Today’s Daily Prompt asks ‘when you’re unwell, do you allow others to take care of you, or do you prefer to soldier on alone? What does it take for you to ask for help?’ which I found to be an interesting subject so I thought I’d use it for my post today.
I’ve been unwell ~ breast cancer ~ diagnosed at the end of 2001 which means I’ve been dealing with the fallout of the disease for almost 12 years. Certainly it doesn’t seem that long, but at times, it feels like forever. I’ve been unwell to all different degrees with the pink beast ~ my body has endured more than her share of surgeries, with one still on the horizon and more medicines have been pumped into her with all different side effects as a result. Believe me, I’ve had my share. There have been days where I couldn’t get out of bed due to intense pains, but I soldiered on with help so that I could be a part of my family for a little while each day. I’ve tried to be an inspiration to my family and others, although I’m not afraid of asking for help when needed. Being a Mom/Wife with an active family but being under the weather, I needed and accepted all of the help that was given so kindly to me.
But today as it so happens that I”m battling a cold/allergies ~ not quite sure which, but it’s something I’ve been battling now since Friday and not getting any better. My boys are older now so they can help around the house which is great news for me. Will I ask for help from others outside our immediate family? No. But will I accept help? Yes. In fact, during the torrential storms of yesterday, my neighbor stopped by and asked if I needed anything as she was going to the store. I took the opportunity to ask for a gallon of milk which she bought for me and delivered so kindly during a crazy storm which flooded our neighborhood. I am blessed.
Do you accept help or do you soldier on? I find that people often want to help, but don’t know how or what to offer. For me, it was easy ~ feed me and my family! So the next time you hear of a friend who needs a helping hand, take that special opportunity to connect with them ~ offer to make dinner or go to the grocery store. Perhaps you take her/him out to lunch or drive them somewhere ~ even helping with rides for the children helps when you’re battling an illness.
It’s when we send out love that we receive even more than we send out! Take a moment today to see who you can help ~ you can make a difference for even the smallest of kindnesses sometimes mean the most!
Shine On!
xo
When I thought of SOS, I thought of this song…perhaps you’re in the mood for a little Abba?
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Daily Prompt: Take Care
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When you’re unwell, do you allow others to take care of you, or do you prefer to soldier on alone? What does it take for you to ask for help?
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Yes, being able to ask for and receive help is so important. My thoughts are with you. You are an amazing person who inspires so many.
Thank you Kristin ~ I feel the same about you. I think we all just do what we can with what we have. ♥
I had to learn how to do this. It’s a good skill.
Sending some healing thoughts –
Be well,
Much love-
Laurie
Thanks Laurie, getting better everyday! ♥
Learning how to ask for help is an art…and it requires you to see your self not as “helpless” or needy, but as someone who knows what they need. Not easy for me….
Not easy for most of us, but it’s in stretching out of our comfort zones that we grow! ♥
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I agree with “The Savvy Sister”. It’s something I am overcoming though. Thanks so much for this post 🙂
Thank you for stopping by to visit and comment! ♥ I’m off to visit your blog as well!
Call it pride. Call it stupidity. I have never been good at letting people help me and sometimes I have resented them for it, make sense?
Yes, it makes perfect sense Diana ~ I think we all have those moments. xo
Hope that you feel better soon. Asking for help is hard and try to soldier on most of the time without it but there are times that I ask for help.
I think that asking for help is good to do. I am feeling better day by day…thank you xo Hope you are doing well too!
Glad to hear your doing better. Doing good here ♥
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I understand Diana’s point! I’ve done the same thing…..it might be that in having to ask for help you have to allow yourself to be vulnerable and you’re taking a chance that they might not ” show up” for you in the way you were expecting. If we don’t ask then we never risk being rejected. I also think that when you project that you are a “do-er”, people tend to believe that you’re capable of juggling it all. The truth is, everyone needs a hand now & then. And people will disappoint you…..but they will also surprise you with the ability to be there in a moment’s notice willing to lend a hand. It’s one of our greatest attributes as humans, the willingness to help someone in need…..we just have to ask. Thanks for the great reminder today….xo!
It is a blessing for me to know you and your helping hands when needed. Thanks for being you! ♥
Thank you for sharing so much about yourself and what you have survived, Misifusa. I believe your posts help others who face their own life challenges to keep going and not give up hope.
Russ
Thanks Russ for your kind words ~ It’s what I try to do. ♥♥♥
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There so much giving in asking for help. Thanks for the reminder. (And a trip down memory lane with the Abba SOS!)
Thanks Vicki ~ you always add a bit of sunshine to my days! ♥
Like you, I tend to “allow” but not “ask”, but I am getting better. Luckily, so many people were proactive during my chemotherapy, and we were fed regularly by family members. Before I had my surgery and treatments, my friends took me on a shopping trip where they had me pick out pj’s and scarves and shirts that buttoned down the front… it was REALLY hard to shop with them knowing that they were insisting on paying for everything. But I did it. It was as much for them as for me. People don’t like feeling helpless and this gives them some sense of helping you through it. So while my inclination is to soldier through, I have learned not to.
And what a great lesson it is for us all, don’t you think? So happy we’ve connected! ♥
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