The Little Prince
By Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Dear friends, have you read this book? I just finished it for the first time and I find it fascinatingly chock full of mini life lessons. Although I’m not altogether sure I understand everything the author is trying to relay to us as grown-ups, there were passages which I found to be worthy of further thought. I would love to hear your thoughts on the book if you have read it so that I can learn from your experience.
For example, on relationships:
“I am looking for friends. What does that mean — tame?”
“It is an act too often neglected,” said the fox. “It means to establish ties.”
“To establish ties?”
“Just that,” said the fox. “To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world….”
“So the little prince tamed the fox. And when the hour of his departure drew near–
“Ah,” said the fox, “I shall cry.”
“It is your own fault,” said the little prince. “I never wished you any sort of harm; but you wanted me to tame you . . .”
“Yes, that is so,” said the fox.
“But now you are going to cry!” said the little prince.
“Yes, that is so,” said the fox.
“Then it has done you no good at all!”
“It has done me good,” said the fox, “because of the color of the wheat fields.”
“You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed.”
“One runs the risk of weeping a little, if one lets himself be tamed.”
“I remembered the fox. One runs the risk of crying a bit if one allows oneself to be tamed.”
As in yesterday’s post about love, I guess I am running on a theme these past few days. There are those who swear off closeness with others when they’ve been hurt. They are reminded all too often that even though there is a precious gift in connecting with someone, taming, as in this story, there is weeping when ‘one lets himself be tamed’ as well. We allow our souls to connect for a time and when/if they become dislodged and disconnected, we weep for the hurt. It happens often in many different types of relationships, as you may understand from personal experience. It needn’t be a love relationship such as a marriage or dating, although that is hard when it ends. There can be other types of separations, disconnections, that can be just as heartbreaking. Friendships and family relationships can grow apart or even break altogether, having served the life duration of the relationship and still, there is that bit of crying when the ties are severed. It’s a part of relationships sometimes, that they have a time limit, a life cycle so to speak. We grow together, tame each other by feeling that special closeness and then, through experiences, we separate and move on. Sometimes neither person wants to do this, but perhaps circumstances are not in our favor.
I welcome the weeping at the end, for it means that the relationship was special, unique and one that I shan’t forget. Like the fox who is reminded of The Little Prince when he sees the golden wheat, I know in my heart, that it has done me good.
How about you?
Whew! My plight has been resolved. Instagram took down my page that was hacked. My heartfelt gratitude to those who helped by reporting the impersonation of my page and the images which were not mine. What a fiasco, but I am ever grateful to those who took the time to help me and to those of you who reached out via my blog.
It’s a good lesson to learn that even though there are those out there in cyberland who choose to hack, to impersonate and to live on the dark side; there are also those who have your back, make the effort to do good and to help when needed. For this, I am ever grateful.
Some tips I read on the Instagram site if you are ever in this predicament, and can’t log into your account for whatever reason, are:
Tell your friends to report it as “this profile is pretending to be someone” and not as pornography or spam.
- “The appropriate way to report an account is go to the person’s account, then hit the ellipse or the three dots on the upper right hand corner.
- Next, click “I believe this violates the community guidelines;” then “report account;” then “this profile is pretending to be someone else;” and then hit “someone I know.”
- If you are a person, tell your friends to do this. BUT – if you are representing an organization, give instructions to the right people within your company to report the account.”
I researched through the Instagram site, trying desperately to contact them to tell them that my page was hacked, password and email changed and there was no way I could log in to remove the hacked photos from my account. I learned that there is a two step authentication process by which those on Instagram can protect their pages which I highly recommend you do if you are on Instagram. I will not be using their services anymore, but I will say that am grateful that within a day of complaints by me and some of my followers, the page was deleted and will never be resurrected by me.
I know a lot of people who use Instagram for family photos, etc. In my research there were tons of people who had been hacked as I had and they had to jump through hoops to authenticate themselves to Instagram and some of them lost their photos entirely. It’s an epidemic now in this cyberworld that there are people who choose to arbitrarily hack into other people’s accounts and not just with Instagram, but I’ve heard with Facebook and other social media.
Be wary, be careful, and take precautions dear friends. It can be a dangerous world out there. I hope this never happens to you and I am grateful that the crisis is now averted for me. But perhaps in sharing my story, you will be more vigilant so that you don’t experience this unseen, disturbing violation of your social media account.
As you’ve seen in my last few posts, life has been hard these days. For me, writing is my outlet, sharing what I think might help someone else who is a caregiver of someone whom they love who has Alzheimer’s Disease and Dementia. I write in order to connect with others who are walking this path because we understand how emotional it can be and you just need support from others who get it.
There is no cure for this disease. It is fatal. As the mind shuts down, the body begins its journey as well. It’s genetic as well, which means that those of us with relatives with the disease, can be subject to it in the future.
Think about that for a moment…what you may be witnessing as a child of a parent with Alzheimer’s, may be you one day. It puts a terrible spin on the whole experience, don’t you think? For then, with that knowledge, we wonder if we have it and every tidbit of forgetfulness becomes a full blown worry if it’s early onset of the disease.
Just because a parent has the disease, doesn’t necessarily mean that the offspring will develop it though, which is good news. For it’s hard enough to watch a loved one struggle to hold onto information, recognize people and remember that loved ones have passed away. The incessant questioning and cycles of repetition can make it hard to be patient, especially when we are hurting as well. In truth, I’ve cried a boatload of tears lately in frustration and sadness in feeling so helpless.
The power of prayer and faith helps. When I can’t stop trying to fix the situation or at least better it, I find that getting on my knees to pray helps quiet my mind. Simply handing it over to God for the night, once I finally let go, let Him in and let God take it from here that is. I’m a tough cookie. I like to keep a handle on things so it’s harder for me to allow the Universe and God to hold onto everything while I sleep. But it helps so much.
Do you ever find yourself on your knees praying when all else fails?
There is a calmness
to a life lived in gratitude
– a quiet joy.
~Ralph H. Blum
Gratitude for what is, what was and what may be. This is how I live my life. I am grateful for all the experiences, even those which have been sad, devastating and hard, as well as those experiences where I have searched and found the ‘good’ in what initially I viewed with suffering in my heart. We have all heard, ‘time heals all wounds.’ But is that really true? I am undecided, but yet, I feel that there is a choice in how we view the wounds as time goes by. We can choose to have the wounds define us or empower us. We are free to choose and it is in our choice, we continue to find peace and calmness in our lives.
So today on Thanksgiving, may we look upon the day with gratitude, love, calmness and joy. View our world with peace in our hearts and allow healing love to surround us.
As always, I am grateful to be here with you, to connect with you and to find the joy in the moment with you. Let’s share gratitude for The Presents of Presence together!
In honor of the canonization of Mother Teresa today, please watch the video below, in her own words, speaking of love.
“Where does this love begin? In our own family, in our own home. How does it begin? By praying together. Family that prays together, stays together and if you stay together, you will love one another as God loves each one of you
Today in the world there is so much suffering. Because of that one of prayer of unity in the family so today when we are together, let us make one strong resolution that we will bring prayer into our family, that we will teach our children to pray and pray with them and you will see the joy and the love and the peace that will come into your hearts. Because the fruit of prayer is the deepening of faith and the fruit of faith is love and the fruit of love is service and the fruit of service is peace. Works of love are works of peace that is why let us bring the tender love of God in our families.”
~Mother Teresa, speech on Love
Love one another.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
– Lao Tzu
Life has its own path of twists and turns, many of which are made by our own free will or the free will of others in our tribe. Sometimes circumstances beyond our control can also throw a proverbial monkey wrench into our life paths, causing us to traverse mountains and rugged terrain as we sort through changes that we may have never wanted to see coming.
What I’ve found to help me as I’ve traversed rocky terrain has been to add love to every situation by throwing in a dash of positive thinking, forgiveness for myself and others, a splash of kindness and compassion and a letting go of the reigns of responsibility and control to which I sometimes grip too tightly. A continual reminder to keep gratitude in the forefront has aided my healing as well. Keeping the faith and allowing the Universe to help me has created much positivity and peace in my life. Lastly, connecting with others, opening my heart, mind and soul to trusted friends who have helped me when I’ve stumbled, has made the journey more endearing and has lessened the angst.
For me, I always feel as though I can do anything if someone else believes in me and walks along with me on this chapter of life’s path in a companionable way. Connect with me, hold my hand (not necessarily physically, but emotionally), for awhile, link arms with me in friendship and support and know the difference between listening, advising and telling.
I am here, hopefully back to blogging as I have missed you all very much. I pray that while I’ve been absent from blogging that you have been well, continuing to shine your heartlights and being you ~ a loving, supportive community of heartlit writers who care! You know, I’m your biggest fan!