“It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.”
― Rose Kennedy
How’s this for a quote? I liked it at first I must admit. But then, as I allowed the words to sink in and thought of my own wounds from living more than 40 years, enduring breast cancer and losing loved ones, I felt like it was a bit controversial too. Perhaps I am being over-sensitive today.
What do you think?
Does it depend on the wounds ~ the type, the severity, the age? Or is it an all-encompassing a wound, is a wound, is a wound? Or does it depend upon the person who is wounded?
I have wounds, scars which train track across my body. Scars from breast cancer surgeries, from pregnancy, from life. The physical ones that you can see if I were to show you. I have pains from those scars and surgeries that never quite go away. A dull throb that even though I am aware of every minute of everyday, I have gotten used to ~ the pains have lessened but have never gone away.
I have mental and emotional scars as well. I think we all do. I’ve found that in forgiving, I am given peace in my life, in my spirit, in myself. That was a gift to me.
It’s kind of like the sadness which can permeate life. I’m sad for all that I have lost, but again, the pain has lessened, but it has never gone away. I do my best to keep it in check and I believe I overcome it most days. Gratitude for the blessings in life helps immensely. Accepting and transitioning to the new normal after a tragedy helps this process as well.
But it’s never fully gone. It can be a gentle reminder or it can be a gaping hole in your life. You choose how you deal with your own wounds. It’s one of the perks of being you. You can allow the wound to fester, to infect and to override any happiness in your life. Or you can allow it to settle into your being, a gentle or not so gentle reminder of what you’ve endured, the power that you have within you, that inner strength that has led you to continue on living this life.
We all have challenges. We all carry wounds. We can allow those wounds to barricade ourselves into a caged life of loneliness, fear and sadness or we can reach out beyond our wounds to connect with others, to understand that simple connection of life and to grow with it, to turn the wound into a positive, into a way of digging deeper in to our soul’s purpose and to align ourselves with love.
It’s up to you.
You are not your wounds. YOU are deeper than the wounds you’ve suffered.
YOU are LOVE.
Shine On!
xo
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Great post, as always. I had to read that quote a few times and let it sink in, too. I think you got it right with your last words—-You are deeper than the wounds you’ve suffered. Unfortunately not every one seems to be able to get to that point.
I think it’s challenging to us all, but it depends on if you are able to flow with it. It’s not easy at all. I just think that we have to keep taking baby steps. ♥
Baby steps are a very good way to travel these types of roads.
I HEARTily agree! ♥
I think the quote is very true. I don’t believe wounds of any sort every completely heal, but they do make us who we are and that can be truly valuable.
Amen. I agree. xoxo
Life itself changes us mentally and physically. We are always “becoming,” and what we are becoming is made up of our experiences. We incorporate everything into who we are. People deal with things differently but we can’t forget or erase anything that we experience. Joy, delight, happiness, sorrow, trauma, etc., it’s all part of us, in one way or another. And that’s okay, that’s what life is…the accumulation of experiences. Things may fade with the years but nothing goes away. When we experience something, it changes us and that change becomes part of us and it stays with us forever because it is part of who we have become. At least that’s what I think.
I love the way you think ~ and I appreciate your amazing comment. Beautifully said. xo
Some wounds DO heal, but the wounded has to be ready to let them go.
Very true my friend. ♥
Very meaningful and true…thanks for sharing! Have a wonderfully blessed weekend!
Thank you Wendell! You too! ♥
In a medical sense when we heal from something “it goes away.” When I cut my finger, it hurts, it heals, and I pretty much forget about the pain. When we suffer a permanent loss (Death)— I don’t think we ever heal in the traditional sense, but in time we accept that our very being has shifted and life is very different for us. In time, we realize (with grace) that we can include the wound as a part of who we are and still move forward in our lives. Time (I think) helps us moving forward and accept the challenge of a life that now includes unbearable grief and happiness.
Thought provoking post 😀
I agree that with your comment. The healing is different for each person and situation. I simply concentrate on healing. Thank you for visiting and commenting! You are always welcome here! ♥
Does time heal all wounds….? I am not sure, I don’t quite think so, I mean what is time, time is an illusion right? All there is is just change, that is what we define as time. And change will always be there, at least in this life, so how do we change? Are we simply passive passengers letting change happen to us, or do we actively take part in the journey, adjusting our sails to the changing winds to reach our destination? What I mean to say is, healing is a process of change, going from worse to better, I think for this process to be complete, we have to take an active part in it, not just wait for it to happen to us. But those are just my thoughts. 🙂
I agree with your thoughts Line and I love how you put them ~ beautifully explained my friend. We are all in charge of our lives and how they change. We ‘steer’ the sails so to speak, even when the wind changes our course. ♥
I agree, time heals but it will never go away completely. We have our wounds and they count towards our experience of life, we might therefore see our life differently, change our ways, but we will never forget them totally. Have a beautiful day!
I HEARTily agree with you Ute, beautifully said. ♥
I too agree that time heals but the wounds never go away. I think that it does make you stronger!
I believe you are right Kathy. What’s that saying, what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger? ♥
Think that is how it goes. We should be super strong then 🙂
Thank you for another wonderful post, Misifusa. To me, your last paragraph is especially profound.
Russ
Thank you Russ, I appreciate your visit and your kindness. ♥
“…You choose how you deal with your own wounds. It’s one of the perks of being you..” succinctly summarizes the tight rope walk I feel like I’m doing most days. As always, your insights are spot on.
Sending you a hug and a net as you walk that tight rope. I’m always here for you xo
Wow. Always inspiring. Truly. My wounds.. I have a tenderness.. in these places.. that I am thankful for somehow.. even though it is really painful at times.. But I really like where I am, having connected with my Self..so I wouldn’t trade it all in to remove the scars.
Much love.
Tenderness, what a perfect word. You have such a gift Laurie. xo
This is where my compassion comes from too. ❤
And we are all grateful for your compassion. xo
I think that wounds fade with time but are never totally gone… The brain has a way of protecting us with time but never eradicate.. My mum used to say that the things that hurt you are what makes you as a person…
I agree with you and your Mum. ♥
For me, every wound was a lesson that I had to learn to get to where I am now…great post as usual!
Thank you ~ I agree with you ~ I’ve had many lessons. ♥
This little post popped up under the one I wrote today..and I thought of you…
There are places that are tender
because my heart has been broken
and places I wouldn’t otherwise
have known –
because it has been
put back together.
_/\_
I still have tender places…Maybe that’s okay…
Maybe that’s okay 🙂
Much love..and happy birthday to hubby too.
Love,
Laurie
Much love to you Laurie…thank you for all you write and all you inspire in us. You are amazing.xoxo
Time itself doesn’t provide healing, but it provides distance, both emotional and psyhological. If we keep rubbing our wounds, no time would heal anything, but if we accept layers of time and let them cover the wounds like a bandage, than yes. But! Before the bandage goes on, the wound must be washed and cleared…We have to bring everything causing the wound to the surface and forgive others and ourselves. No covering will heal dirty wound.
You are so right ~ beautifully said. Thank you for your wisdom and for helping to heal. xo
Thank you for calling me wise… It means a lot.