How To Change Your Fate


“We dream to give ourselves hope. To stop dreaming – well, that’s like saying you can never change your fate.” – Amy Tan

So what do you believe?  Honestly now.  Do you believe that you can change your fate or do you believe that it is written in stone somewhere?  I’d love to hear what you think because I find it interesting.  I don’t even plan on stopping dreaming.  Even in my darkest days battling breast cancer, or dare I say my loneliest nights when the negatives beckoned to me, I held on tightly to the smallest shred of light.  Sure, I spent time pondering if it was my fate to die by cancer, but then I stopped wondering and started being proactive and shredding those negative feelings.  Fate could have me believe that it could kill me, but I had other plans.  I’m not being controversial by saying that by my will alone I am still here without re-occurrence for I have witnessed too many friends succumb to disease who fought hard and long for a cure to the ills which wracked their human body and many times their spirits.

I am grateful for this life I lead.  I never take it for granted even when I am flying high from being pronounced NED (no evidence of disease).  Nope, not me.  I just continue on my path, trying to do my best each and everyday.  And when I fall down and bump my spirit, I find courage again through my support system of kind souls who remind me that I am able to continue to take baby steps.  I believe.  I have faith.  I have hope.

I am blessed with hands to hold and hearts which hold mine tenderly. 

For you, I offer my hands and heart when you need a friend.

Reach out ~ there’s always a lifeline.

Shine On!


38 thoughts on “How To Change Your Fate

  1. What a powerful post Yvonne! It has left me completely humbled by your courage and strength and your bravery. You truly are a woman to look up to! 🙂 You are magnificent! and I admire you so much! Lots of love to you my dear! 🙂

      • No, I have not received it yet. But when we asked the society office about the post they said there was no mail box to this flat, but that all mail was going to be kept by the security (in India we have to have security guards around the buildings) and the security guard said they would only keep the mail if they got the permission. We have given them the permission now, and my mother’s card from Norway which she sent around the same time as you just came so I am still hoping that your card will come. I will let you know right away when it comes!! 🙂

  2. You have the gift of offering so much inspiration. Would love the chance to talk and catch up. Hoping to be your way in October with Tom. XOXO

  3. Hmm. There’s lots of mystery. I am reconnecting more to my soul. So I have much hope for all of us. The more I explore the less i try to figure it all out and the more I trust my own experiences.

  4. I love this post Yvonne — and like you, I will always dream, always evolve, always do my best to contribute my best to the world so we can, together, make the world a better place. Hugs my friend.

  5. I’ve always believed that we come here with Plan A, B, and C and our choices lead us down one of those paths. We all begin and end the same way but it’s what we do in the middle that makes our life what it is. Each choice takes us somewhere, makes a difference. Some people see drugs, know that it’s a bad idea to take them…but they do it anyway…is that fate? I’m not sure. I don’t know how much control we have over our own lives. Our brains run the show…led around by the chemicals and hormones that keep us going. We think we are making decisions but our brains are actually deciding for us. It’s a fact that our brain chooses who we are attracted to, not us. Within a fraction of a second, get close enough, and our brain knows every single thing about the person and whether or not we will, or should be, with him/her. Read the Female Brain and you will view life differently. You don’t have to read The Male Brain…it’s really short and it’s all about aggression..seriously, I’m not kidding. 🙂 I do believe that we set up a game plan before we come here. I do believe that we come here to experience certain things. I think that when we die we look back on the life we just left and yell. OH YEAH, WHAT A BLAST, because I think that the strong feelings and emotions we feel when we are here are not available in other places. I believe that we set up red flags for ourselves, so that we don’t miss certain things while we are here and I also believe we come back with the same people, in different roles, over and over again. I think we like not knowing what’s coming next. I think pain and suffering are simply experiences we want to have. I hate those experiences with a raging passion, but I think they look different from the other side. Going through the things, in real life, are a lot different than thinking you want to do those things, before you get here. My son and my husband died of leukemia…was that fate? Was that the exit they set up before they came here? I don’t know. All three of my nephews died from drugs. Fate? Choices? Pre planned exit? My 14 year old cousin died of a rare cancer. Fate? I could go on and on but I have come to believe that we made these choices and I firmly believe, with all my heart, that no one dies before they are supposed to die. No one. People are saved ( I have been 5 times) by unknown forces time and time again…because it’s not their time to leave. I think this is all a big game board and we are just going from one square to another until we decide to stop playing. That’s what works for me. It feels right and I’m at peace with it.

  6. I do believe we all can approach our dreams but everything is up to us. We create our path, we lived the way we want it. I will keep dreaming there is no age for that. KEEP THE DREAM ALIVE!

  7. Love your thoughts. As for fate, I’m not sure what I think about that. All I know is that if you let Light shine in, life affords many wonderful things. I want to be open to all of them.

  8. Once again, a timely piece… as though you were reading my mind and needed a reminder. Today’s piece pointed my brain to 1 Corinthians 13:13. “But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.” While I’m a pretty good job with the third (outside of myself), I need to remember to bring along the other two.

  9. I believe that the power of positive thinking is so great, it is a true life-changer. Trust me, I’ve experienced both on my own skin. Btw., I would like to invite you to my blog to read my post “Only sixteen” You will know why. 🙂

  10. I think it’s a little of both.
    The thing that sticks a lot in my head though was what a nun used to quote to us back in middle school. – “Life is what you make it.” Pretty much true – except for when it comes to the things we can’t control. Then again – our perception & attitudes play a big role in all o’ that too.

  11. Yes, I believe that although random stuff happens, how one chooses to look at it makes a tremendous amount of difference. I’ve decided not to look at any aspect of my life as a fight, battle, etc., so as to avoid the drama and negative energy. After all, war is hugely scary and people get killed; so battle metaphors create fear. As for health issues in particular, I find it helpful to consider them simply as maintenance (the body is a machine that sometimes needs repairs) or gardening (such as pulling weeds and spraying insects).

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