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Don’t Waste Your Pain


“Don’t waste your pain”

I heard Joel Osteen say the phrase above the other day and I can’t get it out of my mind.  For me, it made perfect sense ~ when you are going through difficult times, reach out and connect with others.  Don’t allow yourself to be isolated as we are never alone.  Reach out, there’s a hand to hold, a heart to listen and arms to hug you.

I share on my blog because I feel as though someone out there may be going through what I’m enduring at the time.  For me, it always feels better to hear ~ “Oh yes, you too?  I thought it was only me” ~ because it’s never only you who experiences things.  Each and every one of us has a story to tell, difficulties we are enduring and good times that come out of the lessons we learn as we grow with each and every experience.

So the next time you feel that nobody understands or that you are alone as I have felt in the past, reach out of your story, feel the warm embrace of others who are walking on their own journey, who hold compassion in their hearts, and are ready to share with you whenever you are ready.  My heartfelt thanks to all of you who read, like and comment on my blog.  Your sweet presence has been a balm to my soul so many times.  I hope that you will feel my gratitude as I embrace you in my prayers.  You are special.  You are kind and caring.  You are loved.

I’ve got my hand out, so take hold, receive my loving embrace and know that my heart is listening ~ we are all connected and as Ram Dass once said, “we’re all just walking each other home.”

Shine On!


Instant Emotional Upswing

80702943_What’s your instant emotional upswing?

Have you ever experienced an instant emotional upswing?  The experience of intense joy that changes your mood/outlook in a moment?  Can you remember the last time you felt this ~ and can you replicate it?  Can you feel that emotion again and again when you need it?  Can you call to mind that upswing and swing out of a dark mood at will?

What was that moment for you? 

Mine was a recent one when a friend said to me, “I will help you,” and it was in that exact second that the intense ball of fear/insecurity/sadness/darkness which had settled in the center of my chest melted away in an instant.  One minute I was completely feeling overwhelmed and the next minute (audible finger snap) just like that, it was gone.  POOF!  Erased, as if it had never been there in the first place.

Why is that?  Those words are ordinary.  They aren’t anything provocative or medicinal.  Or are they?  The fact that someone whom I trust, reached out to say, unbidden, “I will help you,” is extraordinary, powerful and priceless.  For me, it was a deal sealer ~ it made the tasks that I was facing to feel less daunting, more manageable and less burdensome because a burden shared feels lighter.

And the funny thing is that she lives hours away by plane so it’s not as if she could truly come to my house to help me.  No, not a chance.  But what she could do, and what she did, was to be there for me.  To be supportive, to be encouraging, to praise, to ignite the fire and passion which I had hidden.  To fill up my enthusiasm meter when it was lagging and to refill the confidence which I had lost.  It wasn’t that she was approving of what I was doing so that I was getting that child-like parental approval.  Oh no!  She was using her peer-like enthusiasm, her cheerleader friendship which virtually shouted, “yes, go for it” as I went about the tasks at hand.

Knowing she would stand by me, next to me, hand and heart at the ready should I fall, made all the difference…and it still does.  It made an Instant Emotional Upswing in my life.  I am ever grateful for our connection and I am blessed to have you in my life.

So if you should need a cheerleader, an enthusiastic “Yes, you can!  Go for it!  Woo Hoo!” friend in your life, just know that I’m here for you.  Heart at the ready and friendship available.  I am your biggest fan!

Shine On!


P.S.  David Kanigan over at lead.learn.live  wrote this phrase in his blog awhile back and I just jotted it down.  I apologize for not being able to tell you the exact post in which he wrote about it nor how he, himself, used the phrase.  I only know that it stuck with me and was my inspiration for today’s post.  Thank you David.