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Le Petit Prince ~ What does that mean – Tame?

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The Little Prince

By  Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Dear friends, have you read this book?  I just finished it for the first time and I find it fascinatingly chock full of mini life lessons.  Although I’m not altogether sure I understand everything the author is trying to relay to us as grown-ups, there were passages which I found to be worthy of further thought.  I would love to hear your thoughts on the book if you have read it so that I can learn from your experience.

For example, on relationships:

“I am looking for friends. What does that mean — tame?”

“It is an act too often neglected,” said the fox. “It means to establish ties.”

“To establish ties?”

“Just that,” said the fox. “To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world….”

and…

“So the little prince tamed the fox. And when the hour of his departure drew near–

“Ah,” said the fox, “I shall cry.”

“It is your own fault,” said the little prince. “I never wished you any sort of harm; but you wanted me to tame you . . .”

“Yes, that is so,” said the fox.

“But now you are going to cry!” said the little prince.

“Yes, that is so,” said the fox.

“Then it has done you no good at all!”

“It has done me good,” said the fox, “because of the color of the wheat fields.”

and…

“You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed.”

and..

“One runs the risk of weeping a little, if one lets himself be tamed.”

and…

“I remembered the fox. One runs the risk of crying a bit if one allows oneself to be tamed.”

As in yesterday’s post about love, I guess I am running on a theme these past few days.  There are those who swear off closeness with others when they’ve been hurt.  They are reminded all too often that even though there is a precious gift in connecting with someone, taming, as in this story, there is weeping when ‘one lets himself be tamed’ as well.  We allow our souls to connect for a time and when/if they become dislodged and disconnected, we weep for the hurt.  It happens often in many different types of relationships, as you may understand from personal experience.  It needn’t be a love relationship such as a marriage or dating, although that is hard when it ends.  There can be other types of separations, disconnections, that can be just as heartbreaking.  Friendships and family relationships can grow apart or even break altogether, having served the life duration of the relationship and still, there is that bit of crying when the ties are severed.  It’s a part of relationships sometimes, that they have a time limit, a life cycle so to speak.  We grow together, tame each other by feeling that special closeness and then, through experiences, we separate and move on.  Sometimes neither person wants to do this, but perhaps circumstances are not in our favor.

I welcome the weeping at the end, for it means that the relationship was special, unique and one that I shan’t forget.  Like the fox who is reminded of The Little Prince when he sees the golden wheat, I know in my heart, that it has done me good.

How about you?

Shine On!

xo

Love Them Deeply

“I’m convinced when each of us faces the end of life,

our only regrets will be the moments we chose

to turn away from people

instead of loving them deeply.”

~Lori Lara

This quote from Lori Lara  touched me deeply when I read it.  Perhaps it’s because each of our parents (her Mom, my Dad) passed away three years ago and as bloggers we connected during that time.  Perhaps it is because her profound statement is from an experience and a healing that has taken us all at one time or another on a journey that we never expected to share.

It touches me to my core, reminding me of all the relationships, connections and disconnections in our lives and how they affect us.  We cannot change the past, we know not where the future beckons and so, it is in the here and now that we rest, we love and we experience the rainbow that life experiences has to offer.  To find the peace in the moment of now is the highest purpose in our lives.  To let go of past hurts, acknowledge regrets and find love in every connection and relationship.

For we all have an expiration date that hangs over us and most of us do not know what it is.  So we must continue to find the peace within ourselves and shine our heartlights out into the Universe.  It is our legacy that we control, the memory in others hearts’ of how we connected that remains in our memories.  To have had such an amazing experience with her Mom that she shares in her post, reminds me of myself with my Dad.  Thank you Lori Lara for sharing that day with us and for sharing all that you and your Mom were able to heal before she passed.

There are moments when we can choose love over hurt and many of us do just that, for ourselves and for others.  It’s not an easy choice and I’m not saying to be a doormat either.  But I have regrets in my own relationships when I forgot to choose the love instead of the hurt.  I’ve learned by my experiences and they have changed me.

I have been told that I am changed and it is true.  The chaos of hurt can still swirl about me and it can ping at my soul as well, but I choose to love, to find peace within me and to continue to strive to shine my heartlight in the best way that I know how in this moment of time.  Innately, I care about people, relationships and connecting, even when those with whom I choose to connect are having a tough time understanding my newfound peace.  It is hard to remain true to myself at times, to hear the criticizing of the enrichment that I have found in my life, but I go on.  For me, this change has been immeasurable and it is healing in itself and it is a gift for which I am forever grateful.

So shine your heartlight dearest friends, shine brightly the love that grows in your heart.  It is your legacy that is held so dearly.  Your loving heart in this moment in time is all we have for sure.  Use it wisely, use it willingly and watch it grow.  You are worthy.  You are capable.  You are YOU!

You are loved.

Shine On!

xo

The Width of An Eyelash

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Sometimes the difference between what we want

and what we fear is the width of an eyelash.

~Jay McInerney

This was a great quote from the movie, The Second Exotic Marigold Hotel, but when I looked it up, it was quoted by Jay McInerney.  The quote touched me deeply and I wanted to share it with you.  For like many people, I have stood in fear, wanting something and yet frozen as to how to proceed.  I think it’s something we all deal with in our lives.  We make millions of different decisions a day, some small and some enormous and our lives reflect the decisions we make.  I’ve heard people lament that they don’t have what they want and yet I observe that they don’t fight the fear to push through to make their wants a reality. It’s hard to do.  I know.  But this quote gave me hope.  For if it’s a width of an eyelash between what we want and what we fear, then it’s not a far jump to realize our desires.  Don’t you think?

Shine On!

xo

Lead With Your Heart

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Lead With Your Heart

When we lead with our hearts, we change the way we look at our own lives and at the lives of others.  We can lovingly observe the world around us with compassion, thus raising our energetic vibration and increasing our positivity.  Just this small change in how we see ourselves and those around us, makes a difference in the world.

By leading with our hearts, we inspire others to do the same.  When we band together with caring connections, we expand Universal Love which heals and embraces everyone.  We travel, arm in arm, along the yellow brick road.

We see each other’s strengths and applaud them.  We may see our weaknesses as well and together we strengthen them.  We teach, we learn, we enrich and we share.  We release what doesn’t serve us and expand what does.  With help, we drop negativity and infuse more optimism and positivity into our lives.  We find The Presents of Presence in simple steps to freedom.  We allow instead of controlling.  We bless our current situations and embrace the gratitude for all experiences that we endure.  We find the good in every situation, allowing the bad vibrations to drop away ~ we learn the lessons needed to move onward and upwards, all the while connecting with others.  We use our power for good.

We choose to lead with our hearts.  It’s a choice, dear friends.  One that we choose, moment to moment, day to day, year to year over a lifetime.  The beauty of choice is that we always have the freedom to choose again at any time.  How blessed we are to live this life!

Shine On!

xo

 

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Being Strong Is Hard

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*Warning, reader discretion is advised.

My heart is breaking.  I just want to sob and be held by someone who cares.  I want to cry freely without worry and be comforted by someone who doesn’t need for me to be strong for them.  It can’t be fixed what I’m enduring.  I don’t want you to fix it.  I just want to be protected for a few minutes, be held and loved for who I am and to be comforted and not have to comfort someone else for awhile.  Is it too much to ask?

Tears fall, unbidden so much these days.  I’m not a really pretty crier either which doesn’t help.  I’m the gal who gets a red nose and blubbery.  You know that type that doesn’t cry often, but when she does, it comes from the depths of her solar plexus in big heaps of sadness?  That’s me.

Although I’ve been known to get quietly teary on occasion at a movie, at a tender moment, when the beauty of life hits me in a certain way or when I look at my once vibrant Mama and know that there’s a little vacancy now behind the eyes that she’s trying desperately to hide and I’m trying so hard to not see.

Life’s just not easy these days.  I miss so much that’s not mine.  I need a friend to lean on and I’m really alone.  It’s hard to take on all of this by myself even though I have help.  It’s frustrating, heart-breaking and I feel like I’m in solitary confinement with the weight of the world on me.  I’m just so darn sad and alone.

I hate this.  I hate feeling so alone.  I dislike feeling like I need someone to hold me because I know there’s nobody.  On one hand, I know I’ve got it.  I can do this.  I’ve had to deal with more than this instance.  On the other, I’m tired of cleaning up everyone else’s messes and I’m frustrated with their ability to just hand over everything to me as if I will always pick up the pieces to make it right for everyone else.

Sure, I can find peace within myself and peace within the stillness.  But I want to be coddled for a few minutes.  Rock me Mama in that rocking chair.  Make it all go away for a few minutes please.  I wish you could do that again for me, be my Mama…and let me be a little girl if only for a few minutes…it would be so nice…take away the boo boo, kiss me, snuggle me and remind me that you are powerful and that I am protected.  Pretty please?

Shine On!

xo

 

Let Go of 2013

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One of the happiest moments ever is when you feel the courage to let go of what you can’t change.

As 2013 winds down, it’s time for clearing, time for looking back upon the past year and settling it in the present.  It’s time to plan for the future in the present tense and to allow the beauty of the present moment to shine its shining star upon our lives.  It’s a time to reevaluate priorities, to engage in the lesson planning for the coming year and to develop a theme for what we are setting out to accomplish.

I’m not one for New Year’s Resolutions as it gives me too much agita when they go awry.  Instead, I am working on a theme for 2014.  No best laid plans, but instead a red carpet runner which includes what I am setting out to accomplish ~ one baby step at a time.  To me, it’s better to divide and conquer in small steps than it is to establish grandiose plans which in an instant can be wiped out tsunami-style in the blink of a disappointed eye.

Letting go is my theme for the next few days, purging what doesn’t suit and what doesn’t feel right anymore.  It takes courage to do this you know.  To allow the judgments to have their own and to be at peace within in order to go on.  Peace has settled within me lately and I’m finding the joy in simply being present and allowing that presence to shine.

May your essence shine as well today and always.

Shine On!

xo

My heartfelt thanks to my fellow blogger who inspires me with Chalkboard Quotes.  Click LetGo to see the original post which inspired mine.

Dream and Live

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“Dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you’ll die today.”
Actor, James Dean

The moon enthralls me.  I don’t know why except it does.  Every morning I take my son to the bus stop and when it was dark outside we could see the moon and the stars perfectly.  It’s a wonderful time of day I think and I highly recommend that you partake of the gift ~ you know the one ~ where the darkness fades and dawn begins.

I was never a sky watcher, but in recent years, I find myself looking up (literally and figuratively) more often and what I find is truly amazing.  Do you ever stop to look up at the sky during your busy day?  It’s a lovely moment to capture if you can remember to do it!  I find the most sparkling of stars (and now I’ve learned they are planets ~ namely Jupiter!) next to a glistening moon.  I see rainbows, jewel-colored sunsets, white fluffy clouds and the most precious blue skies ever!  I experience sunbeams which radiate through clouds and I even find beauty in darkening thunderous clouds which bring on the rain.

Oh and the snow clouds ~ how could I forget those?  Many an hour I have stood by my window and watched snow fall ~ blanketing the Earth with brilliance.  I am always amazed by the gently falling snow, the furious falling snow and even the big fluffy cotton-ball snow flakes!  I guess you could say I’m easily enthralled and enchanted by Mother Nature and you would be right.

For you see, tomorrow is promised to no one ~ so we must enjoy the gifts of today.  Hug those whom you love, tell them how you feel and be content with what you have.  Gratitude is the key.  When you are grateful for what you have, more comes ~ it is when you feel lack, that you gain lack.

Look up today.  Share in the comments what your sky’s gift to you is today.  Experience the mightiness of the Earth and Mother Nature and feel the oneness in which we all connect!

Shine On!

xo