Writing Freely

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Writing frees my soul and my heart.  My words flow freely when I write as opposed to when I speak sometimes.   It’s easier for me to tell you how I feel through a letter or blog post then to actually speak aloud for I often feel I am misunderstood when I speak, especially when it’s a hard subject or a disagreement.

Sometimes when we are in a conversation, we have a hard time listening to the other person entirely.  A thought may jump into our heads while they are speaking and we may concentrate on what we are planning on saying about that to them, instead of listening to everything the other person is saying.  I know it’s happened to me before and I guess it’s a natural reaction at times.

Here, I feel like I can be me.  The true me.  The one who doesn’t always have to watch where she’s walking on the path of conversation for sometimes in conversations we walk a mine field, carefully, hoping not to detonate a land mind that will start a disagreement.  Do you feel that way sometimes?

Shine On!

xo

 

Sharing Experiences

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Blogging is sharing experiences via writing as you well know if you’re a blogger.  We read blogs to share our experiences and to connect along the way.  Sometimes there’s a tidbit in someone’s blog which ignites a part of us in a good way.  I’ve learned so much from reading your blogs – new vocabulary, new books, and assimilated new ideas into my life.  I’ve connected through shared similar life experiences and found friendships, whether brief or long-term.  I’ve enjoyed expanding my thinking, my music repertoire and my enjoyment of reading with you as well.  I’ve felt when you’ve had challenges and grief in your lives and I have felt your support and caring when the same has happened in mine.

Writing with openness requires great vulnerability.  I don’t believe that when we open up to the world we are being weak.  I think it takes great strength to show ourselves in emotional truth for we never know how it will be perceived.  I feel grateful that I’ve found truth in the Universal code of kindness that if you don’t have something nice to say, you keep it to yourself because if it’s not helpful, then it’s hurtful and the majority doesn’t intend to hurt anyone else.

There may always be those who misunderstand me for which I’m sad, but I’ve accepted them.   Their fear-based beliefs keep them from opening up and experiencing life in different ways.  Fear can do strange things to people’s minds and being fear-based brings much anxiety to the most stable of individuals.  It is only when we release fear that we can embrace the plethora of goodness in life.  Sure, there are times when we are hurt, when misunderstandings occur and when people just don’t act with kindness.  That happens everywhere.  We must accept that we are all on our own journeys and that they intersect at different times.  We may walk on the path of life with someone for awhile and then part ways.  Or we may stay, sharing the path on and off for a lifetime.  What I know for sure is that each time our paths cross, whether it’s in a good situation or a teaching moment, we come away with a richer life experience for having crossed paths.

And isn’t that what life school is all about?  Learning, growing and experiencing all different types of situations and people?  Taking what comes to us a calm way and finding the good in the encounter – even when at the time it seems not so good?  When we are healed or when we can view it as an observer, we realize that the encounter has helped us to learn more about ourselves, to understand people in general and to enjoy the tapestry of experiences that is this life.  We are grateful for the peace and the  learning opportunity that we may have missed we if hadn’t crossed paths in this lifetime.

So I thank you for reading my blog and for opening up and letting us be with you through your blogs.  It is my honor to connect with you always.

Thanks for being you!

Shine On!

xo

Always Stay Humble and Kind

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Happy Monday to you!  Let’s begin the week with a soothing song!  Whenever I hear this song, I feel such comfort so I’m sharing it with you.  Have you heard it?  I love the lyrics and Tim’s voice.  Please enjoy!  I hope you have a lovely week ahead of you – enjoy today – and always stay humble and kind!

“Humble And Kind”
(written by Lori McKenna)

You know there’s a light that glows by the front door
Don’t forget the key’s under the mat
When childhood stars shine,
Always stay humble and kind

Go to church ’cause your mamma says to
Visit grandpa every chance that you can
It won’t be wasted time
Always stay humble and kind

Hold the door, say “please,” say “thank you”
Don’t steal, don’t cheat, and don’t lie
I know you got mountains to climb
But always stay humble and kind
When the dreams you’re dreamin’ come to you
When the work you put in is realized
Let yourself feel the pride
But always stay humble and kind

Don’t expect a free ride from no one
Don’t hold a grudge or a chip and here’s why:
Bitterness keeps you from flyin’
Always stay humble and kind

Know the difference between sleeping with someone
And sleeping with someone you love
“I love you” ain’t no pick-up line
So always stay humble and kind

Hold the door, say “please,” say “thank you”
Don’t steal, don’t cheat, and don’t lie
I know you got mountains to climb
But always stay humble and kind
When those dreams you’re dreamin’ come to you
When the work you put in is realized
Let yourself feel the pride
But always stay humble and kind

When it’s hot, eat a root beer popsicle
Shut off the AC and roll the windows down
Let that summer sun shine
Always stay humble and kind

Don’t take for granted the love this life gives you
When you get where you’re going don’t forget turn back around
And help the next one in line
Always stay humble and kind

Shine On!
xo

 

Prayer Does Not Change God

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Prayer does not change God,

but it changes him who prays.

– Soren Kierkegaard

Do you pray?  Do you meditate?  Do you have faith that there’s a Higher Power in your life that guides you when you listen to your own inner voice?  What are you beliefs?  Do you even know what you believe?  Have you thought about it?

Perhaps now’s the time if you haven’t already thought about your beliefs.  Spend some time today quietly, perhaps surrounded by nature, and ask yourself what you believe in your heart and soul.  Allow the answer to come to you in the stillness of the moment.  Listen carefully and notice what you’re thinking and how you are feeling.  Many times the answers to our innermost questions are revealed when we allow our souls, hearts and minds to speak to us.  Listen with an open heart.

For me, prayer is peace.  Perhaps it was the way I was brought up or how I’ve evolved over the years.  I find when I give my worries up to my Higher Power, Inner Spirit, Universe, God, answers come to me.  Ways are made clear and my Divine Purpose is revealed to me with more detail.  Prayer stops my monkey mind (you know, the anxiety of what to do, the mind that perseverates over problems over and over) and allows me to be at peace.  Not always are the answers to my inner most questions revealed after praying.  But in time, I trust in faith that because the questions have been asked, answers are delivered with Divine timing.  It’s just the peace in being in the Presents of Presence.

How about you?  How do you feel about prayer?  What do you believe?  On such a beautiful peaceful Sunday, I would love to hear your thoughts on the subject!

Please Share!

Shine On!

xo

 

Sundowners and Alzheimer’s Disease

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One of the challenges with having a loved one with Alzheimer’s Disease is sundowners.  Sundowners is a symptom of Alzheimer’s and Dementia whereby your loved one becomes more confused mentally towards the end of the day (hence the name).  There are wide variations of sundowners including utter confusion, wandering, aggression, shadowing (meaning they follow you around), repeatedly asking questions that they do not remember that they’ve asked and rapid mood changes which can range from crying (depression) to fear to stubbornness to restlessness and even to rocking back and forth in an effort to self-soothe.  Not all of the symptoms of sundowners occur every night, nor are they the same for every person.  I’ve written about it before here in case you are interested.

My Aunt suffered from sundowners which was hard on her and on her caregivers.  It always seemed to increase in intensity when the moon was full, when we changed to/from daylight savings time and when the seasons changed.  I think there’s more to outside forces than we may think!

My Mom has occasional bouts of sundowners as well, but confusion is her main symptom.  We were having a conversation recently after 6pm which was lovely when suddenly, her knowledge base fell completely out of her head.  We had been discussing my children, her grandchildren, whom she knew by name, by age and was interactively talking about them when suddenly she interrupted me,

I have to ask you.  Do you have children?

Yes, Mom.  I have children.  You have grandchildren!

Oh my, I didn’t know you were old enough to have children.  How many do you have?  Do they live with you?

I have to say that years ago, I would have been utterly distraught to hear her ask me that question right in the middle of talking about my children when she was fully cognizant of their presence, knowing who they are and having seen them recently.  But I have learned that Alzheimer’s is sneaky and can interrupt a loved one’s knowledge base in a split second, rendering them unaware.  So I simply continued the conversation with her, telling her about my children and reminding her gently of their names.

Suddenly, it was like she was back in her mind and she began reminiscing about them with memories of their childhood that she knew.  We laughed together and enjoyed the connection.  This went on for a bit when suddenly the blip happened again and we had to begin all over.  Then at one point, she was thinking that I was her sister and was asking me if I remembered certain things about her childhood.  But all along the conversation, one part was perfectly clear – my Mom loves me, trusts me and knows my name for which I am ever grateful!  That is the piece of peace that stays with me long after confusing conversations and even throughout them.  My Mom loves me and knows how much I love her – what more can you ask for?

I have to remind myself that it’s just part of the disease.  As I’ve written before, when we stay calm, we can flow with whatever comes up.  It’s taken me a long time to get to this place of peace and acceptance.  I had to get the belief that this isn’t how it should be out of my head and simply accept and be with what is.

I keep her sense of calm foremost in my head.  I keep conversations light and happy.  I do answer her questions with truth when she asks, if I think that they will not hurt her.  But as you have seen, Swinging With Mom sometimes we have to repeat the truth which is hard.  It takes patience, love and a sense of humor to love everyone and Mom is here to remind me to strengthen the bonds of love and acceptance for all who are in my life.  Thank you Mommy!

Shine On!

xo

 

By An Accidental Butt Dial, I Got An Important Message

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I heard my phone ringing, but I didn’t reach it before it went to voicemail.  When I listened to the message from the person, I realized that they had called me in error.  Normally, when I can tell that someone didn’t know they were leaving a message, I simply delete.  But something made me listen to the full message.   I overheard their full conversation clearly and it was eye-opening.

Because they remarked about me and not in a nice way.

So please be careful with your phones.  This is not the first time I’ve been butt dialed and overheard a conversation not meant for me and it may not be the last.

Has this ever happened to you?

There are gifts in the Universe that come through technology, like this one.  Surely we’ve all had times when our computer doesn’t let us do something only to find out that it was a gift that we didn’t send that email or buy that new dress.  Ha Ha!  There are times when we are delayed by stop lights, only to find that we have missed an accident up ahead.  Sometimes we are protected by technology and sometimes we learn from it.

The Universe delivers messages to us by all different channels when we are aware.  What we may deem coincidence or synchronicity is a clear message to help us along the way and to reveal the truth.

Knowledge is power, even when it hurts.

Shine On!

xo

 

 

 

 

Communication Troubles In Texting

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The biggest problem in communication

is the illusion that it has taken place. 

~ Writer, George Bernard Shaw

Recently, I was having a conversation via text that went wrong.  It went straight down the wrong path into anger.  I knew it was because of miscommunication, but it escalated quickly.  Sure, it was a tricky subject we were texting about, but it was obvious we were coming from completely different viewpoints.

I admit, I was shaking because I was so upset.  I calmed down and regrouped.  I then reread the previous texts trying to pinpoint where it all went awry.  Then I found it!  The other person seemed to have completely missed a key message from a 3rd person in the group!  VOILA!

So I went back and texted – J, did you see M’s text?  Then I copied and pasted M’s blurb below it.  It was as if the heavens opened up and the sun came out along with rainbows.  The storm passed almost immediately and what J was so angry about had nothing to do with anything due to M’s text.  Crisis averted.

But miscommunication within texting comes often as we can’t hear the tone of the voice of the speaker.  We can’t tell if they are joking or serious and yes, that makes all the difference.  Sometimes a simple question can be interpreted as demanding instead of inquisitive.  A request can sound like a command instead.  Silence can be met by resentment in not answering when someone gets off task and doesn’t continue the conversation but leaves a read message that needed an answer, blank.

Don’t get me started on abbreviations because sometimes I can’t figure out what people are saying.  Or when Siri or autocorrect put their two cents in?  I’ve written some doozies that I didn’t notice autocorrect changed.  Lucky for me they were to friends who know I joke that I have fat fingers when I text quickly.  I seem to always hit the wrong buttons! LOL

Has this ever happened to you?

Shine On!

xo