When the rug gets pulled out from under you, when you fall off the horse, when you feel like you’ve been sucker-punched, when you fall down, when you’ve been side-swiped, when you’ve been dumped, when you experience failure, when you’ve lost it all, when you fill in the blank, ~ there are so many quotes to explain when life knocks you down and throws you for a loop. I am sure you can think of many others. But it’s the answer to the question that leaves us hanging.
What is the solution?
We’ve all experienced changes that we’ve seen coming and also have been blinded by when we least expect it. Changes can be in any part of our lives ~ finances, health, love, relationships, family, jobs etc. Some of the lessons I’ve learned when the proverbial rug has been pulled out from under me (which it has in many aspects of my life) is this…
YOU need to find peace and a new normal for yourself.
Nobody can or will do it for you. It’s only up to you. Sure you may be able to count on friends and perhaps family to help, but the bottom line is that the only one who CAN do it, is YOU! And it’s hard. It’s changing the way you look at your life and at your choices. It’s taking responsibility for your part in the whatever the situation is and moving forward. It’s giving YOURSELF your full attention and then deciding how to deal with the enormity of the change in your life.
To do this, you must be honest with yourself. Nobody wants to hear about it after awhile, so it’s up to you. You can seek advice from those who have experienced the same situation. You weigh what you know, what you learn and you incorporate the best parts into your new normal. The best advice I can give you is to find peace, however you need to find it. You need to not give up or give in. Re-find your balance. Get back on the horse. Put yourself back in the game. Find a new job. Begin again. Grieve for what you feel is lost and then find peace within you. Connect with yourself again for somewhere along the line, you’ve lost yourself and your power. Use your power for bettering yourself and those around you. Look up to God and the Angels for help if you are spiritual/religious. Look inside yourself for strength that you have, but maybe haven’t tapped into yet. Stand on your own two feet (after getting up). If you must, walk away, crawl away and take baby steps towards your future. Take time to honor your sadness and the changes in your life. Weigh the pros and cons before taking any definitive baby steps.
But do it all with peace in your heart.
Yes, you can blame others for your situation and the blame could be correctly placed on them, but what good does that serve you? It only makes you resentful, angry and operating at a low vibration. I’m not saying to be a doormat by any means. But to use up your precious life with negativity hurts only you. It dims your heartlight. It destroys your soul. It hurts you in more ways that you can even begin to imagine. And haven’t you already been hurting enough?
So today, dear friends, is your day. Take a few minutes to concentrate on you ~ begin a plan that includes a little me time everyday. It can be as simple as a bubble bath or a ten minute meditation. You can write in your journal, plan for 2016, take a heart-healthy walk, talk to a friend, get some fur therapy from a favorite animal, sing, dance, walk outside and commune with nature.
Be kind to you…be kind to others. Lead with the love in your heart. Shine your heartlight for all to see and goodness comes your way. But it’s up to you. Take my hand. Walk with me. We will take baby steps to the new you!