If you are someone who had a good relationship with your Mom, you may understand how I’m feeling today. My Mom passed away over a month ago and while in my heart I know she’s in Heaven, I miss her. There’s an emptiness in my life lately because she was such a huge part of my life.
She has visited me in various forms to let me know that she’s here with me in spirit. For those that understand what I’m saying, perhaps you’ve had similar experiences as well. I’d love to hear about them if you’re willing to share so please feel free to write in the comments or reach out via email if you’d prefer a more private conversation.
Grief is a funny thing isn’t it? It sneaks up on us from time to time in the most surprising ways. My Mom liked Talbots clothing so when I received a catalogue from there, I thought of what Mom might like and then it hit me. I don’t need to buy Mom anything because she’s not here on this earth anymore. Tears sprung to my eyes and for a moment the bereft feeling hit me hard. I wiped the tears away and then sent up a prayer to her.
Then the other day I had a question and knew my Mom would know the answer. Sadly, I realized I can’t ask her and that I probably would never know the answer to that particular question because she’s not here. Again, the tears fell.
I’ve learned that losing a loved one and the grieving process that follows in order to heal takes time. It’s not easy as you may know from experience. Unexpected memories pop up at times that can bring up a fresh round of tears, but in time with healing, we can fondly remember the good times and be grateful for our loved one’s presence in our lives.
For we carry their presence in our hearts as the legacy of who they were stays alive in the memories of those who are still here. Gone but not forgotten. Isn’t that the way we are remembered?
I’m so sorry. I remember feeling what you’re describing after I lost of my dad. And yes, he looks out for me and “visits” on occasion still after many years. I have no doubt your mom is with you in spirit and you feel her presence and infinite love.
It hurts because we love so much. Sending a big hug your way Yvonne 😍
Val, there is so much depth in that one line from you.
I agree…that says it all….we love so much….
Thank you Val. You are so sweet! xo. You are absolutely right…❤️
Beautiful thoughts and I love your cloud heart, too. I ask my mom anyway, it actually used to be a joke (sort of) “What Would Charlotte Do” Funny thing is, at the end he KNEW what she would do, and so did/do I. Lucky for us to have loving memories of our moms-they really do help to sustain.
I agree that those loving memories mean so much to us. I love that you now have a little Charlotte to remind you of all your Mommy’s goodness! May we be the mommies that our children will look back on fondly as we do for our own Moms.
Yvonne, it amazes me to share that 20 years after the loss of my mother, there is still a neural pathway that regrets not being able to hand her a better life.
I’m sending heartfelt hugs to you. On some deep level I actually understand what you mean even though our circumstances may have been different. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
I remember going through the question thing after Mr. C passed away. I actually made myself take his contact card out of my phone since I kept reflexively opening it… to the point where I would call Mrs. C and have to cover up whyI had called.
I understand….big hugs to you ML! xo
Beautiful writing from a beautiful soul. She loved you so much hun! Sending you healing hugs!
Thank you Kimi! I appreciate you. xoxo
Yes, always in your heart Yvonne because that connection can never be broken. Both your love is a touch and harmony for the true depth in life, and that feeling of loss is just how much you appreciated your mom for exactly who she is…always ❤️
It does take time to come to terms with, not that it ever does, but an acceptance that she has touched her unconditional and is now sending it with great love to you ❤️
Big hugs my friend, much love to you also, to share with your mom. Let it give you strength, hope and faith that this journey does indeed give something never forgotten ❤️ 🙏🏼 🦋
What a beautiful response Mark and I thank you very much for your understanding. I love this line “Let it give you strength, hope and faith that this journey does indeed give something never forgotten.” That’s beautiful, just like your kind soul. ❤️ 🙏🏼 🦋
Thank you kind lady. And much love and light to you for this time ❤️ 🙏🏼 🦋
Deepest condolences. Her spirit will always be near you, giving courage and love.
Thank you so much! I do feel her around me. I appreciate your kindness. ❤️
So sorry to learn that your Mom passed away. May God give you the strength to bear this loss. When my husband died eight years ago, I thought maybe we will still be able to talk in dreams. Sadly that’s not there. He is there in my dreams, but always in the background, and we never talk.
I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. God bless. But I am glad you see him in your dreams. Perhaps it’s not a talk per se but telepathy maybe? Could you see if that would work? Just wondering…..Thank you for being so kind and sweet.