If you read the title of my post today and scoffed, I don’t blame you. When I wrote it, I scoffed a bit too because frankly, who wants to be grateful for troubles and challenges? Heck, those are things we shy away from, even run from as fast as possible!
Who is their right mind would say there are benefits in troubles and challenges?
Me! And maybe even you?!
Because I’ve endured quite a few, (cancer, divorce, family with Alzheimer’s and Dementia, death of family, just to name a few), I can attest to their benefits (of course, this is AFTER they happened). After the fact, we can see how individual challenges make us grow and strengthen us. The challenges force us, sometimes unwillingly, to look at our lives with a different perspective. They inspire us to deep deeper into ourselves to find the strength, the courage, and the inspiration to get through the difficult times. We find out what we are really made of when we have challenges in life. We are offered choices on life’s path and the beauty that we can choose again at any time makes life interesting. Challenges and growth opportunities allow us to see how far we’ve come in our lives.
We can see troubles and challenges as building blocks on the road to life. Our ability to endure them and to triumph over them (or to not) shapes us in different ways. We enable our innate personality traits to be tweaked. We learn new ways of coping. We tune our minds into new avenues of solutions. We can make new friends who open our eyes to finding peace in stressful situations.
The potential for growth, mentally, emotionally and psychologically during troubles and challenges can be exponential. True, it can be maddening and frustrating as heck to have to deal with difficulties, but the benefits in the end, can outweigh the discomforts.
I know, you are probably thinking that I just don’t understand your troubles and challenges and you are right. We all have our own path, but as I have found, they sometimes intersect and we can walk a path together with a friend (or a stranger who becomes a friend) and we can help each other, and support each other as we move through the tough times.
At least that’s been my experience throughout this lifetime. I find that the higher power in my life, call it what you may, God, Universe, Infinite Spirit, your own higher power – helps me along the way through the hard times by planting strangers disguised as angels, friends, synchronizations, coincidences, etc. in order to help me overcome whatever is holding me back. These in turn encourage me to grow, to learn and to accept what previously I may have deemed unacceptable. But in the long run, I know that they were necessary growth spurts to get to me to where I am now.
It’s hard to believe for some of us that there’s a light at the end of a dark tunnel and that in the end, all the hard times were worth the changes that were hard won. It’s mind-blowing at times that we can see in hindsight the benefits that come after enduring these life lessons.
But they are there. Truly, they are there.
So please, if you are wondering if it’s karma or back luck or whatever you are thinking in order to blame the bad that’s going on in your life right now, just stop. Accept it. Keep going through it and move on.
That light at the end of the tunnel is beckoning you with sunshine! Come on, hold my hand. I’ll walk the path with you!