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Behind the Closed Door

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Most of us have, at one time or another, come across the following two quotes:

“When one door closes, another door opens, but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”– Alexander Graham Bell

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one, which has been opened for us.” – Helen Keller

but it’s how we choose to deal with the closed door that makes all the difference.

We’ve all had ups and downs in our lives.  We don’t leave this lifetime without some tears, some smiles, laughter, love and disappointments.  It happens.  Life goes on.  Changes come gradually and sometimes they come in the blink of an eye.  Best laid plans sometimes go awry.  But we always have a choice to sit in front of a closed door, pining for something/someone or we can look around to discover that there’s more to life than the past that waits behind the door.

It takes courage.  We have a choice, but sometimes we forget that we indeed have that choice.  Sometimes it’s we who close the door and sometimes the door is closed on us.  Either way, we can sit outside the door expectantly, we can turn the knob to see if it’s locked or we can turn around and see what else there is in life.

At one time or another in this lifetime, I have experienced each scenario above and allowed the door to dictate my reaction.  Nowadays, I am seeing the door in a different light.  My past is behind the closed door and what goes on behind closed doors, stays behind closed doors.

The choice to wait expectantly in front of a closed door is ours alone to choose.  The choice to look around for another door or window of opportunity to see that there is more to life than that one door takes courage, but we already have that courage within us.  We just need to tap into it.

So take my hand dear friends.  If you are seeing a closed door in your life, let’s stop staring at the closed door.  Let’s spin around and view the goodness which surrounds us.  Let’s walk together to see what else life has in store for the possibilities are endless once we take that first baby step.

Keep shining your heartlights.  You are perfect, whole and complete just as you are.  I can see you twinkling from here and I send you a warm, heartfelt embrace.

Shine On!

xo

Shine Your Heartlight

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I wish you peace, love and understanding.  I wish you happiness, gratitude and hope.  I pray you find inner healing.  My hopes are that you shine your heartlight with courage, faith and serenity.  Illuminate the world with your special self ~ do not be afraid for you are perfect, whole and complete, just the way you are!

May love’s blessings surround you every day of your life!

Shine On!

xo

Stand Alone

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“It takes great courage to break with one’s past history and stand alone.” 

~ Marion Woodman

May you find some comfort, a bit of courage and much inspiration in the above quote…and in this blog.

Shine On!

xo

Cancer Connections

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You gain strength, courage, and confidence

by every experience in which you really stop

to look fear in the face.

You are able to say to yourself,

“I lived through this horror.

I can take the next thing that comes along.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

Sitting in the oncologist office waiting room, I had some time to look around at all the other people there waiting patiently for their names to be called.  I’ve done this before and I seem to do it every time I’m there.  I smile at the others in the room, because I figure if you are here, then we’ve got a connection.  Because let’s face it, there are plenty of other places to sit in this big ole world and I bet you wouldn’t choose the oncology waiting room to hang out in if you didn’t need to be there.  Or if your loved one didn’t need to be there.

Cancer evens us out.  Strange to say, right?  But I find that those of us who have endured cancer find it easier to simply connect with someone else who has been in the same boat.  It’s that common ground that we search for when we connect with someone else.  By simply being in the same doctor’s office, we can pretty much bet we’ve got or had the Big C and we’re hoping to get better and stay healthy.

Cancer isn’t choosy.  It doesn’t discriminate between races or genders.  Old or young, it matters not.  It comes in changing the lives of its patients and those who surround them.  Cancer bonds people.  Cancer breaks people down.  Cancer divides. Cancer unifies.  Cancer conquers some people and yet, there are others who conquer cancer.  It’s an equal-opportunity disease for which there’s no cure, yet.

Cancer connects people in ways that they might not necessarily connect.  The fear of death and the horror of cancer treatments, etc.  give you a bird’s eye view of what you are truly made of and there’s no place for sissy’s with cancer.  No matter with whom you talk, we’ve all had sleepless nights filled with worry and repeatedly question at every tumor marker test, if cancer has returned.  Many of us have endured surgeries, chemotherapy, radiation, blood tests, needles, being poked and prodded by countless professionals and staff.  We’ve lost our hair, body parts and our dignity.  But I’ve learned that we don’t lose our loving hearts, nor our need for comfort or our precious souls to cancer.   It’s given me a new outlook on life.  Sure cancer has weakened parts of my life, but it also strengthened me.  It’s given me lessons on human nature that I would have never understood had I not endured the cancer.  It’s made me appreciate the little things and be unafraid of dying.  It’s changed my life in good and bad ways, but I try to concentrate on the good in my life at every turn.

What has cancer done in your life?

Shine On!

xo

Why Do We Blog?

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There’s no agony like bearing an untold story inside you.

~ Zora Neale Hurston

I think we blog because we all have a story inside of us.  Some of us have quite a few stories within us ~ inspirational moments that turned failure into triumph, sad stories that show our resilience and tidbits of how we’ve had to change to accommodate a new normal in our lives.  By sharing, we can connect with others so that they can see that they are not alone in their strife.  Bonding together we can hold hands and move forward towards the light.

But to keep our stories hidden is an option that some of us choose.  We do this for many reasons.  We hide our strife, our shame, our sadness and put on brave faces to the masses.  We don’t choose to open up and be seen as vulnerable for fear of repercussions.  It’s hard to hold it all within ourselves but over time, the pain becomes familiar like putting on a pair of jeans that may not be flattering, but they are comfy because we have worn them so many times.

Making the choice to open up and to tell our stories can be agonizing.  Crossing that bridge of fear causes many to never open up and thus find a way to heal the stories in our heads.  It takes bravery to be vulnerable for there is strength in speaking your truth without shame.  To share is to run a risk that many don’t choose to take and I understand that feeling.

One must be choosy when we bare our stories for there are those who do not care to understand.  I get it.  But here, I want you to know that I welcome your stories.  I welcome your sharing and I will hold your hand and heart gently as you write.  You are safe and protected here.  Tell your story.  Gently take off the bandage and let’s clean the wound so that you can finally heal.  Open your heartlight and be free!  There is love her for you.

Shine On!

xo

 

Courage and Kindness

“Courage is a perfect sensibility of the measure of danger,

and a mental willingness to endure it.” – Gen. William Tecumseh Sherman

At times, for me, the idea of being courageous has nothing whatsoever to do with danger in the warlike sense that Gen. Sherman meant it, but simply in the notion of doing whatever needs to be done in order to live.  As a breast cancer survivor, I have endured my share of surgeries, pain, sadness, fear and being at the mercy of others.  I have known gratefulness for those who take the extra moment to connect humanly to me and I have seen others who don’t see me as anything more than another duty.

But in fact there are times in our lives where we all have to show some courage…we have to go out on a limb and try to be the person we desire to be most.  To take that small extra step or extra moment with someone else.  To have a bit more patience than necessary and than comfortable.  To reach out beyond what is expected in order to comfort a loved one, a friend and even a stranger.

To me, sometimes it’s the little things which tug at my heartstrings.  Not that I don’t appreciate the big ones either because I do.  I clearly remember my first breast surgery  back in 2002 and the subsequent hospital stay.  In the middle of the night I had to go to the bathroom and I couldn’t get up out of bed by myself.  The male nurse who arrived kindly helped me to the restroom, waited outside for me to finish and then helped me back into bed.  As I slid back onto the pillows in my bed, he patiently took all the covers off of me and rearranged them, smoothing them so that they weren’t a mess like me.  To have my bedding rearranged and smoothed, pillows fluffed and tucked in made me more comfortable for which I was truly grateful.

It was one of the kindest things I’ve had happen to me at Memorial Sloan Kettering Hospital.  I know it probably sounds strange to you, but sometimes it’s the little things that mean the most!

So today, on your travels, take a moment when you get that flash of inspiration to hold a door, smile at someone or even just say a kind word.  Your little extra effort means the world to you and to the recipient!  It always does.

Shine On!

xo

What is Courage?

Courage, it would seem, is nothing less than the power to overcome danger,

misfortune, fear, injustice, while continuing to affirm inwardly that life with all its sorrows is good;

that everything is meaningful even if in a sense beyond our understanding

and that there is always tomorrow. – Dorothy Thompson

Some days I find myself aggravated with how things are going in my life.  And some days, I simply melt into the flow of my life without worry.  Does this happen to you?  Lately I’m finding inner peace within the confines of my thinking and expanding it outward in spherical circles.  It’s as if the Universe/Spirit/God is laying breadcrumbs of courage, of knowledge and of a-ha moments for me to find on my life path.  And it’s most certainly interesting, exciting and perhaps even shall I say, titillating!

I feel like I’m on fire ~ for what ~ I don’t exactly know.  But I don’t think I need to know yet, I think it’s still in pre-launch mode.  Launching 2014, laying the groundwork for the year ahead, going with the flow of where life will take me on this special journey.

Do you feel it too?  Can you get quiet and just be for a bit?  Live in the present moment as Eckhart Tolle reminds us to do…to find the gifts/presents in being present?  When I find that I am getting aggravated, I simply say, ‘present, presence’ as a gentle reminder for myself.  I could perseverate on the past, on conversations spoken, on deeds that are done and over-with, on the woulda coulda shouldas that have caused me pain.   I could pursue ‘what if’s’ for my future, planning, controlling, being obstinate with how I feel things should go.  Instead, I quietly turn my monkey brain around and just utter, ‘present, presence’ quietly and things just seem to not matter.

I’m not saying I don’t have long-term plans in place nor goals because I do.  I’ve imagined what I’d like for my life to look like this year and I’m ready to create something big!  But I’m also taking baby steps and allowing that red carpet ahead of me to roll out and help me on my way!

So do you have courage?  Can you remember that there’s a tomorrow?

Can you find the presence within?

Shine On!

xo