We write, speak and throw the word LOVE around often. You’ve heard the saying, love makes the world go ’round and you get what you give. But what isn’t love? Do you know?
Growing up, I knew I was loved for I heard the words many times. I have friends who didn’t hear those words from their parents’ mouths and yet, they still know that they are loved. But I believe there are all types of love in our world. There’s the burning passionate love and there’s the quiet acceptance of another person known as love. There’s the love of your child, the love of a friend and there’s the love of mankind. There’s loving a pet, loving what you do and loving life! Most importantly, there’s self-love. These are just a few examples of different types of love that are good.
But sometimes, what is perceived as love, is not, in fact, love because there are subtle differences. There are disguises in love that I’ve learned in my lifetime. Here are a few examples of What Love Is Not.
Love is NOT:
Repeating I love you constantly in order to hear it back,
Nor is it withholding the words I love you in order to hurt.
Expecting someone else to make you happy,
Nor is it being responsible to be another person’s everything.
Refusing to connect, share and speak in order to increase understanding,
Nor is it talking without listening.
Pointing fingers at mistakes,
Nor is it refusing to forgive when mistakes are made.
Nor is it pushing away.
Being in control of another person,
Nor is it being controlled by another person.
Shallow, superficial or pretentious,
Nor is it temperamental and able to be whisked away at the slightest provocation.
Suffering in silence,
Nor is it lashing out with undue violence.
Holding grudges, getting even,
Nor is it keeping track, tit for tat.
What Love IS:
Love is compassionate.
Love is kind.
Love takes time.
Love holds hearts, minds and bodies tenderly.
There are so many more examples of love, but I will leave you to add to the list in the comments section below. Loving another person is simple even when life is complicated at times. Recently I was told that I love with my whole heart and that’s my problem. Perhaps it is, but it’s the only way I know how and the love I feel for all of you has brought me much peace in my life. I want you to know that you are loved, every single one of you, for who you are.