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Bend and Sway With Change

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The oak fought the wind and was broken,

the willow bent when it must and survived.

— Robert Jordan

I recently found this quote and had to share it with you as it goes along with my last post on How To Embrace Change. When we fight changes with the child-like attitude of “I don’t wanna,” we lose our power in whatever situation is changing.  I’m not suggesting to be a doormat and just let changes steamroll over you.  Oh no!  Not at all!  Neither am I advising you to fight the changes like a warrior, with armaments drawn and ready for battle.

I’m asking you to bend and sway…

Flow with life…

Observe the changes…

Embrace yourself…

Allow kindness in your heart…

Looking for the good in every situation isn’t easy, but you can do it.  Sometimes the good hides when the situation changes for what we deem the worst ~ we lose our job, a loved one passes away, we have health problems, relationships go sour, finances become depleted etc.  It happens to many of us over a lifetime.  We are not given the right to have a perfect life without rough patches.  But we are given the Divine Right to have experiences which grow us emotionally, mentally, soulfully and spiritually which test us and help us to expand ourselves in new ways to be better, kinder and more loving people.

Without the highs and lows in life, we could never appreciate peace.    It comes at a price though.  We have to stay flexible and to stop banging on the closed door in front of us.  Simply look around, observe the whole ‘room’ and find the gift of the open door on the other side of the room.  Yes, it’s that simple dear friends.  It just takes embracing change.

I’ve endured many changes in my life, many of which I did not choose, but I am still here as are you.  Together we can bend and sway with kind, loving hearts.  We can shine our heartlights, connect with others and keep walking on our life journey.  No matter what difficulties you are experiencing right now, know that change is inevitably beautiful and this too shall pass.

♥ Namaste ♥

Shine On!

xo

Cancer Connections

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You gain strength, courage, and confidence

by every experience in which you really stop

to look fear in the face.

You are able to say to yourself,

“I lived through this horror.

I can take the next thing that comes along.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

Sitting in the oncologist office waiting room, I had some time to look around at all the other people there waiting patiently for their names to be called.  I’ve done this before and I seem to do it every time I’m there.  I smile at the others in the room, because I figure if you are here, then we’ve got a connection.  Because let’s face it, there are plenty of other places to sit in this big ole world and I bet you wouldn’t choose the oncology waiting room to hang out in if you didn’t need to be there.  Or if your loved one didn’t need to be there.

Cancer evens us out.  Strange to say, right?  But I find that those of us who have endured cancer find it easier to simply connect with someone else who has been in the same boat.  It’s that common ground that we search for when we connect with someone else.  By simply being in the same doctor’s office, we can pretty much bet we’ve got or had the Big C and we’re hoping to get better and stay healthy.

Cancer isn’t choosy.  It doesn’t discriminate between races or genders.  Old or young, it matters not.  It comes in changing the lives of its patients and those who surround them.  Cancer bonds people.  Cancer breaks people down.  Cancer divides. Cancer unifies.  Cancer conquers some people and yet, there are others who conquer cancer.  It’s an equal-opportunity disease for which there’s no cure, yet.

Cancer connects people in ways that they might not necessarily connect.  The fear of death and the horror of cancer treatments, etc.  give you a bird’s eye view of what you are truly made of and there’s no place for sissy’s with cancer.  No matter with whom you talk, we’ve all had sleepless nights filled with worry and repeatedly question at every tumor marker test, if cancer has returned.  Many of us have endured surgeries, chemotherapy, radiation, blood tests, needles, being poked and prodded by countless professionals and staff.  We’ve lost our hair, body parts and our dignity.  But I’ve learned that we don’t lose our loving hearts, nor our need for comfort or our precious souls to cancer.   It’s given me a new outlook on life.  Sure cancer has weakened parts of my life, but it also strengthened me.  It’s given me lessons on human nature that I would have never understood had I not endured the cancer.  It’s made me appreciate the little things and be unafraid of dying.  It’s changed my life in good and bad ways, but I try to concentrate on the good in my life at every turn.

What has cancer done in your life?

Shine On!

xo

Rest in Peace, Dr. Wayne Dyer

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“We are not our bodies, our possessions

or our careers.

Who we are is Divine Love

and that is Infinite.”

~Dr. Wayne Dyer

One of my favorite authors whose words have inspired me time and again passed away.  Today’s post is dedicated to Dr. Wayne Dyer who is the author of many books, cd’s and movies which I have enjoyed over the years.  This is the quote and photo which his family put on his FB page today.

Rest in Peace Wayne on your Continuation Day.

Shine On!

xo

There’s No Present Like The Time

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“There’s no present like the time.”

~ Babul from The Second Exotic Marigold Hotel

It seems that we all have an expiration date which most of us do not know.  So to live without remembering that knowledge is to hide our heads in the sand like ostriches.  I’m not saying that we should live in fear of death, but to remember that this present moment is indeed a present. A gift that we should not waste.

Life moves quickly these days.  Many people live longer lives, but take less time for themselves.  Rushing to every event, whatever it may be, keeping busy on the computer, the smart phones etc., takes time away from being present in the present moment.  I understand we all have responsibilities, but we must carve out a few moments to simply be in the stillness of the present moment.  To reconnect with ourselves, our families, nature and all the gifts that are ours when we stop the rush in the insanity of life.  To actually take a moment to breathe, to listen to our hearts and minds, to hold hands, to reconnect with loved ones, to simply love that we are here, right here and now, wherever we may be, in whatever capacity life holds for us.

Time is a gift.  Use it wisely.  Don’t squander it on meaningless pursuits.  You can make a difference in your life and in the lives of others. You have the power within you.  Be grateful for the present and use your power for good, for you are loved.

Enjoy The Presents of Presence

Shine On!

xo

 

Do You Recognize Yourself As A Beautiful Person?

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 “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering,

known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.

These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life

that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.

Beautiful people do not just happen.”

~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross (Death: The Final Stage of Growth, 1975)

When we  look at our struggles, our scars and all that we have endured in our lifetimes, we have a choice.  We can allow them to define us and stay in the victim mentality or we can allow them to exalt us into a place of victory.  The hard part is letting go of the poor me attitude and embracing the triumphant attitude of I can, I did and I am able.

Getting stuck in the limelight of defeat is something that happens over time, sometimes suddenly and sometimes gradually.  The best part is when we can acknowledge that this is where we are and then find the strength to observe, to plan and to move on with our lives.  I think that’s the tricky part ~ to change the way you see things in order to make them better.  To let go of the defeat and allow the healing of our heart, mind and soul to begin.  To move on from it, to forgive and to begin again ~ just like how the dawn comes each and every day.  We can begin to see the light at any given moment or we can continue to squint in the cloak of darkness until it becomes too unbearable to us.  And that’s when we change.

I see the beauty in people.  I have always had that inner wisdom.  My compassion for others who are hurting sometimes is like a beacon and people are drawn to me and I to them.  It happens a lot lately for it seems we all have a story of struggles to tell and many times I am both the receiver and giver of such stories.  I think it’s much like an energetic connection of sorts that through the Divine, reaches out to connect people in the most unusual ways.

It’s a gift that I relish when I realize that we’ve connected and that perhaps by our meeting, has left us both with present of a moment of precious presence and understanding spirit to spirit, soul to soul.  Perhaps a fleeting moment in universal time, but important all the same.  To acknowledge the gift of presence, even for a brief time, is priceless.  Changing the way we look at the world, is a shift that benefits all of us.  To see that we are not cloaked in misery, but instead have the capacity to change our thinking to better ourselves and the world is The Presents of Presence.

I see the beauty in you when you allow your heartlights to shine and you are not hiding them behind closed doors in the dark.  Shining our heartlights helps ourselves and others to heal, to expand and to explore all the beauty life has to offer.  Do not hide dear friends.  You are worthy.  You have inner power.  You are loved.  You are beautiful to me.  I see you. ♥

Shine On!

xo

 

 

 

 

We Are All the Same, Yet Different

WeareallthesameyetdifferentWe are all the same, yet different.

It amazes me how people can disconnect and forget that we are all humans.  It frightens me to listen to the news sometimes when I hear how some people treat others, wounding and killing without seeming to care.  We are all connected as energy, as souls, as humans.  Our planet is the only one we’ve got.  We all need oxygen to live and we all need food and water to survive.

We are in this together, here in the same boat, on the same planet, breathing the same air and drinking the same waters and yet there are those who forget.  Yes, we are different.  Each and every one of us is like the flower above ~ all flowers, but all seemingly different in how we look, think, act and perceive life.  Our experiences are different.  Our families, our work, our goals may be different.  Our strife may be different.  But the commonality of humankind is apparent.

So how do we make this planet better?  By seeing the world through loving eyes, ears, hearts and souls.  We are not just humans with souls, we are souls with bodies.  We are born with a life energy that has an expiration date which we do not know so we must live each and every day to its fullest.  When we shine our heartlights, we raise the energy and vibrations in this world.  We make the world a better place and in turn, we make it better for ourselves.

Perhaps, ‘love thy neighbor as thyself’ is hard when you don’t love yourself or harder still, when the neighbor is a pain in the neck.  I get it.  Dealing with others can be challenging at times.  But to forgive, to do our best and to observe with understanding makes the commandment easier.

So look around at the millions of flowers in our world.  Bless each one in the garden of life.  Know that each is doing its best to grow, to flourish, to blossom and to bring beauty to the world.  As each one begins its withering journey, find compassion in your heart to make the journey as beautiful as you can for everyone around you is doing their best.

Shine On!

xo

Live Each Day To The Fullest

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“It’s only when we truly know

and understand

that we have a limited time on earth

and that we have no way of knowing

when our time is up

that we will begin to live each day to the fullest,

as if it was the only one we had.”

~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

 

Just a little precious reminder from one of my favorites.  A woman who helped me to heal by her knowledge and her ability to share it with the world when we are grieving any type of loss.  Although I never knew her personally, sometimes in reading what she wrote, I felt like she knew us all.

Shine On!

xo

Benjamin Franklin Was Right!

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“While we may not be able to control all that happens to us,

we can control what happens inside us.”

—Benjamin Franklin

Just a little pick me up reminder for us all ~ Happy Thursday to all of you!

Shine On!

xo

Bent, But Not Broken

6248749_Lately, my Mom says, “Oh Lord, help me” a lot.  Every time she says it, I want to answer ~ “and help us too!”  Sometimes I even say it aloud or I tell her that we’d be millionaires if we received a dime for each time she said it lately!  Giggle Giggle.  That’s truly how much she says it.

I’ve heard all the quotes about ‘God doesn’t give you more than you can handle’ etc.  You know the ones that people offer when you’re dealing with way too much on your plate that’s sometimes not even yours to handle, but you are handling it?  I used to think it was a cop out quite honestly.  I mean really?  If I listed all that I’m dealing with right now you would think I was telling a story (lie), but I’m not.  It’s all quite honest and real and heavy stuff.  It seems like every day there is more piled on my plate and I’m not quite sure how I got so ‘lucky’ perhaps God thinks I’m made of cement because I’m sure growing stronger every day and not because I want to…but because I have no other choice.

I bend…but I won’t break.

As a cancer survivor, you learn all about having to take care of yourself.  There’s nobody else in the middle of the night who is listening to the thoughts that barrage our minds, hearts, souls and bodies.  You have to learn to make peace with all the chaos that you’re going through and when you think you’re going through hell, you’ve just got to keep taking baby steps.  And that’s where I am again ~ taking baby steps ~ through all the stuff that has fallen on my shoulders (and my Sissy’s).  Together we are bending and we each take turns in being the stronger one at that moment when the other person holds up her hand with the white flag and needs a break.  That’s the beauty of sisterly love and experiencing a bonding with your sister through traumatic family experiences.  You don’t even have to ask, you just know she needs a break and you take over for awhile until she’s rested and vice versa.  That’s just the way it is.

But as for bending until I break ~ well, that’s for another day I guess.  Right now I’m just hanging in there ~ hanging by a thread ~ holding onto that knot that I tied at the end of my rope.  I’m trying with all of my might to keep going through thick and thin and to not give up.  And I won’t.  But I’d like a bit of a rest please Lord.  Could you please just take over for awhile and take some of this heavy burden off my shoulders?  I’m a good person.  I can understand that there’s nobody else to help and we are willing to help, but golly, could you please not add more worry to my life everyday?  I need a good night’s sleep.  I keep handing off my worries to you, but the next day, I get more bad news.  I’m trying to stay calm, but I’m a work in progress.  I don’t want to give up, but I’m suffering here.  I’m feeling broken.

I bend, but I don’t break…at least not yet.

Shine On!

xo