“Being defeated is often temporary,
giving up makes it permanent.”
– Marilyn von Savant
I have had many challenges in my life as have we all. Few of us here on Earth have remained unscathed by disappointments and moments of feeling defeated in one way or another. So it comes as no surprise that we need to find a way through the sadness and often raw painful feelings of defeat. Sometimes, try as we might to not quit, situations are out of our control and we are powerless to stop the journey. It is then, at that precise moment, when we need to decide our fate. It is in our hands, this is our life and we ultimately remain in control. It remains our choice in how we deal with whatever ‘it’ is in our lives that is not working as we wish.
But to give up, to quit, to not work at what ‘it’ is to improve the situation, that makes it permanent. I am not a quitter. No matter what life has thrown at me, I have gotten up and gone on, many times taking baby steps in the process for I had no other way. But it is innate in me ~ to see the sunshine through the rain and to look for the rainbow through the clouds. I know not where my strength comes from, but it is within me ~ as real as my eyes are blue. I cannot be anyone but me and you cannot be anyone but you.
Sure we can change when ‘it’ arrives whether stealthily on little cat feet or as thunderously striking lightning. It is a choice to fall to pieces and pick them up or to remain broken permanently in defeat. What I have learned is this is YOUR LIFE to choose as you wish and you must continue to change and evolve as life goes on. We grow through our defeats, we gain perspective, strength and peace by enduring ‘it’ and I believe that is the journey of life.
Continuing on with peace, love and happiness in our hearts not only heals ourselves, but others as well. It does not serve us to remain angry and resentful when we endure ‘it’ and remain defeated. It locks up the heart and soul which simply want to shine. I know it is hard when we feel defeated. Many times, through breast cancer, through relationships and through disappointments and family troubles, I have know defeat. But I know that this too shall pass. Life will go on and I plan on being there every baby step of the way.
So if you are feeling defeated, take a moment to assess ‘it’ and find the gift in the defeat. Growth, strength and love come from ‘it’ and you will find that what you endure now will give you gifts you couldn’t possibly imagine in the future. Let’s connect, hearts and hands as we baby step on this path ~ hold each other up with respectful kindness and loving hearts.
Love is an ability that needs practice. Self-love is the key and you hold that special key right now. Isn’t it time to unlock your heart and soul and live again?
Shine On!
xo
This is beautifully written. “What you endure now will give you gifts you couldn’t possibly imagine in the future.” I love that, as well as what I have told myself many times: this too shall pass.
Jennifer xo
Jennifer, thank you. ‘It’ has been difficult but I do know that I continue to look in gratitude for the gifts received whilst enduring ‘it’ and I pray that others may find inspiration as well. Thanks for being here. xo
Yvonne, I have a couple of issues that have been with me for quite a while that “haven’t passed” as of yet, but I’m like you: forever optimistic that either they will resolve at some point or I will continue to learn to accept and live with. People like you give me the inspiration to keep going with hope. ❤
Jennifer, I humbly thank you for your kindness truly. I’ve learned to let go as well and ‘go with the flow’ when needed for the journey of life is simply that ~ a journey with twists and turns that encourage our growth, our expansion and our strength to shine and to continue to connect with ourselves and others. For that special gift, I can find gratitude in ‘it’ when needed. ♥ Sending you super special hugs today and always. Keep shining your loving light on us all.
Beautiful post, very helpful thoughts Yvonne. Thank you for sharing your light. xxoo
Merci Frederic! xoxo
Thank you for the reminder! Peace, love, bliss!
Thank you ~ the same for you Val! xo
Whoops, I meant Tammy xoxo
I love the quote you said – “it is innate in me ~ to see the sunshine through the rain and to look for the rainbow through the clouds”. As always, your words inspire me.
My heartfelt thanks for your kind comment ~ I am grateful that you find inspiration here. ♥
yes, this is a beautiful post Yvonne. Thank you for your inspiring words this morning. What a wonderful way to start my day!
Thank you Louise ~ you always shine on ~ I’m so very glad you are here with me. ♥
My dear friend…YOU ARE AMAZING!!! I love you , girl!! ❤
Love you too Lorrie…hope you are feeling better every day! xo
Love to you too dear Lorrie! Hope you are feeling better! ♥ Sending healing hugs!
Good quote. That’s a keeper.
Thanks Jaqui! I am glad you liked it too! ♥
My self-Love has told me to go to Singapore to seek joy and spend some time with my lovely big brother, and that is what I will do!! 🙂 May we all listen to our hearts and to what they tell us to do, our hearts are mostly right! 🙂 🙂 I am praying for you and sending you much much Love!! 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
Oh how wonderful Trini! May you have a happy, loving journey! You are always in my prayers dear angel and I send you lots of love as well! I feel your love to me too! ♥♥♥
Feeling defeated does not have to be permanent!
You are so right Lulu! ♥ It’s a choice to rise up again and again and we can do it together!
Very good post, Yvonne and full of wisdom. Thanks for sharing it! Hugs, N 🙂 ❤
Thank you for being here! I am very grateful that we’ve connected! ♥
omg – such wisdom and clarity! You are one amazing woman!
As are you dearest Bobbi! xoxo
This is a very interesting post. I read one a few minutes ago on the same lines. In case you are interested, here is the link. http://wholeyjeans.wordpress.com/2014/10/11/are-you-living-a-life-of-balance-or-control/ I’ve been defeated many times. It usually means I’ve hit a wall and it’s time to change directions. I think if I see this twice in one sitting, I need to look at something here a bit harder. Thanks.
Thank you for visiting, for sharing the blog post and for understanding. I love to learn about other blogs and read posts that others feel are important and you are so right! My heartfelt gratitude to you! ♥ May you continue to find peace, love and harmony in your life ~ in whatever direction life takes you!
Love this Yvonne we all have those days and its how we choose to see them through that counts a whole lot. Happy day to you. Kath.
Exactly right Kath ~ it’s a choice! I love seeing your sweet face here! xoxo
Well said Yvonne. And I love the saying………“Being defeated is often temporary,
giving up makes it permanent.” I will pass it on to others!
Thank you so much ~ I think we all need a bit of positivity in our lives and to remember that we can still get up when feeling defeated. ♥
Very true!
Beautiful ❤ Much love to you — ❤ !
Laurie
xoxo always to you dearest Laurie!
❤
Excellent post, Yvonne. I believe it addresses the challenges in any life. And all can take something positive from it.
I see these challenges or trials as a conflict in which we must battle. As in any battle there comes a time, as you indicate, when things may not be going well. That is the time to step away from the fray, assess the situation, and get a second wind. Then refreshed and with this new plan in hand, get back at it until resolved.
As for me, all being done knowing that someone greater than me or my trial is there to strengthen me.
-Alan
My heartfelt thanks to you Alan for being here and for your kind comment. I know you have been through a lot in your life as many of us have and it is so wonderful that throughout all of it, you still have your faith! ♥
Sometimes facing the challenges of a life threatening conditions, quitting isn’t an option. But, trying to cram so much into living can be overwhelming. But I keep exploring, learning, and moving. Thank you so much for serving as one of my inspirers.
As you inspire me as well Yvonne! I love that we have connected. We grow in peace and love when we share what we have endured. It helps others to see that there is a choice in how we live our lives. xo
“Self love is the key and you hold that special key right now” yes Yvonne thank you for your beautiful presence ! Connected in the heart Love Robyn
Oh yes Robyn, we are connected ♥♥♥