Sometimes we need to drop everything and pay attention to the people around us. Cleaning can be done at any time, but people, when in need, need us now, not when it’s more convenient. Have you ever had a friend just call to chat because they needed a kind listener, but you’ve got plans to fix up your home, clean out your closets or such and you’re torn between getting done what’s on your list or connecting with them?
You know what the heartfelt decision is, right?
Did I even need to tell you that? Or did you already innately know the answer?
I think we get so caught up in our lives that we don’t make time for those who may need us, but don’t want to bother anyone with their feelings of sadness. That tentative, I’m just calling to say hi, can sometimes be a disguise to a more needy version of help me, I’m falling apart. It is with discretion that we need to answer those types of calls because we never know what someone else is going through in their lives.
Sadness can be masked in so many different ways. Superwomen/Supermen that we are, we don’t share when times get tough for fear of gossip or being seen as weak or worrying what someone will think when sharing our deepest secrets. But there comes a time when we need to share with a trusted friend.
There was a saying going around on Facebook recently. Due to a recent suicide in our community, it went like this:
My door is always open. My house is safe. Coffee can be on in minutes, and the kitchen table is a place of peace and non-judgment. Anyone who needs to chat is welcome anytime. It’s no good suffering in silence. I have food in the fridge, coffee and tea in the cabinet, and something stronger if you need it. Listening ears, and shoulders to cry on. I will always be available…you are always welcome!! This is an old value that has been lost to technology…a text, facetime, or emoji is not the equivalent! (but can still help/is better than not reaching out at all), You are never really alone and suicide is never the answer.
please copy and re-post
There’s something touching with this post that I read countless times. I just hope for heaven’s sake that people just aren’t copying/pasting and not meaning what they say. For there are times in all of our lives when we just need a friend to lean on.
We recently had a young person pass away by suicide which rocked the community. Love and support filled post after post which made my heart sad because I wished he had been able to get help from someone. I know that sometimes there is not enough help for certain situations, but being me, I always hope for healing, for peace and for love. And I know you do too.
So the next time you get an inconvenient offer for coffee or a drink or a walk, please say yes. There are many hours in the day to get your list checked off, but you may be the much needed missing piece for healing in someone else’s day.