I See You

I See You

Did you ever see the 2009 movie Avatar?  Do you remember when Jake Sully and Neytiri both say, “I see you,” to each other?  It’s a poignant moment and it’s one that has stayed with me even years later.  Last night in my dream, I said it to a friend of mine who is battling stage 4 mouth cancer.  I’ve heard that he’s having a dark time of it and having a hard time finding hope in his life.  In my dream, I didn’t know what else to tell him so I simply reminded him that ‘I see you.’

For you see, I understand a bit how he feels.  His face has been disfigured ~ his smile is a bit lopsided now since the cancer was removed ~ in pictures that I’ve seen of him, the smile is in his eyes, but his mouth and facial expressions just don’t quite coincide with what if you knew him, you can tell what he’s trying to do.  It makes me sad.

He lives faraway from me so we haven’t talked because he’s isolated himself.  But I send him cards every once in awhile.  Just a little bright and cheery card so that he knows someone is thinking of him.  We’ve known each other for over 30 years although we haven’t talked in about 5 years.  I keep in touch with how he’s doing through his mom who is a dear friend of mine.

I see you ~ what a memorable statement to make to someone.  Have you ever really thought about it?  Have you ever really ‘seen’ another person?  You know, that deep down soul to soul contact which scatters the frivolity of the outside of another person and concentrates on the goodness and who that person truly is at their core?  It’s that knowing of their soul deep down.  It’s the “I remember who you really are no matter how you are acting now and what is going on with you.”  It’s seeing that beauty in another person even when their outside has changed or isn’t recognizable.

Imagine saying it yourself ~ I see you ~ a gentle reminder to your soul.

I see you.

It’s what I want to tell him.  I get it.  Our outsides are now disfigured and we don’t look the way we used to look.  Our bodies have changed dramatically and we’ve battled cancer mind, body and soul.  I’ve had self-esteem issues myself and I hate what the cancer and surgeries have done to my body.  It’s embarrassing to look at and hard to accept the new normal of my figure, my body and my femininity.  It’s difficult to accept the new normal and the reality of the situation.  For me, I thought it would get better as time went on, but there are times where I must go back to square one and climb out of the self-pity hole again in order to continue on this journey of endurance.

I see you.

Perhaps there is someone in your life who needs to hear you say this to them?  You can give that special gift of acceptance, love and understanding to someone today.  Think about it ~ I know I had to write this post today and share this story with you.  Was this a nudge for you too?

Imagine saying it yourself ~ I see you ~ a gentle reminder to your soul.

Imagine if we could all say, ” I see you,” to each other!

What a peaceful place we would inhabit!

Shine On!

xo