing full well that today is the anniversary of my Mom’s passing and this was one of her favorite psalms. I laid there quietly with tears running down my cheeks, repeating the psalm that as children we said before bed every night with her, and in her last moments, we said at her bedside.

Of course you knew I’d be sad today because I loved my Mom. She was special. She was genuine and like me, she loved with her whole heart. But I miss her even more because I’ve been sick, and there’s nothing like a caring Mom to take care of you when you’re home sick. So I’m a bit more vulnerable today than usual.

But I miss her. I miss how she saw life and could absolutely make me laugh, even when I was sad. She saw through people’s baloney. She kept life real. Even with her condition, she didn’t forget some things that became funny over the years. She and my sister (in the photo) always had a good time wherever they went! Can’t you tell?

They made a JOYFUL NOISE and loved every second of it! That’s what life’s about – taking what you’re given and making the best of it. Being in the present moment and realizing the gift that is this precious present moment! I am thankful we had many of those over the years and that my sister and I continue the tradition together.

Thank you for reading today as my heartlight is grateful, but perhaps a bit dimmer than normal. Any love and light would be appreciated if you can spare some? Thank you in advance for sharing!

Shine On!

Xo

On Mother’s Day

This is the first official Mother’s Day without my Mom here on Earth. Last year, with the pandemic, we were unable to see her in person, but at least we could visit with her virtually which was a help, but still not enough. I longed to hug my Mom last year and this year the feeling is overwhelming as she is not here to hug.

I am one of those who feels with her whole heart and who thrives with affection. I am a huge hugger. I always have been as it is innate within me. I get that from my Mom who was also this way.

My Mom taught me so much in my life and I am forever grateful to her. She also loved with her whole heart unconditionally and accepted people for who they were without judgment. She had a strong faith in God and read her Bible, making sure she passed along the Psalms that were important to her. Years later, those Psalms are easily recited after years of repetition at bedtime as children.

I find myself a bit weepy lately. The phrase, “I just miss my Mom” repeats in my head and heart as I struggle this first Mother’s Day. Perhaps it is because her love was such an important part of my life. She gave love unconditionally. She always told us that she loved us, repeatedly. There was never a question in anyone’s heart if she loved them or not, because she did.

Her legacy not only rests within me, my children, and our family, but extends to so many others with whom she connected. I am proud that she was my Mom and that her kind, southern ways were cherished by so many people. She left a legacy of love that still lives within me.

God Bless those who love unconditionally with heartlights which shine brightly. Our world needs you!

Shine On!

xo

Celebrate the lives of our loved ones…

We may never be able to explain the things that happen in this world.

All we can do is live the best life we possibly can and celebrate the lives of our loved ones.

I’m just sending a hug to all of you. A card virtually through the ether from my heart to yours for I know that many of you have been having a hard time. This isn’t an easy time in the world. We’ve lost many loved ones. Feeling unsettled hasn’t been an easy road for anyone. So I thought a little support and love was needed today. Surely, we can always use more kindness, caring and comfort.

From my heart to yours…a heartfelt hug and healing thoughts.

Shine On!

xo

A Mother’s Legacy of Love

It is a quiet morning here. The Christmas tree is brightly lit with white twinkly lights. The cats are nestled around it and the children are still in bed. Sipping my coffee, in the early morning stillness, my mind is melancholy. The week between Christmas and New Years has become a relaxing one for me. One when I feel tremendously present, blessed and grateful for all of those whom have touched my life.

This year, my Mom isn’t here and the tears began falling. Silent reminders of a life well-lived and with gratitude for being her daughter. I miss my Mom for many reasons, but most of all for her unconditional love and kindness. While none of us are perfect, her love and her heartlight were always shining. She is my role model when it comes to loving people for who they are with unconditional love and understanding.

I found the poem below and it brought me much peace so I thought I’d share it with you. Hold your loved ones close and find the goodness always.

Shine On!

xo

She Is Gone

You can shed tears that she is gone
or you can smile because she has lived. 

You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back
or you can open your eyes and see all she’s left. 

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her
or you can be full of the love you shared. 

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday. 

You can remember her and only that she’s gone
or you can cherish her memory and let it live on. 

You can cry and close your mind,
be empty and turn your back
or you can do what she’d want:
smile, open your eyes, love and go on. 

David Harkins, © 1981

Wishing You Love And Joy

Wishing you and yours a very Merry Blessed Christmas filled with so much love and joy!

I pray you enjoy a day that reminds you of all of the blessings we have to be grateful for surrounded by loving memories of those who cannot be with us today. I am reminded in the still of the morning with my sweet children asleep in their beds that these are the small blessings, the amazing moments that are to be cherished.

So hold your loved ones closely. Life is precious. Be the love and joy you wish to feel in this world. As always, keep shining your heartlights! You are loved!!

Shine On!

xo

Count Your Blessings

In my life, I’ve found that when I count my blessings, I feel more present. There’s something about being in a place of gratitude with a peaceful heart that helps me to rise above the fray of life’s troubles.

So this morning I awoke to count my blessings since it is Thanksgiving. I lit a favorite pumpkin spice candle in the kitchen to allow the scent to waft through our home and bring a cheery presence.

As I sipped my coffee in the early quiet morning hours, a rush of gratitude enveloped me. I am grateful to be here today. I am grateful for my children, my family and friends. I am grateful for this precious moment of tranquility.

This is the first major holiday without my parents. If I allowed myself to wallow in the sadness, it would be a shame, so I shed a few tears that needed to escape. Then I sat quietly thinking of them. It only feels hard to deal with emotionally if I allow that to be in my thoughts. If I feel grateful for the love my deceased parents and I shared, then there’s a different perspective. For I don’t believe they are gone from my life, but instead, very present in a spiritual way. For that, I’m grateful.

So on this Thanksgiving, I extend my heartlight to yours with gratitude for our friendship. I pray you have a lovely day filled with an abundance of gratitude for the blessings in your life. Hold your loved ones close in heart. Be kind and compassionate. Shine your heartlights for all to see. May a chorus of counting our blessings be felt across the world.

Shine On!

xo

9/11 We Will Never Forget

It’s been 19 years since that day that changed us all. In remembrance, as you prepare for bed tonight…on this day 19 years ago:

♥️ 246 people went to sleep in preparation for their morning flights.

♥️ 2,606 people went to sleep in preparation for work in the morning.

♥️ 343 firefighters went to sleep in preparation for their morning shift.

♥️ 60 police officers went to sleep in preparation for their morning patrol.

♥️ 8 paramedics went to sleep in preparation for the morning shift of saving lives.

💔 None of them took a breath past 10:00 a.m. on September 11, 2001.

For the many more who died from illnesses related to being there that day, let us never forget. That day, this piece of history, changed the entire world forever.

For those who lost loved ones, please know that we keep you all in our prayers. We remember your loss and we send prayers to you and your family..

So please as you lay down to sleep tonight, tell your loved ones how much they mean to you, snuggle them all a little tighter, and THANK GOD for all of your blessings. God Bless.

WE WILL NEVER FORGET

Shine On!

xo

Missing Mom

Missing Mom

If you are someone who had a good relationship with your Mom, you may understand how I’m feeling today.  My Mom passed away over a month ago and while in my heart I know she’s in Heaven, I miss her.  There’s an emptiness in my life lately because she was such a huge part of my life.

She has visited me in various forms to let me know that she’s here with me in spirit.  For those that understand what I’m saying, perhaps you’ve had similar experiences as well.  I’d love to hear about them if you’re willing to share so please feel free to write in the comments or reach out via email if you’d prefer a more private conversation.

Grief is a funny thing isn’t it?  It sneaks up on us from time to time in the most surprising ways.  My Mom liked Talbots clothing so when I received a catalogue from there, I thought of what Mom might like and then it hit me.  I don’t need to buy Mom anything because she’s not here on this earth anymore.  Tears sprung to my eyes and for a moment the bereft feeling hit me hard.  I wiped the tears away and then sent up a prayer to her.

Then the other day I had a question and knew my Mom would know the answer.  Sadly, I realized I can’t ask her and that I probably would never know the answer to that particular question because she’s not here.  Again, the tears fell.

I’ve learned that losing a loved one and the grieving process that follows in order to heal takes time.  It’s not easy as you may know from experience.  Unexpected memories pop up at times that can bring up a fresh round of tears, but in time with healing, we can fondly remember the good times and be grateful for our loved one’s presence in our lives.

For we carry their presence in our hearts as the legacy of who they were stays alive in the memories of those who are still here.  Gone but not forgotten.  Isn’t that the way we are remembered?

Shine On!

xo

August 1st Rabbit Rabbit

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Happy August to all!   Continuing the tradition, please remember to welcome this month with Rabbit Rabbit, White Rabbit, White Rabbit!

I want to thank you for all of your love and kindness in response to my Mom’s passing.  We are still transitioning into the reality that our Mom is no longer here on Earth. However, I do know in my heart that her presence will stay with me as we were so connected and that is a bond of unconditional love that continues.  I am truly grateful for all of the blessings that have been bestowed on me by her love and the love that she had for everyone.

As the new month of August unfolds, I ask that you hold your loved ones close.  Speak with kindness and give from your generous hearts.  Receive the kindnesses that come to you with gratitude.  Pass along your smiles to all.  Spread love, patience and generosity of spirit.  Our world needs healing and healing begins with us.

I am sorry I have not been writing often, nor reading your posts.  Please know I have missed you all and hold you dearly in my heart.  God Bless.

Shine On!

xo

Always and Forever

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My Mom passed away last week.  We were blessed to have been able to be with her during the last few days of her life and even as she took her final breath, my sister and I were there with her.  While it is heart-wrenching to watch a loved one pass away before your eyes, we felt honored that she allowed us to accompany her as she transitioned from the earthly plane to Heaven.  Even as I write this to you, tears are pouring down my face because I believe that we all understand the universal grief of losing a loved one.

I have written before about my Dad’s passing years ago and occasionally about my Mom over the years.  While losing my Dad was very hard, losing my Mom has been even devastating.  Perhaps it is that a Mother’s love for her daughter is unconditional or on a deeper level, I feel bereft by losing my Mother-ship, physically from this earthly plane.  My Mom’s love knew no bounds.  She never tired of telling me how much she loved me.  I never questioned her love for me which was a huge blessing for which I am grateful.  She even signed every letter with “I love you, Always and Forever (A & F)” lest I forget.  I never forgot.

Even in the end, her heartlight was shining and it is that beacon of light that inspires me daily.  Her innate unconditional love for her family, friends and loved ones never dimmed.  Her genuine smile and authentic love and caring for everyone touched many hearts during her lifetime.

Mom role-modeled the importance of kindness and connecting with others.  She loved to have fun, to laugh and to be silly.  Her infinite patience made her a beloved elementary teacher.  Her faith in God and the comfort she felt by reading the Bible sustained her.  She passed onto us all of those traits and more.

What a legacy of love to leave here on this Earth!  The outpouring of kindness, the sharing of beautiful memories from others and the compliments about my Mom have sustained me this past week for hers was a life well-loved.  I can only pray that when it is my time that my children will have a similar experience.  I shall continue to work diligently to keep Mom’s heartlight legacy shining with love for all.

Thank you for reading today.  I extend my loving embrace to all of you who know this grief personally, of losing a beloved person in your life, especially a Mom who only gave unconditional love to all and accepted everyone for who they are.

God Bless!  Shine On!

xo