Party On!

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Day 2 of 2018 and here’s what’s come to me and written itself.

Need I remind you (and me for that matter) that we only have today in which to live?  Sometimes I find that time flies by and I realize that I have let days go by without living.  What does that mean exactly?  Well, it probably means different things to each of us, but for me, it means that my days sometimes are filled with mundane routine and there’s not even a small spark of newness to them.

I wonder if when the watch the reel of our lives when we get to the other side, if we will feel like that time was wasted or if we will realize that there was something important about days that feel spark-less?

Will we run through the Rolodex of days gone by that seemingly had no spark and berate ourselves?  Or will be understand that those days had meaning because they were when we were experiencing, accepting and processing life in a quieter way?

I have friends who live life to the fullest all the time.  They are busy, busy, busy – running here and there with their party lights on full tilt.  It amazes me how they can be on so much of the time.  Perhaps it is my chronic fatigue that plagues me that I don’t have that type of energy all the time.  Perhaps it is because I can become introspective and often need to go within to process life experiences so that I can come out with enthusiasm for life again after I’ve been hurt.  How do you live your life?

I love to hear how people deal with life experiences differently.  I love how relationships change.  I am an avid people-watcher and I enjoy learning about how people think and what leads them to their actions.  Connecting with others makes me happy and gives me a feeling of divine purpose.  Most of us by this age have experienced many different life experiences, good and bad.  To connect with someone who understands what you are going through because they have had a similar experience is like finding a golden nugget, especially when you are both open to share freely.

So what’s my point?  Obviously, I don’t know.  This is just another post which has written itself and I allowed the words to flow from my fingers to the keyboard.  If any of this resonates with you, please let me know.

Shine On!

xo

 

 

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Rabbits January 1st, 2018

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January 1, 2018 begins a new year and a new month!  So you must have known I would have to mention my beloved rabbit, rabbit, in our conversation!  It’s only fitting I think to start the new year off right!

The lift of spirit comes to me in the early morning hours, holding me close and nestling against my heart.  Part of me is weary and tired and part of me is getting energized like the rabbits for forward movement with hope for a shiny new year on which to make my mark.

I don’t make resolutions as I find them restricting.  Sure I’d love to exercise more, to lose a few pounds and to perhaps be more organized.  But those are goals to me that can be accomplished with discipline.  I’m thinking bigger.

I open my arms to embrace the new year with a full heartlight shining.  My intention is to not allow my heartlight to be dimmed in 2018.

Keep your heartlight shining in 2018 dear friends!  Every day is a choice to shine!  You do it so well and I look forward to seeing you sparkling in my life everyday!
May you have a year filled with wishes fulfilled!  Happy 2018!
Shine On!
xo

 

A New New Year’s Eve

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I was diagnosed with breast cancer on New Year’s Eve of 2001.  I won’t bore you with the details, but if you choose to search in my posts for those key words, you will find my story.  Much has happened since that fateful day and for many years, I felt downtrodden by the reminder of my cancerversary on New Year’s Eve.

Finally, I no longer hold that diagnosis in my heart/mind/soul as I used to in the past.  The cancer diagnosis was the beginning of my spiritual journey which has led me to this day, today, for which I am ever grateful.  My life hasn’t turned out as I’d planned.  Instead, I’ve endured a plethora of losses and yet, I remain grateful for each experience.  I see now that all of those life lessons have led me to today and the spiritual knowledge which I would have never received had my life been easy and cancer-free.  I have acquired so much depth of understanding which I would have never grown if I hadn’t had to endure so much pain in my life.  The experiences reminded me of how innately strong I am and how even though my life went through periods of darkness, my heartlight shines even more brightly now because of what I’ve endured.  Isn’t that always the way?  Do you feel the same way?

My heartlight dimmed at times of great stress, disease, fear and grief, but the innate sparkle never left me.  My faith has grown stronger.  My commitment to being me in all my quirks and glory, has only increased in strength and commitment.  My supply of self-love and love for all mankind has increased exponentially.  I love from the depths of my soul and have learned to receive healthy love as well.  I no longer worry about acceptance.  I am who I am and I am not afraid anymore.

I wish you all a lovely New Year’s Eve!  Let go of who and what doesn’t serve your spiritual growth.  Leave the past hurts behind.  Enjoy The Presents of Presence and may all unfold in 2018 with love, light and peace for you!

Shine On!

xo

The Shack

Last night, I curled up on the couch after eating a warm bowl of homemade chicken soup that I had made for my family yesterday while the temperatures dropped into the single digits outside.  Cuddled under a big, fluffy, warm blanket, almost falling asleep, instead I turned on the movie The Shack.  Years ago, I remember reading the book which I found confusing.  So as the movie began, there were parts that I remembered from the book and much that I had forgotten.

I’ve told you about a few movies which I’ve found to be keepers – ones which touched me spiritually and this one, I need to add to that list for you and for me to watch again.  You see, after I finished watching it and dried my tears, I knew I would have to sleep on all that I’d just experienced along with the lead character in order to absorb what I could.  I also know that I will need to watch it again to absorb more, but that I will know when to watch it again – when my mind and body are receptive.

Click here or on the photo of the book to check it out on Amazon.

Have you ever read the book The Shack or seen the movie version?  The book came out in 2007 and the movie in March of 2017.  I would love to hear from you if you’ve already read the book or seen the movie.  I admit that it can be confusing at times and one needs to keep an open mind.

It’s the reminder of God’s presence in all of our lives healing us in a storytelling way.  The theme of love and letting go of the past are such strong universal truths that those are the additional reasons why I recommend reading and watching The Shack. 

Forgiveness is part of letting go of the past and as the end of 2017 is upon us, perhaps it’s time to let go of 2017 in order to begin again, our next year, with a clean slate and love in our hearts, minds and souls for all.

Shine your heartlights dear friends.

The time is now to heal our wounds and to be at peace.

Shine On!

xo

 

Leave The Past Behind

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Sweet friends, it’s challenging when our parents get older and we begin to take care of them.  Sometimes the past relationships get in the way of our thinking and it gets harder to be patient and kind.  Few grown children don’t carry some reminders of injustice or hurts that they sometimes unwittingly carry into adulthood and that can spill over into the present day relationships with our parents.

I understand.

But dear friends, it’s time to let go of the past and focus on the present.  This can be a hard task to accomplish, but I have faith in you and I am willing to hold your hand while you walk this path.

Guilt, shame and frustrations build when we are tasked with parenting when we are still holding on to hurts from the past.  Also, parents can do the same so that the relationship can be hard to navigate, especially when you, their child, is now in charge.

Why can’t he/she be nice?  Can’t they see I’m trying to help?  Why do they act that way?  I’m tired of this!  This is not my responsibility because they did x, y or z to me when I was little, a teenager, an adult….this list of complaints can go on and on.

And yes, I agree that this is hard for you (and for them).  My heart goes out to you all as I’ve been there and I have felt similarly to some degree.  I get it.  So you may be asking, How the heck did I get into this place of peace?

I let go baby!  I rose above the hurts to a place of peace in my heart.  I did it for them and I did it for me.  I love them innately and I see them as human beings doing their best, just as I am.  I love from a place of understanding, of forgiveness and with peace in my heart.  I go into the day with prayer for patience to help me throughout the day and to help them.  I get out of my own head and try to see things from their perspective and then it dawns on me, how they’re feeling.  I come from a place of healing hearts and simply trying to make all of our lives happier.  Sometimes I succeed and sometimes I don’t.  So then, I ask for forgiveness, to myself and to them and to God and I just begin again.

When you don’t feel like you’ve succeeded or when it’s been a really hard day, let go of the bad and just hang onto the good.  Let the hard times fall away from your thinking and hold onto that kernel of goodness.  There is some goodness every day.  Sometimes you just have to search a bit to find the blessing, but it’s always there.

Allow the past to have no power over you.  Live solidly in the present and allow the future to take care of itself.  Be present with loved ones and find the joy in connecting with them.  Role model love, kindness, caring and joy.  Innately you are a healer so use your gifts wisely.  And if you need to throw up your hands in frustration, by all means, do it in privacy.  Give yourself a time out to recoup before exploding with negativity.

Remember, your parents/elderly loved ones aren’t necessarily trying to make it harder on you.  They are simply doing what they can at this time.  And even if you don’t believe that or you think I’m full of Pollyanna hooey, give them the benefit of the doubt and give it to yourself when it comes to doing your best.

We are all on this journey called Life.  Lessons come to us in many forms to deepen our understanding of love.  Because let’s face it, love is what this life is all about and sometimes love and forgiveness walk hand in hand.  It take a lot of love to be someone else’s lesson.  Perhaps that thought will give you peace in your heart.  Your parent loves you enough to teach you a life lesson, whatever the lesson my be.  Be grateful for their love and for the lesson.  Hold them closely.  Forgive and forget.  Heal yourself and others.  You are more than capable to choose the high road and now’s the time.

Don’t do it simply because I suggested it.  Do it for yourself.  Raising the love vibrations in this world helps us all.  And it starts with you, dear friend.  Shine your heartlight.  I believe in you.

Shine On!

xo

 

 

 

When You Find Yourself Parenting Your Parents

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I have a few friends who are now entering a new phase of adulthood which is when you are now charged with parenting your own parents or elderly family members.  It happens to many of us as we reach middle age.  My friends are just at the beginnings of that journey and I am glad to be here to help them and to help anyone else who needs it.  Because, I know how hard it is to watch the changes that occur as our parents get older.  Sometimes it starts sneakily and at others, it feels as if the drastic changes happen overnight.  But not matter how it happens, it’s hard for all involved.

The reversal of roles from child to parenting our parents can be a rocky road to navigate.  Some parents have a tough time relinquishing control to their children and fight the aging process with acute belligerence.  I can imagine how hard it is to realize even a little bit that we aren’t as ‘with it’ as we once were, that we get confused at times and that our children are telling us what to do when that was our job.  It’s a slippery slope to navigate as a child who now needs to parent our own parents.  We must be patient as the changes occur and be kind, even when our best intended and even wise suggestions are met with disapproval.

It’s hard to realize that our parents aren’t as healthy, mentally and physically as they once were and that we cannot rely upon them as children anymore.  It’s a tough realization, but very necessary.  There’s a mourning that comes with that realization for ourselves and our parents if they can realize it.  Bumps in the road are certain as this next phase begins.

Perhaps you’re realizing that your parents are weakening mentally and physically.  They aren’t as spry as they used to be and need help walking or doing their normal routines.  Perhaps you’re noticing that they are getting a bit confused at times or forgetting what they once readily knew.  Or perhaps they are slurring their words a bit or not able to remember to pay the bills on time or to take out the garbage or to eat routinely.

Please, come from a place of love and kindness as you navigate this new phase.  Be helpful and try to keep your frustrations outwardly to a minimum.  Hold your parents closer than you may have in the past and give them love.  Let them know you are there to be helpful and not to take over entirely (unless it’s now truly needed).  Find ways in which to help them as these beginning stages unfold.  Keep a keen eye on things as it progresses and be aware that subtle changes can grow quickly into full on tragedy if not monitored.

I am not trying to scare you, but I need to warn you.  I have seen it happen.  Trauma can exacerbate the the changes more quickly and speed up the need to get more help for your parents.

You may even see personality changes occur as they decline mentally and physically.  Agitation is common as their frustration levels increase (and yours do too).  It’s normal, so please take care of yourself and them with kindness and patience in your heart, mind and actions.

I’m here if you need a friend.  I’ve been on this path for quite a long time with several family members.  It’s not easy, but when you understand that you are not alone on this journey, it helps to ease the pain.  Being supported by someone who’s been there helps and I would like to give back in honor of those who helped me through the journey, so I’m here for you.

Shine On!

xo

 

Christmas Presence

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Dear Ones,

Hold loosely the presence of love today.  Do not hold tightly to old traditions, but instead go with the flow of being present.  Allow the day to flow freely, evolving divinely to incorporate all the blessings of this beautiful season of  Christ’s birth.

Make your greatest gift your presence with your loved ones.  Pay attention to the moment in the conversation.  Hug with heartfelt joy for life is precious and nothing is ever guaranteed.  Speak with kindness and love in your heart.

The above is what I began channeling before the Christmas Day festivities began and I never finished it unfortunately.  But since today is the day after Christmas and the spirit is still in the air, let me tell you about my day.

It was filled with love and connections with my family.  My greatest gift for which I’m ever grateful was the presence of my sons and the beautiful crystal angel present which they gave me for Christmas.  Through the chaos of circumstances, one bell continued to ring true – we are a family, we are bonded through good times and bad and we support each other’s healing with respect, love and kindness.  Our accepting open hearts and ability to share our feelings triumphs all worldly goods.  Our presence together speaks volumes in a world which is littered with distractions.  Unmasking the superficial, we are really ourselves – our gift to all.  We shine our heartlights with loving presence.  We hold dearly truth and open mindedness.  We bond together with love in our hearts.

That Christmas presence pervaded the celebrations.   When feeling weary from outside forces, we sought shelter together.  We understood each other in profound ways.  Kindness in act, word and deed and living at the higher vibrations was the melody on which we floated.  We chose the gift of presence with each other and that’s the greatest present of all.

Shine On!

xo