Drop Your Cosmic Vending Machine Belief

dropyourcosmicvendingmachinebelief

This is a hard post for me to write today, but I think it it’s an interesting concept.  I can’t seem to find the origin of the idea that there’s a cosmic vending machine in the Universe that when we do good deeds, act politely, do what others want us to, etc., we believe that our desires/wants will be granted once we’ve paid in full.  Or for that matter that there’s any definitive price of goodness or suffering that heralds the gift of winning the lottery, getting into the college of our choice, being healed, finding a soulmate, getting that promotion or even having another person respond to us the way we believe we deserve.

It’s a false belief that was ingrained in my head from childhood and I’ve perpetuated the belief for years until it became a part of me.  I can’t explain what’s shifted this thought for me, but I can share that what I feel now is empowering in the fact that I do not stand by the cosmic vending machine expecting anymore.

Yes, I still do good deeds.  Yes, I continue to strive to be the best person I can to everyone with whom I come into contact ~ be it family, friends or strangers.  Yes, I still look for good things to happen to me and I am grateful for each and every gift from God and the Universe.  That hasn’t changed.

But what has shifted is the mindset that because I do all of these things, strive to be authentic, loving, compassionate, caring and empathetic in connecting with my fellow man in life, I deserve the good things that happen in my life.  In addition, with this shift comes the letting go of the guilt baggage that I believed that I wasn’t enough when tough times entered my life.

How’s that for a huge shift in thinking?

It goes against the norm, I know.  Perhaps you will not agree with me either and that’s ok.  I’d love to hear from you either way as I am open to all ways of thinking about this topic.  Honestly, I love to expand my thinking so please, be kind, but be honest.  Do you look to the Universal vending machine when you think you deserve that special something?  Do you lament when you’ve been a very good person and yet tragedy and disappointment seem to conspire against you?

How do you feel about this topic?

I think from a young age, we are taught to be good, respectful and to follow the rules and to not hurt others.  We are rewarded by parental figures when we act in the social norms of society.  We may even be treated when we are exceptionally behaved or get good grades and such.  I think that perpetuates the vending machine belief.  I’m not saying that we do things for a reward.  No.  Most of us do them because it feels right and good to help others, to be respectful, to be kind and loving and it raises our heartlights when we connect with others in a good way.  Most of the time, we don’t expect the cosmic vending machine to treat us when we are simply doing what is expected.

But there are times in which, we’ve been trying to be good, do good and we feel as if nothing good comes from the experience.  Instead, we get tough times, tragedy, heartache, grief and loss and we throw up our hands in frustration.

“Why me?” seems to be the popular question when this happens.  Over and over some people will perseverate over the fact that they’ve been good and yet bad things are happening.  Woe is me thinking begins to take over or the extreme of “well, then I’m not trying anymore” and a give up attitude, “What’s the use?” begins to grow.  Resentment increases and do-gooding goes out the window.

But if we could release the belief of the cosmic vending machine waiting for our good tally to be paid up in order to be given whatever it is that we are thinking we deserve because of ‘x, y and z’ then life would be different.  We would feel more empowered and free to accept whatever life experiences come our way without shame, guilt or ego.  But we’ve all heard the ‘get what you deserve’ line and I feel like it’s debunking itself when we rid ourselves of that belief.

We would be empowered and that’s a very good feeling.

Shine On!

xo

P.S.  I am not talking about God or religion with the above post.  For me, that’s an entirely different post which we can chat about another day so please don’t beat me up. ♥

 

 

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14 thoughts on “Drop Your Cosmic Vending Machine Belief

  1. I couldn’t agree more that God is not a vending machine. I believe He’s a good and gracious God, but not a genie in a bottle. Grace isn’t earned, it’s a gift. I don’t think it hurts to ask God for things in a humble and hopeful manner. But God is love and only He is God. He’ll do as He pleases. His ways are not our ways.
    Thank you for an intriguing post.
    Blessings ~ Wendy

    • Wendy, thank you for sharing and taking the time to comment. Your presence here is appreciated. Grace is a gift, that’s for sure. I love connecting with you! Blessings to you! ♥

  2. The teachings of my childhood were based on a Christian culture and the idea of being rewarded in heaven for good deeds on earth. Being a good girl and being a good christian was about following the rules. The rewards comes form parents and God at the pearly gates when you die.
    Eastern philosophy is so different. It tells us not to be attached to the outcome but to be kind anyway. I like that. Its about being true to me and my own values in this world rather than following rules.
    When we awaken to spirituality we see that we are all connected. What we do for an other or to ourselves is all one. Being kind is therefore the only way to be in this world because we are all in it together in a shared consciousness and cosmos. Thank you for sharing your thoughts Yvonne. You are on to something here 💛

    • Val, I love your comment and especially ~ Being kind is therefore the only way to be in this world because we are all in it together in a shared consciousness and cosmos.~ I feel the same way having been raised in a religious household similar to your upbringing. I find as I’m growing older, that my views expand as my spiritual knowledge increases and I thoroughly enjoy learning, stretching and growing with each lesson, each conversation, each connection. I believe love is the key. ♥

    • David, I’ve got a goofy smile on my face from your comment. Thanks. I just didn’t want any religious zealots fussing at me. I meant no harm in my blog post. 🙂 Thanks my friend.

  3. I love those shifts of our thinking especially when we challenge our lifelong beliefs. Thank you for all the shifting you’ve done for me!

  4. I am not religious, but very spiritual. There is no one but me who keeps score on my good and bad. There is no punishment or reward. It is what is, or what I make it to be. I do mostly good because it makes me feel good. Making somebody feel good about themselves is the most deliscious reward.

    And as you have pointed out in previous posts: life is not fair.So when I got diagnosed with breast cancer I did not scream “whyyy me?”. It was rather: if not me, then who?

    Reward or punishment – heaven or hell – it’s all in your head and heart.

  5. If one believes that all good comes from doing good…then is it also the belief that all bad came from doing bad? Is this the other side of the same nickle or is this another penny altogether? In my younger years, I can remember thinking that because I was always there for everyone who needed me, they would be there for me if a time came that I needed them. A lesson learned early on in my life…that is not the case. In the same vein, were I to believe that life is a quid pro quo proposition, I would have to take ownership of every bad thing that’s happened to me as being a direct result of something bad I’ve done. I’m not willing to do that. So, in thinking about this, I would say I believe that each of us do and say as our hearts dictate…our innate goodness or lack thereof, if you will…without regard for reward or punishment. Seemingly random things, like sickness and death, are biologically driven occurrences which we may help or hinder depending on how we chose to live our lives, but as a general rule, certainly cannot be lain at our feet as our fault. This is a huge topic Yvonne and the comments so far touch on the innumerable ways one can view it. But, as you astutely recognize, shifting our perspective on how we acknowledge and record the debts and credits of our lives can vastly change how we see our bottom line. If our sum total is in the red, we are taking out more than we are putting in, and that is never a good thing. xxxxx

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