“You gotta live and let live.” ~ My Granddaddy
My Mom told me this quote today that her Daddy used to say. He owned a general store in a small college town in South Carolina when she was growing up. Many times he came home with something other than money for the items he sold at the store. Her mama would get a few chickens instead of money to feed 9 children, but she always made due. She never argued with him because he lived by his philosophy above and she was able to get eggs and eventually a chicken dinner out of the payment rendered.
I think it’s a good reminder to us all. Not just in the bartering sense of business, but in life as well. We cannot control others with whom we have a relationship. When one person decides to change their way of life, we have to roll with what is happening. That’s not to say be a doormat or allow any abuse. But what it means is that you cannot hold someone else back from what they want in their lives.
And that is not easy to do sometimes. It is a progression. It is a moment by moment respectful decision to allow another person the freedom to live their own life as they choose for we cannot choose it for them. We need to concentrate on our own lives and live the best we can with what we have. Be truthful, be fair, be kind, be respectful but the ultimate decision is only for us to decide in our own lives and not in someone else’s life no matter the relationship.
Time and time again, I have had to learn this lesson of releasing and allowing even when I thought that the person was making a mistake. To be fair, I have had to love others from afar, be there for them when needed, but not interfere unless I thought it was a life threatening situation. We are all our own life keepers and we are responsible for our own decisions, actions and words. We are responsible for our own relationships as well. Yes, I am ‘my brother’s keeper’ but I am also my own life keeper.
As parents, we are responsible for our children. As time goes on, we may also become responsible for our parents which can be tricky. I’ve learned there’s never a good time for change and that life is all about changes, twists and turns in our journey towards death. We can only be the best person we can be at any given moment and hold fast to our own faith, hope, love and in turn, give out what we give ourselves. Nurturing myself and others with kindness and respect for their decisions is the only way I know how to survive and it is a daily choice for me to continue as I am.
I’m just me and it doesn’t serve me to lash out in anger and resentment for life choices that are not my own. So I continue treading on my peaceful path, knowing that this is a growth period for us all. That I must ‘live and let live’ so that I can find the love and happiness I deserve and allow others to do the same.
Perhaps you have had similar experiences in your life. Please share what has worked for you in case it is helpful to me or anyone else in this situation. We are all connected. We help each other grow and learn and see life as a journey filled with love and light. I send you blessings and love today and always.