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Sundowning and Alzheimer’s Disease


Confusion, extreme confusion, often comes during late afternoon or at night for those with Alzheimer’s and so that’s why it’s called sundowning.  Lately, we’ve seen it come and go at all times of day, with no predictable time frame.

Watching a loved one fret and worry is exhausting for the loved one with Alzheimer’s Disease and Dementia and for those of us who care for them.  As the mind whirls into a vortex of unpredictability, thoughts firing at random, words tumbling out nonsensically, a helplessness sinks in and an urgency to help in any way possible to allow for peace and tranquility.

When sleep can be encouraged, it seems to dilute the chaos in their minds, allowing our loved one a little peace.  Changing the subject to one of love and beauty helps as well, but sometimes that button cannot be unpushed, the channel cannot be changed and we all whirl in the frenzy for a bit.

Have you ever experienced this as a caregiver of a loved one?

It’s not easy to remain untouched by the emotionality of the situation, let alone what is unknowingly coming out of their mouth.  Thoughts flicker, reality surges and fades and my heart breaks wide open with sadness for I cannot even begin to fathom how hard this is for her, let alone for me.

This disease is just so hard and old age, as the adage goes, ‘ain’t for sissies.’

Shine On!





The Guest House



This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

The barn above is extremely old, but many years ago, it contained a few farm animals who made a small town in South Carolina their home.  It’s the only barn in town now and treasured because it is the last barn standing even though to the untrained Yankee eye, it may look worthy of a teardown.

But in reality, it is a great guest house for me right now, for all of the emotions which well up within me (hence the photo).  My heartfelt thanks to Heather for the poem by Rumi and for Laurie who inspires me to be still and to courageously feel the emotions which come to be cleared from my body, mind and soul.

May YOU be inspired by Rumi to…

be grateful for whatever comes,

because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.

Shine On!


Go Ahead, Be Emotional

tolle1“If you really want to know your mind, the body will always give you a truthful reflection,

so look at the emotion, or rather feel it in your body.

If there is an apparent conflict between them, the thought will be the lie,

the emotion will be the truth.”

— Eckhart Tolle

Sharing what I’m learning…

Shine on!